Too early to share?

mamakculb

I am 6 weeks today and we have my first OB appt also! We are supposed to do an ultrasound and hear the heartbeat. Hubby and I decided if this appt is all okay we will tell our family this week for thanksgiving. I know a lot of people want to wait until week 12, but we are so ready to tell everyone, we have known for almost 3 weeks already! I read that after 6 weeks is a good drop in mc rate especially if there's a good heartbeat heard, so we feel maybe we shouldnt worry so much, although the biggest drop in mc rate is after 12 weeks. Any advice?

chickpea03

It's so different for everyone. For us, there was no way we couldn't tell a handful of close family and friends right away. We knew we'd tell them if anything happened anyway, so it made sense to us. Plus, I can't keep anything in! We're waiting until after the 12 week mark to tell everyone else. 

blueturkey12

I think it's really just a personal decision. We're telling my family at Thanksgiving and I'll only be 5 1/2 weeks at the time. I really REALLY want to be able to talk to my Mom and sister about it all, and am proud of myself for keeping it a secret this long : )

We're telling the rest of the family (grandparents,aunts and uncles etc.) at Christmas when I'll be around 10 weeks then will wait till 12-14 weeks to announce it to the world. 

BettyHomewrecker33

It's a personal decision, and I don't think you can go wrong as long as your comfortable. I think the rule of thumb is really if you're comfortable telling them the bad news (if there is any), then you should totally share the good news.

I'm sure nothing will go wrong and you'll have a healthy pregnancy. Just go with your gut.

MrsMcC.10409

If it's what you both want, there's no reason not to share. God forbid something bad happens, you're going to need your family and friends. But with a good US and healthy growth, there is no reason to suspect anything will happen. The news is yours to share as you like. Hope it's awesome!

JenR85

We have told some close immediate family and friends. My husbands aunts, uncles, cousins etc will find out at thanksgiving, I will be per 8 weeks then. Everyone else will find out in a Christmas card then after Christmas I will announce to the world aka FB

LaTi07

That's really a personal choice. If you guys feel confident and want to, then rock it. I would just make sure you only tell people that would support you should things get bumpy.

Due to our history and having to supplement, etc. we won't be telling probably until 1415 weeks.

LaTi07

MrsErinH:

LaTi07:

That's really a personal choice. If you guys feel confident and want to, then rock it. I would just make sure you only tell people that would support you should things get bumpy.

Due to our history and having to supplement, etc. we won't be telling probably until 1415 weeks.

LOL at the bolded.  OP, as long as you feel comfortable I say go for it!  I have already told a lot of my family and the rest will find out either on Thanksgiving or Christmas, depending on our family gathering logistics (don't know how many of them will be at Thanksgiving yet). 

That's it, no more bumping from the iPhone. It apparently removes any symbols I use. Darnit! It should say 14 to 15 weeks. LoL.

ellajune2012

I would tell if it's someone you feel comfortable 'untelling' in case something should go wrong, but hold off on telling those people who you don't want to have to share that kind of information with until after the first trimester.

In my case, I plan to tell my parents, sister and in-laws by Christmas, or maybe even earlier, and I'm probably going to tell my close friend when I get together with her tomorrow, but I'm not planning to tell anyone else, not even other family.

KatetheGreat79

chickpea03:

It's so different for everyone. For us, there was no way we couldn't tell a handful of close family and friends right away. We knew we'd tell them if anything happened anyway, so it made sense to us. Plus, I can't keep anything in! We're waiting until after the 12 week mark to tell everyone else.nbsp;

This! I will only be 5 weeks 5 days on thanksgiving and still plan to tell... We have a very small family gathering for thanksgiving though, and our family is generally good at keeping things quiet.