CP Wednesday - Living Arrangements

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How bout we kick off Wednesday, CP style?[Poll]

jmccall79

Unfortunately, because of my situation, I moved back to my Mom's!  Yes, I'm 'that' person who is in her 30s living with her parents with a baby.  Ugh!  I feel like such a loser some days.  I've always been so independent, living on my own, taking care of myself.  It's just so much harder, financially, with a baby and I just can't pay a true amount for rent right now.  Yes, I'm paying my mom some rent, but it's not anything like I'd have to pay somewhere.  Ugh, I thought I'd kind of gotten over feeling like a loser, but now it's back...thanks for this post to remind me!  (Only kidding!!!!)

Jen0204

jmccall79:

Unfortunately, because of my situation, I moved back to my Mom's!  Yes, I'm 'that' person who is in her 30s living with her parents with a baby.  Ugh!  I feel like such a loser some days.  I've always been so independent, living on my own, taking care of myself.  It's just so much harder, financially, with a baby and I just can't pay a true amount for rent right now.  Yes, I'm paying my mom some rent, but it's not anything like I'd have to pay somewhere.  Ugh, I thought I'd kind of gotten over feeling like a loser, but now it's back...thanks for this post to remind me!  (Only kidding!!!!)

My sister and her family live with my parents.  While I would never choose to do that - and I know you didn't either - there are definitely days when I am very jealous!  Less bills, live in help with the kids, my nephew has such a stronger relationship with my parents then my girls do because they live together...  There are definitely some good points to it.  You did what you had to do, don't consider yourself a loser at all!

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jmccall79:

Unfortunately, because of my situation, I moved back to my Mom's!  Yes, I'm 'that' person who is in her 30s living with her parents with a baby.  Ugh!  I feel like such a loser some days.  I've always been so independent, living on my own, taking care of myself.  It's just so much harder, financially, with a baby and I just can't pay a true amount for rent right now.  Yes, I'm paying my mom some rent, but it's not anything like I'd have to pay somewhere.  Ugh, I thought I'd kind of gotten over feeling like a loser, but now it's back...thanks for this post to remind me!  (Only kidding!!!!)

If you're paying rent, you're renting (no matter how much or how little you're paying). Sorry, didn't mean to make you feel bad about your situation. We all know you're doing what's best for your LO right now.

MrMrsandBaby

kleMcK:

jmccall79:

Unfortunately, because of my situation, I moved back to my Mom's!  Yes, I'm 'that' person who is in her 30s living with her parents with a baby.  Ugh!  I feel like such a loser some days.  I've always been so independent, living on my own, taking care of myself.  It's just so much harder, financially, with a baby and I just can't pay a true amount for rent right now.  Yes, I'm paying my mom some rent, but it's not anything like I'd have to pay somewhere.  Ugh, I thought I'd kind of gotten over feeling like a loser, but now it's back...thanks for this post to remind me!  (Only kidding!!!!)

If you're paying rent, you're renting (no matter how much or how little you're paying). Sorry, didn't mean to make you feel bad about your situation. We all know you're doing what's best for your LO right now.

This!  If it helps you feel better, my older sister and her husband moved in with my parents (who don't really have the space) for about 8 months to "save some money" so they could get a better place - they rent - and decided that rather than save money they were going to throw it into IVF.  Nice huh?  She is 33.

My younger sister and brother BOTH live with my parents and aren't paying rent.  Sister has NEVER moved out (she just turned 29) and brother was out for about a year then lived with me and DH for 9 months (also rent free) and now is back with the parents.

You are so not a loser in my eyes!  Now my siblings on the other hand... 

jmccall79

Kle, I was really just kidding about making me feel like loser...or reminding me of being one, lol!  It's all good.  I know that I'm doing what's best.

Jen, for my situation, there's not 'extra' help necessarily.  It's still all up to me.  Yes, if I needed her to, my mom would help with whatever.  However, she watches him on M, W, F already...and she works on T, TH and every other weekend.  So, by the time she watches him on her days, when I get home, she's 'done'.  LOL  And on the days she works, she doesn't get home 'til almost 8p and Ian's getting ready for bed by then.  So, though it sounds good in theory, the extra help, it's not necessarily always the case for me.  However, I do agree with the 'closer relationship' part of it.  Even with my mom keeping Ian while I'm at work...she has said that she's glad she gets to do it because she has a bond, at this age, that she didn't get to have with the other grandkids.

There are positives and negatives to it all.  I'm truly thankful that I had a place to go when I needed to.  Though it wasn't 'ideal' in my head, it was really kind of the only option and I don't regret doing it.

megahof

jmccall79:

Unfortunately, because of my situation, I moved back to my Mom's!  Yes, I'm 'that' person who is in her 30s living with her parents with a baby.  Ugh!  I feel like such a loser some days.  I've always been so independent, living on my own, taking care of myself.  It's just so much harder, financially, with a baby and I just can't pay a true amount for rent right now.  Yes, I'm paying my mom some rent, but it's not anything like I'd have to pay somewhere.  Ugh, I thought I'd kind of gotten over feeling like a loser, but now it's back...thanks for this post to remind me!  (Only kidding!!!!)

I compare your situation to my brother's. You are working hard to provide for yourself and your baby. You were in a relationship that tanked, and because you could no longer live with him, you found a safe, comfortable place to stay until you are able to afford a place of your own again. That was the responsible thing to do.

My brother, on the other hand, is a bum. He cannot hold down a job for more than two months at a stretch. He is a "clean" former heroin addict (I say "clean" because I'm 90% sure, but there's always the possibility/probability that he's not anymore.). He, his girlfriend and my niece are living with my parents because they literally have no place else to go except the streets, and my parents refuse to let their granddaughter grow up without a roof over her head. While the girlfriend is very sweet and does her best to help out around the house, she doesn't work because she's taking care of the baby 24/7. She at least tries, though, and she tries hard. I respect her for that. My brother, when he's home, acts nothing but ungrateful, constantly talking about how he can't believe he's almost 30 and still living with his parents. He does nothing to contribute around the house. I could go on and on about it.

My brother is a loser. You, dear, are not. At the very least you feel badly for not contributing more to your mom's house, and I think that speaks volumes. Truly, I admire you for doing what is best for you and your baby!!

jmccall79

Sorry, I didn't mean to make this post "about me"!  But thanks ladies, for the words of encouragement.

SrhA1984

SS for me.  We currently own a home that we have been trying to sell for 6 months and rent an apartment in city my DH works in...so unfortunetly both

MrsGlaedr

We own the house in FL (that currently has renters living in it), and are renting the apt in TX