temper tantrums.

Amberrrr

Don't take something away unless you are sure it is worth a fight.

when you can, teach her to handle something gently instead of not handling it all.

Try offering analternate toy, but don't grab the first object from her. Give her the opportunity tooffer it up herself. If it is amatter of control, she'll appreciate that chance.

You can say, "Honey, I need that. Can you make a trade with mommy? Hold out something interesting to replace it with, and hold your other hand out to her in a"hand it here" kind of gesture.

It might not work but it is worth a try.

Once you do take something, stick to your guns and don't give it back to stop the crying. This will teach her to tantrum! Ack! And if it was something dangerous, then you really need to protect her anyway.

Take the opportunity to empathize with her feelings out loud. "Oh Ihear that you are so angry! I know it must be so frustring when mommy does that. Iwish things could be easier for you."

This will help her because when she is verbal,she will have these phrases at her disposal, and you can direct her to use words to express her feelings in place of tantruming.

Here is a post I found useful. Lately, the fits have been getting sooo frequent. He wants to climb the dresser tantrum. He wants to eat my shoes tantrum. He wants to climb the coffee table and eat my homework tantrum. Sorry for any spelling errors, smimes copy and paste doesn't work to good on mobile.
Anyhow, this is the link. Google is great sometimes . There were some other useful posts as well.

https://www.mothering.com/community/t/58930/8montholdthrowingtempertantrums
No clicky.. sad face.

Jen0204

https://www.mothering.com/community/t/58930/8-month-old-throwing-temper-tantrums

naturegal79

Yes, Reece had his first bout the other day when I let him play with my cell phone, exploring it and analyzing it  until he stuck it in his mouth. He FAAAAREAAAAKED!!!! He looked so pathetic but it was cute as hell.

 I am sure it wasn't good or if I made the mistake of doing this, but I gave it back to him and said "we look, not chew" I let him look at it again and after a few seconds, it went back to the mouth. I did this about 5 times and then he lost interest.  Who knows if that's a good idea or not to do that.. but it seems like it would teach him the difference of looking opposed to chewing. I did it with a book this morning too... same process.

poobear2015

This is so helpful - thanks! I can't stand when kids are screaming in grocery stores and I vowed to never be that poor parent....Hayley was so PO'd when I took my coupon file off her (it was filled with slobber) that she threw back her head and screeched like a banshee. I walked away with my head down in embarrassed shame...

Amberrrr

These kids are definitely starting to voice their opinions. Thankfully we have some time to prepare for when they're three years old and going, 'NO, I DON'T WANT TO, WAHHHHHHH'... Lol!

Here's an example of something I've just caved in to:

I'm still giving baths in the infant tub in the sink. Our shower has doors and it's a huge PITA to give baths with those doors and bars in the way. He's always trying to grab on the faucet. For about a week I was going 'no honey, don't play with the faucet it's not a toy' etc. I just gave in and let him have it. It's not worth the battle to me. And what harm is it going to do.

I wonder if after a while playing with the things we don't want them to (safe things!)  will make it lose the novelty. It seems like it's so much better for the LOs to get into things they know we don't want them to. Lol!

naturegal79

Amberrrr:

These kids are definitely starting to voice their opinions. Thankfully we have some time to prepare for when they're three years old and going, 'NO, I DON'T WANT TO, WAHHHHHHH'... Lol!

Here's an example of something I've just caved in to:

I'm still giving baths in the infant tub in the sink. Our shower has doors and it's a huge PITA to give baths with those doors and bars in the way. He's always trying to grab on the faucet. For about a week I was going 'no honey, don't play with the faucet it's not a toy' etc. I just gave in and let him have it. It's not worth the battle to me. And what harm is it going to do.

I wonder if after a while playing with the things we don't want them to (safe things!)  will make it lose the novelty. It seems like it's so much better for the LOs to get into things they know we don't want them to. Lol!

FWIW, it's SUPER easy to take the doors off and replace it with a shower curtain. I did it when we moved into our house and I am so glad I did for that reason! You will probably have little screw holes but they can be mudded over.  It takes 5 minutes to take the door off!!

Amberrrr

naturegal79:

Amberrrr:

These kids are definitely starting to voice their opinions. Thankfully we have some time to prepare for when they're three years old and going, 'NO, I DON'T WANT TO, WAHHHHHHH'... Lol!

Here's an example of something I've just caved in to:

I'm still giving baths in the infant tub in the sink. Our shower has doors and it's a huge PITA to give baths with those doors and bars in the way. He's always trying to grab on the faucet. For about a week I was going 'no honey, don't play with the faucet it's not a toy' etc. I just gave in and let him have it. It's not worth the battle to me. And what harm is it going to do.

I wonder if after a while playing with the things we don't want them to (safe things!)  will make it lose the novelty. It seems like it's so much better for the LOs to get into things they know we don't want them to. Lol!

FWIW, it's SUPER easy to take the doors off and replace it with a shower curtain. I did it when we moved into our house and I am so glad I did for that reason! You will probably have little screw holes but they can be mudded over.  It takes 5 minutes to take the door off!!

Sweet! I'll have to get started on that!