NMR... Getting Snipped

srbmvp

So DH has FINALLY made an appointment for a vasectomy, and he is petrified. Anyone who's DH has had it done, what can I offer him for encouragment, etc?

So far, my "well I squeezed three small children out of my hoohah, you can do this one little thing" isn't really helping him feel better

marisuz28

srbmvp:

So DH has FINALLY made an appointment for a vasectomy, and he is petrified. Anyone who's DH has had it done, what can I offer him for encouragment, etc?

So far, my "well I squeezed three small children out of my hoohah, you can do this one little thing" isn't really helping him feel better

LMAO!  No advice, but good luck to your DH.  Mine is getting snipped in 4 years when my Mirena needs to be replaced.

kgs0505

Sorry, I can't offer any consolation to your DH, as mine is scared too.  I've already told him there is no way I am getting my tubes tied, even if I have a c-section.  I've been through enough with all the IF stuff, he can just go get himself snipped instead.  My mom had issues after having her tubes tied.  I'm not going to go thru that too.

My BIL had it done after three kids, he seems fine  

Rynleigh

No help here lol just wanted to offer him moral support and some "U Kan Doo EET!!"s 

I went over sterilization with my peri last week, because I can't ever risk another pregnancy for any reason - so I'm the one opting for the snip. She said that if we have to do a cesarean that she'll do the ligation while I'm there, but if we go normal delivery and I don't have to be cut open, then I'll just go back in a few weeks later and have them go through the cervix and implant a spring in the tube to create scar tissue - it's supposed to be highly effective (though not as instantaneous as a ligation) and have practically no recovery time yay  

leviandlandensmom

It really isn't that bad, just make sure he ices his balls

 Oh and definitely make sure he takes a sample in so you know it actually worked!

Breezy8407

We are headed in that direction (just need to get H to the doctor for once). I will say from others that I know that have had it that it's not that bad. Lots of ice and some athletic compression shorts will help. (think Nike Pro line)

srbmvp

Thanks ladies! Yeah, after two high risk pregnancies and 3 deliveries, I don't have a whole lot of sympathy for my poor husband, heehee. But I do want to make this as easy on him as possible....

DoublePortion

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Sorry, I had to butt in! MH hasn't had a vasectomy but I use to work for a urologist & they did them all the time. Every man who came in for one was clearly nervous...if not petrified. Then when they came out they said it wasn't as bad as they thought it would be. The way the drs I worked for did it was just little punctures (instead of cuts) and the men were given numbing med beforehand so they didn't feel pain anyway. Don't tell YH this but one of the drs would have the nurse time him so he could see if he could beat his time record. He had it down to under 5 min all said and done. lol But really, it's not bad it's just the mental aspect of their "manhood" being messed with. Like PP said, ice packs and taking it easy for a few days and he'll be perfectly fine.

srbmvp

DoublePortion:

***lurker***

Sorry, I had to butt in! MH hasn't had a vasectomy but I use to work for a urologist & they did them all the time. Every man who came in for one was clearly nervous...if not petrified. Then when they came out they said it wasn't as bad as they thought it would be. The way the drs I worked for did it was just little punctures (instead of cuts) and the men were given numbing med beforehand so they didn't feel pain anyway. Don't tell YH this but one of the drs would have the nurse time him so he could see if he could beat his time record. He had it down to under 5 min all said and done. lol But really, it's not bad it's just the mental aspect of their "manhood" being messed with. Like PP said, ice packs and taking it easy for a few days and he'll be perfectly fine.

I love it! Hahaha

tiffanymuegge

Rynleigh:

No help here lol just wanted to offer him moral support and some "U Kan Doo EET!!"s 

I went over sterilization with my peri last week, because I can't ever risk another pregnancy for any reason - so I'm the one opting for the snip. She said that if we have to do a cesarean that she'll do the ligation while I'm there, but if we go normal delivery and I don't have to be cut open, then I'll just go back in a few weeks later and have them go through the cervix and implant a spring in the tube to create scar tissue - it's supposed to be highly effective (though not as instantaneous as a ligation) and have practically no recovery time yay  

Just an FYI to throw out there....my close friend just had her 4th child - who got pregnant nearly 9 months AFTER the springs were inserted in her tubes.  They are supposed to be one of the most effective forms of birth control.  I the failure rate is only something like 0.2% so it should be 99.8% effective - yup, she would be the one in 1,000 or 10,000 - someone can do the math for me - my brain is fried after a long week at work!  She was SHOCKED to find out to say the least!!!  But everyone adjusted just fine.  She just went a couple of weeks ago and had a tubal and then had the springs removed....

Rynleigh

tiffanymuegge:

Just an FYI to throw out there....my close friend just had her 4th child - who got pregnant nearly 9 months AFTER the springs were inserted in her tubes.  They are supposed to be one of the most effective forms of birth control.  I the failure rate is only something like 0.2% so it should be 99.8% effective - yup, she would be the one in 1,000 or 10,000 - someone can do the math for me - my brain is fried after a long week at work!  She was SHOCKED to find out to say the least!!!  But everyone adjusted just fine.  She just went a couple of weeks ago and had a tubal and then had the springs removed....

Thanks for the info. Do you know whether she had her 3 month post-procedure dye test to confirm complete blockage had occurred? I've only got the one tube to worry about, so I have a little less to worry about there.  

tiffanymuegge

To be honest, I'm not sure.  I don't think ever asked her...but when I started thinking about it, it wasn't 9 months...it was over a year.  Her 3rd was born in July 2010 and she got them put in very soon after that, and she got pregnant in December of 2011 so it was actually well over a year...but, again, I don't now if she got the dye test.  I'm sure you have absolutely nothing to worry about, it was just one of those things...but it was CRAZY to say the least.  She was feeling sick and we asked her if she could be preggo - and she said no way, that the effective rate was 99.8% and there was NO WAY she would be pregnant...it was an adjustment to say the least, but I think they are all doing great now...but this time, she's not taking any chances, she went ahead with the tubal!

MrsC8776

My husband has had one and I guess he was up walking around in no time. My husband has also had a TESE while awake and says that he would do a vasectomy a million times over rather than do that again. If you have any questions let me know and I'll ask him. 

srbmvp

MrsC8776:

My husband has had one and I guess he was up walking around in no time. My husband has also had a TESE while awake and says that he would do a vasectomy a million times over rather than do that again. If you have any questions let me know and I'll ask him. 

Thank you!