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Kind of in limbo right now..

So here's kind of where I'm at right now, if anybody's wondering.... 

I'm kind of in this strange limbo about whether to place my boys right now. I feel like if after looking at all these profiles and I still haven't found the right family, that it's a sign I should parent, but I'm so emotionally overloaded from being pregnant and missing my boyfriend and trying to decide whether to place them or not. Right now I think I'll probably bring them home for a few weeks and let my hormones subside and see if I still feel like I should place, and at that point I'll start looking at families again. I really don't want to disappoint a couple. 

 

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Re: Kind of in limbo right now..

  • ((HUGS)) You are already doing the best thing by taking the time to figure out what is right for your boys, whether that is parenting or placing. I wouldn't worry too much about disappointing a couple. You can keep looking without picking, if that is something you are interested in. You are in my prayers .
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  • I can only imagine how tough that can be. In the end, you will make the best choice you can make for your boys. You should never worry about disappointing a couple, because this isn't about them. It's about what is best for your babies. If you feel that it's with you parenting, then that's the right choice. If you feel in your heart that you want to see them with great adoptive parents, that choice will be there for you if and when you decide. There really isn't a wrong path, you know? I'm sorry you feel like you are in limbo, it's not a fun place to be.

    It sucks that life throws us these curveballs, that we can't plan or prepare for. I hope some time gives you the answer you need, to make a choice that will give you peace.

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  • You have plenty of time. Take a deep breath and relax. You will know what is right for you and the boys when the time comes. I say look at profiles without the pressure of "I have to find someone"...There are so many families that would welcome those two blessings and share their love with you! But you need to do what is right for YOU!

    You are in tough position. Please use this board as a place to vent and find support for whatever you decide. We want what is right for all three of you!

    "Onward"--CathyMD Waiting since 07/5/2011 for our forever child! Yep we are adopting!
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  • Do what you know in your heart is right for you and your babies. Good luck.
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  • You are an amazing parent, whatever you decide to do.  The fact that you are struggling this much finding the right decision proves how much you care for these boys.  Whichever you decide, your boys will be sure to have amazing parent(s).
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    6 medicated cycles, 2 pregnancies, 1 ectopic April 2011, Early Miscarriage August 2011
    7 more cycles, 1 IUI, No success after last pregnancy
    7/1/2012 No more fertility coverage
    8/17/2012 started pursuing domestic infant adoption!
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  • Everyone has given you wonderful words. So I will just say that I hope that you find peace. Whatever you choose will be right for you!!!! Many kind thoughts and prayers coming your way!
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  • Just sending you ((((HUGS))))!  Don't stress yourself out and just care for yourself and the babies and when the time is right you will figure out what is best for you and your babies.
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    Moved on to  gestational surrogacy with a family friend who is our angel and due 7/23/15


  • Sending you so much love too! I agree that you will know what's right. I wish I could offer you more! And no matter what I hope you enjoy your time with those two babies that you love so much, whether it's a few more months or forever. They are so lucky to have such a thoughtful loving mom.
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  • (( Hugs )) I'll echo the PPs, you have time and you are being so thoughtful and careful in your decision, no matter what you choose those boys are so lucky and loved already. 

    Go ahead and look at profiles with no pressure if that's what you want to do, or take a break for a while if that feels more right.  Try not to worry about potential APs' feelings, it's so kind of you to do so but this is your decision to make and you need to focus on what you want and what is best for you and your family.

     


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  • I echo what the other PP said and wish you much peace in your decision.  Take your time and you'll know what's best for you and your boys. (((Hugs)))

    TTC since March 2010, BFP #1 11.09.10, ectopic, m/c 12.14.10 (10w)
    Clomid + TI=BFN, IUIs 1-6= BFN
    Application for domestic adoption submitted 4/18/12, matched 8/12/12, DD born 10/31/12


     

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