4th birthday party FAIL
mavs_girl07
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We had DD's birthday party this past weekend. We invited 18 kids, 15 of them are in her class at school. We also invited several teachers and their kids, plus a couple of family friends. We booked The Little Gym, put together party favors, got an awesome cake. And guess what? No one showed. Three kids rsvp'ed yes, but they never came. I was a little concerned that I got no other rsvp's, but we have this issue for every party/get together we ever have. It seems people just don't rsvp anymore, but then show up. So I thought ok, no big deal. I'm sure people will be there and just aren't rsvp'ing. Boy was I wrong! One teacher came, but only stayed for 5 minutes because she said she had a wedding to go to.
We were so disappointed and DD was heartbroken 
. It was really really awful, not to mention embarrassing being there all by ourselves at The Little Gym, and the staff was like "Um, y'all can go play in the gym if you'd like..." Seriously awful. The next day we took DD to get ice cream and had a little shopping spree at Toys R Us. Serious fail and we're still really bummed about it.
Re: 4th birthday party FAIL
That's crazy. So sorry!
that's awful - I'm sorry.
Have you guys gone to other parties?
Yes we've gone to a ton of parties, for awhile there we had a bday party almost every weekend.
I would be FUCKINGPIST at those parents then, if you have been hauling your ass around to their parties, they need to return the favor. Not cool at all.
That is so horrible. That makes me want to cry for your DD. I just can't believe it. You didn't talk to any of the kids parents or your friends parents beforehand?
This is such a good reminder why you always RSVP and then you always show up.
I was surprised by how many parents didn't receive our invitation last year. I cornered each parent that hadn't responded and maybe they were lying but literally almost all of them said they didn't have the invite (the moms). They did wind up coming to the party.
That made me so sad for your DD and so mad at the parents. Seriously, what's with the complete lack of manners these days. It's not hard to RSVP. "Hi this is DS's mom, I'm sorry, we won't be able to go OR yes, we'll be there. Thanks for inviting us" . One minute. Done.
The A-hole in me would want to send thank you card to all of them- for blowing it off and breaking your kid's heart. Jackasses.
Oh my goodness! I am so sad for your poor DD! It sounds like you made up for it.
TBH, this is my worst fear whenever I host something!
I am so so sorry.
This happened for DS's 2nd bday. We invited 17 kids and only 2 older cousins showed up and they just sat off to the side and didn't play. I cried afterwards because we blew $400 on that party.
Yep this is me. We tried not to talk about it much because DD would've gotten even more upset, but after she went to bed I was in tears. The Little Gym was not cheap, and the cake (although super cute and super yummy and we now have a ton of leftovers) was way too expensive. It was a waste of several hundred dollars.
oh man, that makes my heart hurt.
i'm so sorry!
i really can't imagine veteran's day had a lot to do with it. it's not really a big holiday here either (no one gets off work or anything) so i can't imagine that should matter.
big hugs to you and your little girl.
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I am so sorry. I think all the other parents are just jealous bc you have some of the most beautiful children around!!!!!! And they don't want their kids to look like trolls next to them.
(((hugs)))
OMG. It breaks my heart.
You have every right to be bitter about it. I am sorry.
DS will be four in April and this is actually holding me back from planning a friend party. He wants a party of course so I'm trying to think of a way to guarantee a small party for him and ensure people come! None of my close friends have kids his age and his cousins don't live in our state so we don't have any for sures although I do have some so-so friends I would hope would come.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. What a nightmare. I'm so sorry for your DD. Luckily, four year olds move on much quicker than we do
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I was thinking this nearly exactly.
I have never invited more than a few kids to any b-day party of a kid. Actual friends only, not the whole class sort of thing. Too unruly and too many flakes out there. My little guy will be turning 4 in January and I think we'll have at most 4 other kids and a couple of parents and go to the community pool for a party.
Sorry for the horse-out-of-the-barn rant. It sounds heartbreaking for everyone involved.
lol, thank you. We have a Family Feast tomorrow at her school where all the parents go to eat Thanksgiving lunch with the kids. I'm going to have a hard time biting my tongue I think...
Oh, this makes me so sad for your DD! I would be very bitter and upset if this happened to my daughter. I'd have a hard time biting my tongue about it too. I wonder if the one teacher who showed up will say something to the other teachers or parents?
People are jerks. Not RSVPing is a pet peeve of mine. It is incredibly rude. We seem to have this problem too when throwing a party, though usually someone shows up. I've gotten to the point where I put in bold print on the invite, PLEASE RSVP BY _____ and then contact everyone who has not RSVP'ed by that date and ask, "Just wondering if you will be able to make it to the party?" It's a pain but at least it gives me some sense of who will be there.
Another thing that bothers me is when people say they will "stop by". What does that mean exactly? That they'll show up whenever they want and stay however long they want? The party is scheduled for a specific time; you either can or cannot make it at that time. Another thing that bugs me: "We'll be there but we'll be late". Can you please tell me what time?? Because I may just tell you to skip it if you're going to be very late. We had DD's party at our house in July and none of the kids showed up until an hour after the start time. The party was only supposed to be a couple of hours long! DD was sitting around with all the adults just waiting, and kept asking where her friends were.
Grrr this makes me so mad
I'm sorry this happened to you guys.
That's awful! Poor thing!