I think... I think we may be getting along?

karatechrissy

As the months have gone by since BM left superdouche, things have slowly been getting to a place where things are better than just being 'civil'. At first, it was a lot of resistance from BM to work with H on things. It was the same old same old, moving in with the new guy a month after divorcing her 2nd H, finding out it was filthy conditions (He was a trash hoarder. Literally had bags and bags of straight garbage in one bathroom piled to the ceiling). Then, before we could even start a CPS case after we found out about the hoarding, they broke up, BM back with her parents... then found out a week later she was pregnant by this guy after going to fertility Dr.'s for 3 years with her 2nd H and not having any luck getting pregnant. They told her she likely would never have a baby again. It was a crazy summer...

Things have started to finally settle down. She is still cra cra, don't get me wrong. She is a mess in her personal life... but as far as things with SS go, things have improved so much. She and DH are actually co-parenting. They discuss what needs to be discussed, both have had things going on during the other parents time in the past 3 weeks, and have been able to swap time with each other without it becoming a pissing match, or one trying to get more out of it and screw the other. It's been so refreshing. She actually refers to DD and DS as SS's brother and sister now. She expressed to us that she was upset that SS told her he didn't want another sister (she is expecting a girl) and only loves the one he has. I know this isn't what he means, but we have been really trying to work sisters and brothers into conversation during his time here and trying to build up what a big helper he will be to BM. I think we're at a good place.. for us, and what we have been through the past 4 years anyway... We are still working on the homework issue with BM. She is doing a little better. SS is coming home with better marks on his papers and I can see he is putting in more effort. 

I guess we will see where it goes.  

Hopeforthebest

That is very good news. Try to enjoy it. I hate to add while you can, but ...well you know.

 

Holly_1007

Hopeforthebest:

That is very good news. Try to enjoy it. I hate to add while you can, but ...well you know.

 

exactly

twister22

Enjoy is while it lasts. It's just a matter of time before BM gets a crazy new BF or something sets her off and she reverts back to her old ways. 

Ooglybear

I would think the PG hormones would make her more crazy! Glad things are seemingly smoothing out. Hope it lasts!

karatechrissy

Ooglybear:

I would think the PG hormones would make her more crazy! Glad things are seemingly smoothing out. Hope it lasts!

DH said this happened when she was pregnant with SS. She was nicer, calmer, more reasonable etc...

Maybe it's reverse effect from normal people since she is Borderline Personality Disorder??? lol. Who knows. I know the other side of the coin will rear its ugly head at some point, but I just found myself thinking about how NICE it has been lately. I've learned to not let my guard down... I know it's not permanent. Just going to enjoy the moment and try not to think about how something is going to get twisted in the future.