Bedding/Bumpers Vent

duffmaker

I keep seeing this over and over again on the baby shower board and this one and it drives me bonkers!!

People seriously need to STOP saying "Babies can't sleep with/have bumpers or blankets in their cribs"... if a mother wants to register for/buy/use a bedding set for god sakes it is not against the law! Reword your statements to something along the lines of "it is recommended that babies do not sleep with/have bumpers or blankets in their cribs". My daughter and every child I know, including majority of us had all this stuff in our cribs as children. I'm fine, FI's fine, DD's fine.

It just irks me when people go after someone for talking about bumpers or bedding sets like they're being negligent by using them. 

AHG! Sorry vent over lol it's just always driven me crazy when I see it worded like it's illegal.

kellyrn9956

Ya know what drives me crazy? When people take a risk with unnecessary items that increase the risk of SIDS. But that's just me...

duffmaker

Oh no I know it's recommended and I know it's safer, I don't care either way if people choose to use them or don't what bothers me is how people phrase it on here and yes on the BSB (I saw it today and I have seen it in the past, today it as in a responses to a thread and that's what made me need to rant, it tends to come up when people talk about their registries). It just makes people who use them feel like they're doing a terrible thing, or if someone was considering it. It isn't a terrible thing to use them. It's just the phrasing that irks me, it isn't a can't it's a shouldn't. That's all.

What is terrible but true is that SIDS is SIDS and plenty of research shows that if a baby/toddler is going to pass from SIDS then there is nothing anyone can do to stop it. Preventative measures can be taken, such as pacifiers and keeping baby in the same room as you (many specialists think sleep apnea is the major cause of SIDS, of course it is incredibly difficult to prove because you can't really do accurate sleep studies on babies) another thought process is a CO2 build up if you use bumpers, so leave the front one off like I did to allow a good amount of air flow. They saved M's head from being bumped multiple times a night and I felt like they gave her a more secure environment to sleep in... my decision as her mother. It had nothing to do with being cute or trying to prove the experts wrong, it's a personal choice and people shouldn't be made to feel badly about that... it isn't a death sentence for your child.

gimmietimmies

SIDS isn't the only risk, people pooh pooh the strangulation hazard all the time. Chicago banned the sale due to several children becoming strangled, proven post mortem. But you're right, until Canada and the US legislate children's products, it's not a can't or illegal, it's a shouldn't. I personally don't see bumping head and protruding limbs as a reason to spend yet more money on an nonessential baby item.

You shouldn't take other posters disseminating information on product safety as a personal attack on your parenting choices. It's your kid, do what you want. I would have pointed out the Pediatric Society current recommendation, but what you choose to do with that info is your choice. No one is forcing you to do anything.

Can't and shouldn't are just semantics. Chill.

jburdet1

I agree, relax! Other bumpies are just relaying current recommendations for moms that probably aren't aware. We use bumpers and have since 4 months. I feel safe using them for a variety of reasons. However, I don't get upset when they're flamed because I know they are against current recommendations.

SunAndRain

You are splitting hairs over 'can't" versus "shouldn't".  Either way is the risk of a baby's death really worth it?

This is about the most worthless thread ever. 

etude de la vie

Look check out wonder bumpers. Cute and NOT a SIDS risk at all. 

We got them for DS and they were more expensive than his crib but worth it.

DD had regular bumpers and she would pull them over her head, use them to climb, and they didn't really allow a lot of airflow (especially since my kids loved to sleep with their heads in corner up against the side) I got the cheap breathable for her and she would just pull those off or wake up with mesh imprinted on her forehead

IMHO the wonder bumpers were worth every penny!