I know it's not MIL monday but...

poobear2015

I need to vent - and I haven't done one in a looooong time.

I told FIL that we are going for a fundraiser santa breakfast and I guess he told MIL after I left. I just got off the phone with her and she asked if they could come. I can't say yes because DH may have wanted it to just be "our" family (and quite frankly - I kinda wanted that too. It's a quick breakfast for goodness sakes! You actually have an allotted time frame - like we come at 10:30 for a photo and stay for breakfast right after - it's not like it's a big event. It's just "during breakfast hours").

Well - I tell her this and she starts rambling "well - WE'RE family" and "We HAVE to be there!"

Um - no you don't and yes, you're family, but you know what I meant!

I think what I'm most mad about is that she put me in that position where I would have to say yes. It's a bunch of bull. Thankfully I could use DH as an excuse (a real one at least) and I'm gonna persuade him for it to be us. I have a feeling I'll lose out though.

Ok - rant over - just had to release some steam. And since you read through my rant, you get a T-GIF!

 

Jen0204

That's the one bad thing about family being so close by - I feel like we need to include everyone in everything.  My mom watches the girls on Mondays and Fridays and their birthday is on a Friday.  H and I already made plans with our jobs to take that day off and are planning on taking them to the aquarium.  I'm sure my mom will want to come, and she'll tell my sister, and then she and my nephew will want to come, and then my ILs will get annoyed that they weren't invited...

When you talk to your H, can you suggest a compromise?  Maybe if you sell it as "I want this breakfast to be just us, but how about the following weekend we go to the mall and your parents can come and we'll do pictures with Santa?" he'll back you up.  Good luck!

lancyjo

That sucks out of your MIL. Personally, I would have just been blunt and said, "I'm sorry, but we want to do this just the three of us." (but I win the award for the most BSC inlaws ever, so I don't have a hard time being blunt)

I feel like I might need an "IL Friday" next week after Thanksgiving.

pinkshades05

Aww, I kind of feel bad for them. It's so easy for our parents to be a part of our LO's life, but IL's just feel awkward.

Except Lancy's. They're just insane. Can't wait to hear how they react!

ETA: Not saying you are in the wrong, OP! I would be ticked, too!

jju_stb_jju

I would be ticked too! Which is why if theres something I want to do just the three of us, I don't tell anyone! Keeps feelings from being hurt cause nobody feels left out since they didn't know before hand and if they get upset after, well that's too bad! Tell it like it is op, tell your dh you want just the three of you there!

lancyjo

pinkshades05:

Aww, I kind of feel bad for them. It's so easy for our parents to be a part of our LO's life, but IL's just feel awkward.

Except Lancy's. They're just insane. Can't wait to hear how they react!

ETA: Not saying you are in the wrong, OP! I would be ticked, too!

I'm so glad you guys see it too. There's such an overwhelming amount of crazy going around where they're concerned that sometimes I wonder if it's me... I bet I'll have loads of entertaining stories after the holidays.

ETA: You all do help me cope with the craziness though. When something happens that makes me want to scream, I think about the reactions I'll get when I tell you all about it. It makes me smile. This will be the first time we've been in close quarters for an extended time in 9 months... ::shudders::

poobear2015

lancyjo:

I feel like I might need an "IL Friday" next week after Thanksgiving.

I agree - IL Friday will have to happen next week!

Pinkshades - I do kinda feel bad - especially since she was on the phone with me and I felt like she needed me to say yes instantly. Thing is - we live 5 min away from them. Hayley spends at least 3 days a week with them while I work. They get to do a LOT with her. I kinda like to do things without them on occasion. (This also stems from before Hayley was even born. DH is their baby and we do a LOT with them!) I think I'm just more mad at the way she called and sort of insisted I say yes because they "HAVE to be there". This woman wanted to go to OB appts with me. Sorry MIL - but even my own mom isn't allowed to be there while I have people in my hoopla!

pinkshades05

poobear2015:

lancyjo:

I feel like I might need an "IL Friday" next week after Thanksgiving.

I agree - IL Friday will have to happen next week!

Pinkshades - I do kinda feel bad - especially since she was on the phone with me and I felt like she needed me to say yes instantly. Thing is - we live 5 min away from them. Hayley spends at least 3 days a week with them while I work. They get to do a LOT with her. I kinda like to do things without them on occasion. (This also stems from before Hayley was even born. DH is their baby and we do a LOT with them!) I think I'm just more mad at the way she called and sort of insisted I say yes because they "HAVE to be there". This woman wanted to go to OB appts with me. Sorry MIL - but even my own mom isn't allowed to be there while I have people in my hoopla!

Completely understandable! You deserve family time, too. And I agree: IL Friday will have to happen! I might not have rants, but definitely funny stories to share!