My SIL is a twatwaffle.

RockyTopVols · November 2012

Twatwaffle she is.

She is pissed my wife and I decided to give our soon to be daughter my MIL's middle name. My MIL passed away from breast cancer about 10 years ago. The problem is my SIL now says if she ever moved out of her dads house, secured gainful employment, got married, got pregnant, and it happened to be a girl... She was going to be the one to use it. Why she cant use it I will never know.

She wanted to throw a baby shower. No problem. 2 weeks before it was supposed to happen.. My wife asked how it is coming and she said "oh I can't afford to host it sorry". No worries.. We merged the family and friends one with work friends one next weekend. My wife asks SIL if she was coming next weekend. "Not sure.. Might be on the work schedule. But I thought I was involved with planning it. As usual I get cut out of everything." Eye *** roll.

So yes.. She is 32. Lives with her dad. Works part time at a national coffee chain. She started dating some loser who is 39, lives with his mom, works in a call center, and has no method of transportation. And she just started taking prenatal vitamins and bought some ovulation calendar thing. WTFFFFFFF LOL. Woohoo for 2 months of dating and now family planning! They have to go rent motel rooms every other week to have sex because they live with their parents for Christs sake.

She makes my wife feel like crap for having everything "handed" to her... A career she worked for, a husband, the house we own, a kid soon etc. She is incredibly jealous and she refuses to acknowledge my wife is pregnant. She has yet to come to our house to help with the nursery etc.

I normally would not care but my wife is all upset because her and her sister used to be close, esp after their mom died. But my SILs bitterness has turned her into a hateful *** and my wife doesn't know how to coop.

I don't want to pile on to her with my wife so i vent here.

NotSharknado · November 2012

Twatwaffle she is! Also a little bit of crazy. It's a shame she's so jealous it keeps her from being happy for her sister. I too have a sister like that. It's sad.

nanabanana06 · November 2012

Yeah, she sounds like a real winner. Nobody has rights to name. So honestly, tell her to suck it. Also, I think we all have at least one crappy relative. I have no idea why they are usually SIL's.

Wine O Mite · November 2012

She sounds like a peach and that she has some serious jealousy issues.

I think the middle name issue is funny. Middle names can be the same because no one uses them. And actually I think it's cute when family members share middle names. A tradition of sorts.

It's good to not pile on and complain about your SIL with your wife. Just support her and complain here.

Kissimi21 · November 2012

Definitely a twatwaffle, and possibly even a douchecanoe on top of it. Unfortuntately, your wife can't change her sister's crappy attitude, nor can she help loving her despite it. The best thing you can do is support your wife and let her vent about her sister. Don't join in too much with the sister bashing. Agree just enough so she knows you are on her side, but not so much that is SIL suddenly removes her head from her ass, you won't be the bad guy.

Glitter Pop · November 2012

Ugh! I'm sorry y'all are having to deal with her. Middle names can be used by multiple people...my DS, my nephew, and my brother all share the same middle name that honors my grandfather. I think it's neat that they share the name.

violaplayer · November 2012

Wow, throw me in with the twatwaffle with a side of douchecanoe crowd. What a biznatch!

For heaven's sake, who really cares about middle names? I think my DH doesn't even know what mine is!

RockyTopVols · November 2012

Scout2005:
I'm sorry for your wife. Does she have a close girlfriend or group who could maybe take her to lunch, spa day, painting party for the nursery? Just a little focused attention on her to lift her spirits?

We had a painting party. SIL never showed up or acknowledged she missed it.

My wife told her that she could use their mothers middle name too because many relatives share the same middle name. Her sister said "I would be hurt if you used the name."

I have told my wife to just focus on baby coming etc and she tries. Her sister is just an unsupportive douchecanoe and it upsets her.

I think once baby gets here it won't matter because we will have our hands full. But Im sure SIL will pull a 180 and won't gtfo of my house lol.

Enjoying it while I can.

mejane123 · November 2012

Irrationally jealous people crack me up.

I can't stand when people get all butthurt over a damn name. There are so many names in my family that have become family tradition, it's impossible not to have doubles, so I don't even bother trying. And seriously, to get offended that your DD's MIDDLE name will be the same as her imaginary child's first name is utterly ridiculous.

Suern9870 · November 2012

shanado:
Twatwaffle she is! Also a little bit of crazy. It's a shame she's so jealous it keeps her from being happy for her sister. I too have a sister like that. It's sad.

Me, too. Unfortunately, a jealous sibling is not so uncommon. Sorry for your and your wifes' troubles. Try not to let it get to you too much.

gimmietimmies · November 2012

I don't think twatwaffle or douchecanoe is strong enough to describe your waste of space sister. First, no one owns a name. First rule of naming. Also, don't share your potential names. I learned that after my first. Even if you use your mom's name, why can't she use it too, or is this some part of her excessive need to be an AW? Why are you trying so hard with someone who doesn't give a shiit about you or your dw? She clearly enjoys messing with people. I get you may care for her and doing this out of some sense of family obligation, but wtf are you getting out of it except grief?

I would stop involving her, stop inviting her and stop engaging her. No need to cut her off, but don't seek her out, she'll find another way to amuse herself.

Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't.
Eleanor Roosevelt

littlemac1117 · November 2012

Nana_Osaki06:
Yeah, she sounds like a real winner. Nobody has rights to name. So honestly, tell her to suck it. Also, I think we all have at least one crappy relative. I have no idea why they are usually SIL's.

My mom passed away when I was ten. I have 3 older sisters who all have at least 1 daughter each. Three of my nieces all have the same middle name, after my mom. If/when I have a daughter one day, she will most likely also have the same middle name. I actually think its kinda cool that they will all share their grandmother's name as their middle names.

Wufroggy79 · November 2012

People get freaky about names. Do what you want, and she will have to get over it.

LadyXaverian · November 2012

Ugh. Sorry. I'm glad you're venting here and just being supportive at home.

Kitiara5512 · November 2012

What a dumbass. I feel for your wife though I do think she is better off without her twit sister.

MoonlitPlumeria · November 2012

My four sisters and I are all going to use our late mother's name as middle names. So far, my little sister and I have kids with that name. It's not that big of a deal. Your SIL is a total twatwaffle!