Vent

kristin172429

Seriously.  I try not to vent about DH too much on here, but I am just about ready to lecture him, so I need to get this out because I am getting more frustrated by the second.

He is watching Ben right now so I can work.  Ben is crying.  He's been sick.  He's probably tired and probably be ready for bed.  He is sitting there on the couch with Ben in his lap.  

He is not rocking him.  

He is not singing to him.  

He is not talking to him.  

He is not getting up and walking him around.  

He has not gotten him a bottle.  

He hasn't tried changing his diaper.

He hasn't put him in pajamas. 

I think he has a pacifier.  

None of these things.  He is sitting there and letting him cry.  

Our house is not big.  Do you think I can actually work while this is happening????  I really want to just tell him what the heck to do because I find it kind of ridiculous.  I am trying my best to let him figure out how to handle these kinds of situations, but I just disagree so much with this particular method.  I just want him to DO something.  Ugh.  

He thinks he is helping me right now.  I might as well go and get Ben, get him to sleep and then try and work because I can't focus at all right now.  Grrrr....

 

Lena122

I could have written this myself this morning! I stayed home from work today because I'm sick. DH was home today but I told him I wanted to take the baby to daycare for a few hours so I could sleep. He assured me he'd be fine taking care of him while I slept.

Well our house is also small but DH did nothing to keep the baby quiet so that I could actually sleep. He let him whine and get frustrated and scream and didn't do anything to entertain him or even try to put him in a better mood. Then he thought that putting him down for his nap and letting him cry himself to sleep for 20 minutes was a good idea when his sick wife is trying to sleep.

Arrrggh! Sorry to hijack your post. It can be very difficult to let the man take the reigns when it's such an inconvenience to us.... and the babies!

pennyandandy

This so sounds like dh sometimes. It's like he blanks sometimes. Take a deep breath, and go suggest that he put Ben to bed, or at least head that way.

frasey

sooooo frustrating!! DH does this sometimes. Or just does things so slooooowly and it drives me insane. Totally hear ya!

Jen0204

H did that a lot in the first few months and it made me so mad. He would just sit there and hold them, and sometimes pat their backs. It drove me nuts and I yelled at him quite a few times. I just don't get why they would want to sit there with a crying baby when it's relatively easy to make them stop crying.

MeganSony

Men really pack common sense and instincts when it comes to babies. At least almost all of them. I would be so annoyed as well.

cbaglini

Frasey!!!! I LOVE your picture. I have a bunch (one just like that) of Christmas type photo ideas saved on Pinterest. Your picture makes me so excited to take mine. 

megahof

Ugh, that is so frustrating. I've lost count of the number of times Hubster has done exactly this. I don't get it - if the baby is crying, why wouldn't you do a damn thing to make him stop? I understand sitting with a crying baby, but only after you've exhausted the other possibilities.

I totally felt like slapping Hubster after reading this... 

Amberrrr

Ugh... Yes I know how you feel. When DH is watching LO for me so I can get my homework done, he let's LO climb all over the table I am trying to work on. And he's usually just watching tv when he should be playing with LO. He'll just plop him in his play center. It's almost more frustrating having him hone because I expect him to do more sometimes, and I just feel more overwhelmed with him there.
Sometimes he's really good about it... But not most times.
I don't get men. At all.