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JellyTwoPointO
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TTC since Aug 2011. BFP #1 on 10/28/2011 EDD of 07/02/2012 Natural MC on 11/22/2012 BFP #2 on 10/28/2012 EDD of 7/13/13 Judah Ari born on 7/11/13.
I love my rainbow baby!
so sorry for the absence... (siggy and pg ment)
JellyTwoPointO
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in Adoption
Hi everyone. I've regretfully slipped away from this board for a little bit. We've had a major life event happen that was a semi-surprise, so we've been busy and also in the midst of processing everything and trying to make decisions.
A few months ago, I was diagnosed as annovulatory. We decided to keep TTC but without medicated cycles or intervention, and we'd also started down to F2A road. Well, last month, I found out I was pregnant. I was semi-surprised (semi because while we were trying, I was told I didn't ovulate on my own!) and also left wondering where this left us on the adoption journey.
So far, we're continuing with both. I have my first u/s appointment next Wednesday and we're also now halfway through all our foster/adopt class requirements. We'd like to keep going in the adoption process, but I know agencies have different policies on placing with families who are expecting or have newborns. I know we need to tell our SW about our pregnancy soon, but right now I'm thinking of waiting till we're approaching the second trimester -- similar to the protocol of when you'd tell an employer. Does that sound right or should I tell the SW immediately? We're hoping that even if she wants us to hold off on placements that we can still get licensed so that when we're allowed to have placements, we'll be good to go.
Anyway.... that's where we're at on both accounts. Oh, and I just wondered... a lot of boards require the use of a "siggy" warning, and I don't know what the protocol is here, so I just thought I'd ask what you guys would prefer me to do. And I promise I'll be a much better, more supportive bumpie on this board from now on. I just got thrown on a loop for a bit :-)
A few months ago, I was diagnosed as annovulatory. We decided to keep TTC but without medicated cycles or intervention, and we'd also started down to F2A road. Well, last month, I found out I was pregnant. I was semi-surprised (semi because while we were trying, I was told I didn't ovulate on my own!) and also left wondering where this left us on the adoption journey.
So far, we're continuing with both. I have my first u/s appointment next Wednesday and we're also now halfway through all our foster/adopt class requirements. We'd like to keep going in the adoption process, but I know agencies have different policies on placing with families who are expecting or have newborns. I know we need to tell our SW about our pregnancy soon, but right now I'm thinking of waiting till we're approaching the second trimester -- similar to the protocol of when you'd tell an employer. Does that sound right or should I tell the SW immediately? We're hoping that even if she wants us to hold off on placements that we can still get licensed so that when we're allowed to have placements, we'll be good to go.
Anyway.... that's where we're at on both accounts. Oh, and I just wondered... a lot of boards require the use of a "siggy" warning, and I don't know what the protocol is here, so I just thought I'd ask what you guys would prefer me to do. And I promise I'll be a much better, more supportive bumpie on this board from now on. I just got thrown on a loop for a bit :-)
TTC since Aug 2011. BFP #1 on 10/28/2011 EDD of 07/02/2012 Natural MC on 11/22/2012 BFP #2 on 10/28/2012 EDD of 7/13/13 Judah Ari born on 7/11/13.
I love my rainbow baby!
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Re: so sorry for the absence... (siggy and pg ment)
Congratulations on your pregnancy! That is such a wonderful surprise.
I think it's perfectly acceptable to wait to tell your SW about the pregnancy until you are in your second trimester. I think it's a great idea to finish your licensing, so that when you are eligible for placements (which may be after your baby is 1 year old, from what I've heard), you'll be ready to go. Of course you will probably need to update your homestudy after the baby is born/it's been a year since it was completed.
Finally, I can't speak for everyone (obviously), but I don't think a siggy/ticker warning is necessary - there are posters here who already have children (bio or adopted) with pictures and tickers in their siggies, so you won't stick out like a sore thumb.
Congrats! How exciting. IMO don't worry about your signature. It doesn't bother me one bit.
I think your plan to notify your SW sounds fine. You never know what could happen, and in the end it's not going to make a huge difference, like you said. Either you'll get licensed and wait a while to take placements, or you'll get to continue on as usual.
Keep posting!
Congratulations! That is such exciting news!
I would tell your SW near the second trimester. What you said sounds perfect to me.
Siggy warning not necessary IMO.
Congrats! I hope you have a healthy baby.
I want to say congrats on your pregnancy!!!!! Life's little blessings are wonderful!
Personally, I would wait until closer to 12 weeks as well to tell the SW. Your not at the point of waiting for a match just yet so it's of no consequence, it's not putting anyone in a harder position. Take time to adjust to your new journey and I'm sure the rest will fall into place.
5 Angels
Congratulations! How exciting, what great news : ) I agree with PPs, I wouldn't worry about telling the social worker until 2nd trimester, in the meantime you can take the classes and get them out of the way so in the future you will be closer to being licensed.
Oh and also I don't think a siggie warning is necessary, lots of people have kiddos, pictures, tickers, etc : )