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Liz4444

pearblossom:

I'm struggling here. Are you guys confessing your own insecurities or ragging on other board members? Can you elaborate on why you don't feel included? I genuinely don't understand.I've always felt like an outsider on other boards but never here. And you guys are as regular as I am. I'm freaking FB friends with some of you.

Obviously you are not in the cool clique...

BeesMomma00

Shannon526:

Chunstad:

I've always felt like I'm an outsider of a clique on this board as well. 

Same here, but as BeesMomma said, I've kind of always been that way. With my friends IRL, I always just feel out of the loop.. or not fully in the "cool kids circle" or whatever it's called.

Maybe that's just because I'm a dork at heart.

Exactly. I'm a HUGE nerd, geek, dork IRL, so I never feel included.  I feel accepted, but maybe not as cool, as funny, as snarky as some others.

For me, it's definitely an "It's me, not you" thing. 

Fianschneid

I am cracking up at my desk about Mr. Hotdog, Miss Hamburger and the Lucky Charms. I am pre-mortified about the things DD will say when she can talk.

My confession is that I had a minor freak out last night when I saw two reddish brownish bumps on DD leg. I immediately flashed to thoughts of her being physically abused at daycare and had DH check them out. Yeah, they were bug bites.

BeesMomma00

I have another...  I work from home and today, I'm not working.  B is at daycare and I am enjoying the silence and bumping.  I miss quiet time.

Shannon526

BeesMomma00:

Shannon526:

Chunstad:

I've always felt like I'm an outsider of a clique on this board as well. 

Same here, but as BeesMomma said, I've kind of always been that way. With my friends IRL, I always just feel out of the loop.. or not fully in the "cool kids circle" or whatever it's called.

Maybe that's just because I'm a dork at heart.

Exactly. I'm a HUGE nerd, geek, dork IRL, so I never feel included.  I feel accepted, but maybe not as cool, as funny, as snarky as some others.

For me, it's definitely an "It's me, not you" thing. 

You summed that up perfectly for me. I definitely feel accepted, but I don't feel as funny/witty/smart/what-have-you as some of the others here. Doesn't mean I dislike anyone :-)

Ms.Jade

missyleaferg:

I had done a search of shirtless Christian Bale to post on the Parenting board. I forgot to close it out, so DH got an eye full when he oppened the computer. Oops...

That happened with me last week. I had a huge picture of half naked Dave Navarro up on my screen and DH walked in behind me. I didn't hear him so he cleared his throat and I jumped like a guilty teenager.

Fianschneid

BeesMomma00:

Chunstad:

I've always felt like I'm an outsider of a clique on this board as well. 

Ditto.   But I have always been this way.  Even in HS, I belonged to the cool clique but never felt IN.  I was on the fringe of cool but never quite there. 

Same. Maybe if we're all outsides, we are our own clique.

ETA: Agreed with pps, I think I'm just not as cool/funny as others or that I get to things too late to get involved. No one is excluding me by any means.

btsrc5

peelester429:

3.  I have been posting on this board since I got KU, and have always felt like an outsider of a clique.  I feel like lately, it's gotten even more clique-ish.

me too. 

wilsontl19191

peelester429:

shediva1:

I have Monday off and DH and I are taking J to daycare anyway and have a day of shopping and lunch. I have never looked forward to a Monday in my life!

Good for you!  That sounds awesome. I have Monday off, too, and if MH did, I'd consider doing the same!

I have three.

1.  I was planning a surprise weekend getaway for MH (our first overnight trip without CK), but I had to cancel because of the money we'll be spending on CK's ear tube surgery.  I was somewhat dreading the trip and being away from her, but I know we need to try an overnight without her (we haven't been avoiding it, we just haven't had a reason to go out of town).  Now that it's canceled - I'm actually so bummed we're not going to get to do it.

 2.  We're TTC and I have considered skipping the months that would put my due date too close to CK's 2nd birthday.  I feel a tremendous sense of guilt at the thought of taking the attention away from her! 

3.  I have been posting on this board since I got KU, and have always felt like an outsider of a clique.  I feel like lately, it's gotten even more clique-ish.

Us too!!  i told DH if it doesn't happen this month, we have to wait at least 2 more months! 

kujayhawkgirl

BeesMomma00:

Wow...  I started some fun, eh?  Will it help if I clarify?

1. I have not had any other alcohol at all this pregnancy

2. It was a small glass - about 4 -5 oz

3. It took me a whole hour to drink it (I was savoring it)

4. I was able to enjoy the company we had over

5. It was white, not red (not that it matters)

6. I love my unborn child 

Definitely no need to justify. And I certainly never meant to come across as believing you didn't love your unborn child. As I mentioned, I may just be overly sensitive to anythign that might cause harm or birth defects. I would hope that you would understand my sensitivity to that. It was your choice to make, just not the choice I would have made (nor would have several of the other girls on this board, as a couple of have already expressed). Also as I said before, I am just going to make the one flamming comment, no more flames about it from me.

blu-eyedwife

peelester429:

 2.  We're TTC and I have considered skipping the months that would put my due date too close to CK's 2nd birthday.  I feel a tremendous sense of guilt at the thought of taking the attention away from her!

I totally get this.  We got pregnant the first month trying with LBB, but if we hadn't, and for all future children we're skipping any month that would have them have a birthday in the same month as someone else in the family.

 

 

And although this is probably more of a Judgment than a Confession, I totally side-eye the fact that alcohol is a hot button issue in terms of causing fetal-issues, but having children so close together seems to be a-ok even though that has also been shown to cause potential detriment to babies/pregnant mothers.

pennysuedog

I feel that you guys that feel you are outsider really aren't, it is in your head.  I feel more like an outsider IRL than I do here. 

I think you all have great things to add to the board.  

 

Oh because I can't resist another Ralph GIF

 

shediva1

I felt the need to post this picture my sister sent me. Sorry if it's huge, I don't know how to resize pics on my phone.
Eta damn it, won't post it... Can someone post the pic for me please?
https://i206.photobucket.com/albums/bb157/shediva1/617AFAC884E24E6AB5D9B9F8B777825737470000038ADD03DF89.jpg

pennysuedog

Guys, I don't think it is a big deal to have your birthday the same month as a sibling.  My brother and I actually have the same exact birthday, even though we are five years apart. 

Oliver and Violet had the same due date.  Oliver was born a day late and they wouldn't let me go over due with Violet so I chose to have Violet on my sister's birthday via C/S.  She said Violet was the best birthday gift ever.

Ms.Jade

pearblossom:

I'm struggling here. Are you guys confessing your own insecurities or ragging on other board members? Can you elaborate on why you don't feel included? I genuinely don't understand.

I've always felt like an outsider on other boards but never here. And you guys are as regular as I am. I'm freaking FB friends with some of you.

Well I can't speak for others, but I relate to the sentiment because I feel like I'm always the last one to the party when it comes to posts. No matter how often I check in I'm always the 50th post on something. I've never met anyone IRL since I somehow managed to miss the So Cal GTG, and I am friends with no one on FB or anywhere but here. I feel like I post a lot, but I always feel like I'm late to the party or missing something. I didn't join until E was born because I was on the November 2011 since her due date was 11/1/11. But then I had a complication and had to have an earlier c-section. Maybe I feel like I'm always playing catch up because of that??????

BeesMomma00

kujayhawkgirl:

BeesMomma00:

Wow...  I started some fun, eh?  Will it help if I clarify?

1. I have not had any other alcohol at all this pregnancy

2. It was a small glass - about 4 -5 oz

3. It took me a whole hour to drink it (I was savoring it)

4. I was able to enjoy the company we had over

5. It was white, not red (not that it matters)

6. I love my unborn child 

Definitely no need to justify. And I certainly never meant to come across as believing you didn't love your unborn child. As I mentioned, I may just be overly sensitive to anythign that might cause harm or birth defects. I would hope that you would understand my sensitivity to that. It was your choice to make, just not the choice I would have made (nor would have several of the other girls on this board, as a couple of have already expressed). Also as I said before, I am just going to make the one flamming comment, no more flames about it from me.

Of course. And I don't take it as flaming, I take it as disagreement.  Which is fine, of course. 

Ms.Jade

blu-eyedwife:

peelester429:

 2.  We're TTC and I have considered skipping the months that would put my due date too close to CK's 2nd birthday.  I feel a tremendous sense of guilt at the thought of taking the attention away from her!

I totally get this.  We got pregnant the first month trying with LBB, but if we hadn't, and for all future children we're skipping any month that would have them have a birthday in the same month as someone else in the family.

 

 

And although this is probably more of a Judgment than a Confession, I totally side-eye the fact that alcohol is a hot button issue in terms of causing fetal-issues, but having children so close together seems to be a-ok even though that has also been shown to cause potential detriment to babies/pregnant mothers.

Oh SNAP! I am glued to the screen seeing how this is going to play out... 

karinothing

Ms.Jade:

blu-eyedwife:

peelester429:

 2.  We're TTC and I have considered skipping the months that would put my due date too close to CK's 2nd birthday.  I feel a tremendous sense of guilt at the thought of taking the attention away from her!

I totally get this.  We got pregnant the first month trying with LBB, but if we hadn't, and for all future children we're skipping any month that would have them have a birthday in the same month as someone else in the family.

 

 

And although this is probably more of a Judgment than a Confession, I totally side-eye the fact that alcohol is a hot button issue in terms of causing fetal-issues, but having children so close together seems to be a-ok even though that has also been shown to cause potential detriment to babies/pregnant mothers.

Oh SNAP! I am glued to the screen seeing how this is going to play out... 

ha ha I had the same reaction!

I assume it will be "family planning is something you can't judge but alcohol is HORRIBLE!" or something like that.

joolz17

Holy lord, alcohol again! I'm late to the party on this so I won't say anything.

And I don't really understand how someone can feel left out. I mean, it is unfortunate if you do, but I don't think anyone here is unwelcoming or rude? I haven't posted that much here in the last month or so, so possibly I've missed some posts that might help me understand. 

Sorry if I'm one of the mean girls, just call me Regina George.

BeesMomma00

I'm 0 for 2...  children close together in age AND I had a drink. 

For me, if I wait much longer, I increase the risk of having a child with a chromosomal abnormality.  The benefits of having my 2nd child before turning 40 greatly outweigh the risks associated with 2 close in age.

amyc216

Regarding the cliques... for me I kind of think there are certain people who can post anything and will get tons of responses.  I think it's just b/c they're well-liked and entertaining.  Sometimes I've posted stuff and it's like crickets and I kind of feel like a loser.  Like others said, it's my own insecurities. 

colliebabe

Maybe I'm not very perceptive, but I feel like this place has been less clique-y than in the past.

Hmm, my own confession...I need to keep thinking.

pennysuedog

Ms.Jade:

pearblossom:

I'm struggling here. Are you guys confessing your own insecurities or ragging on other board members? Can you elaborate on why you don't feel included? I genuinely don't understand.

I've always felt like an outsider on other boards but never here. And you guys are as regular as I am. I'm freaking FB friends with some of you.

Well I can't speak for others, but I relate to the sentiment because I feel like I'm always the last one to the party when it comes to posts. No matter how often I check in I'm always the 50th post on something. I've never met anyone IRL since I somehow managed to miss the So Cal GTG, and I am friends with no one on FB or anywhere but here. I feel like I post a lot, but I always feel like I'm late to the party or missing something. I didn't join until E was born because I was on the November 2011 since her due date was 11/1/11. But then I had a complication and had to have an earlier c-section. Maybe I feel like I'm always playing catch up because of that??????

Do you have you settings on last post date?  That helps. 

I haven't met anyone IRL and I'm not FB friends with anyone either. 

pennysuedog

shediva1:

I felt the need to post this picture my sister sent me. Sorry if it's huge, I don't know how to resize pics on my phone. Eta damn it, won't post it... Can someone post the pic for me please? https://i206.photobucket.com/albums/bb157/shediva1/617AFAC884E24E6AB5D9B9F8B777825737470000038ADD03DF89.jpg

This just brings me to photobuckets page, not your pic.

pearblossom

I keep trying to type out a level-headed response to all this, but I just can't. This is ridiculous.

I can have a drink when I want. I can have another baby when I want. Both of those only carry POTENTIAL risks, that I, as a grownass woman can weigh and decide for myself with my doctor. And none of you should have a damn thing to say about it.

I'm not even going to touch the whining about the board getting too cliqueish lately. That's just pathetic.

 All of you get a big

from me today.

Edited because I can't spell when I'm in a rage.

blu-eyedwife

Ms.Jade:

pearblossom:

I'm struggling here. Are you guys confessing your own insecurities or ragging on other board members? Can you elaborate on why you don't feel included? I genuinely don't understand.

I've always felt like an outsider on other boards but never here. And you guys are as regular as I am. I'm freaking FB friends with some of you.

Well I can't speak for others, but I relate to the sentiment because I feel like I'm always the last one to the party when it comes to posts. No matter how often I check in I'm always the 50th post on something. I've never met anyone IRL since I somehow managed to miss the So Cal GTG, and I am friends with no one on FB or anywhere but here. I feel like I post a lot, but I always feel like I'm late to the party or missing something. I didn't join until E was born because I was on the November 2011 since her due date was 11/1/11. But then I had a complication and had to have an earlier c-section. Maybe I feel like I'm always playing catch up because of that??????

I think this is an East Coast/West Coast thing honestly.   I always feel like I'm late to the party a lot of times too, because everyone has a 3-hour head-start.  In fact, I don't usually join in on a lot of posts because I feel like no one will bother reading my response if it's past a certain point in the day and the post is already long.

 

I definitely don't think of you (or E) as an outsider.  I actually think of you as being part of the SoCal clique (which only really exists in my mind) along with ReneeRN even though she isn't as frequent of a poster as she used to be.  And I'm sure we will eventually have another GTG, I just think it's more difficult with the fact that we're all a little spread out and a lot of us work.

joolz17

pearblossom:

I keep trying to type out a level-headed response to all this, but I just can't. This is ridiculous.

I can have a drink when I want. I can have another baby when I want. Both of those only carry POTENTIAL risks, that I, as a grownass woman can weigh and decide for myself with my doctor. And none of you should have a damn thing to say about it.

I'm not even going to touch the whining about the board getting too cliqueish lately. That's just pathetitc.

 All of you get a big

from me today.

Ditto. Would now be a good time to discuss that I'm pregnant? Hahahahaha. JUDGE AWAY MOTHERF-ERS.

BeesMomma00

pearblossom:

I keep trying to type out a level-headed response to all this, but I just can't. This is ridiculous.

I can have a drink when I want. I can have another baby when I want. Both of those only carry POTENTIAL risks, that I, as a grownass woman can weigh and decide for myself with my doctor. And none of you should have a damn thing to say about it.

I'm not even going to touch the whining about the board getting too cliqueish lately. That's just pathetic.

 All of you get a big

from me today.

Edited because I can't spell when I'm in a rage.

And FTR, I don't think it's clicky, I just relate to feeling like an outsider due to my own nerdiness.

Ms.Jade

pennysuedog:

Ms.Jade:

pearblossom:

I'm struggling here. Are you guys confessing your own insecurities or ragging on other board members? Can you elaborate on why you don't feel included? I genuinely don't understand.

I've always felt like an outsider on other boards but never here. And you guys are as regular as I am. I'm freaking FB friends with some of you.

Well I can't speak for others, but I relate to the sentiment because I feel like I'm always the last one to the party when it comes to posts. No matter how often I check in I'm always the 50th post on something. I've never met anyone IRL since I somehow managed to miss the So Cal GTG, and I am friends with no one on FB or anywhere but here. I feel like I post a lot, but I always feel like I'm late to the party or missing something. I didn't join until E was born because I was on the November 2011 since her due date was 11/1/11. But then I had a complication and had to have an earlier c-section. Maybe I feel like I'm always playing catch up because of that??????

Do you have you settings on last post date?  That helps. 

I haven't met anyone IRL and I'm not FB friends with anyone either. 

I am in no way blaming anyone for this. I am comfortable saying the truth of how I feel - I hate that I'm late to the party so much of the time and I sometimes wonder if everyone else knows one another IRL except me. Thanks for posting this Penny!!! I checked my setting and yep, I do. I am taking responsibility and making an effort to post more.  

Chunstad

Fianschneid:

BeesMomma00:

Chunstad:

I've always felt like I'm an outsider of a clique on this board as well. 

Ditto.   But I have always been this way.  Even in HS, I belonged to the cool clique but never felt IN.  I was on the fringe of cool but never quite there. 

Same. Maybe if we're all outsides, we are our own clique.

ETA: Agreed with pps, I think I'm just not as cool/funny as others or that I get to things too late to get involved. No one is excluding me by any means.

Very well said.  Maybe it's due to the time difference.  Once C is in bed, it's around 8pm PSD, all the fun stuff has already happened.  Late to the party!

Stewartandmaura

Packerfan79:

kujayhawkgirl:

BeesMomma00:

I had a glass of wine with dinner last night.  Gasp! 

Really?? Wow, maybe I'm just overly sensitive and being really strict with this pregnancy on following the "rules," but sh*t I wouldn't even think about drinking. That's ridiculous.

Not at 11 weeks for realz.

I thought these were supposed to be "flame-free!"

Ms.Jade

blu-eyedwife:

Ms.Jade:

pearblossom:

I'm struggling here. Are you guys confessing your own insecurities or ragging on other board members? Can you elaborate on why you don't feel included? I genuinely don't understand.

I've always felt like an outsider on other boards but never here. And you guys are as regular as I am. I'm freaking FB friends with some of you.

Well I can't speak for others, but I relate to the sentiment because I feel like I'm always the last one to the party when it comes to posts. No matter how often I check in I'm always the 50th post on something. I've never met anyone IRL since I somehow managed to miss the So Cal GTG, and I am friends with no one on FB or anywhere but here. I feel like I post a lot, but I always feel like I'm late to the party or missing something. I didn't join until E was born because I was on the November 2011 since her due date was 11/1/11. But then I had a complication and had to have an earlier c-section. Maybe I feel like I'm always playing catch up because of that??????

I think this is an East Coast/West Coast thing honestly.   I always feel like I'm late to the party a lot of times too, because everyone has a 3-hour head-start.  In fact, I don't usually join in on a lot of posts because I feel like no one will bother reading my response if it's past a certain point in the day and the post is already long.

 

I definitely don't think of you (or E) as an outsider.  I actually think of you as being part of the SoCal clique (which only really exists in my mind) along with ReneeRN even though she isn't as frequent of a poster as she used to be.  And I'm sure we will eventually have another GTG, I just think it's more difficult with the fact that we're all a little spread out and a lot of us work.

You're probably right about the time thing. Thank you! 

BeesMomma00

Stewartandmaura:

Packerfan79:

kujayhawkgirl:

BeesMomma00:

I had a glass of wine with dinner last night.  Gasp! 

Really?? Wow, maybe I'm just overly sensitive and being really strict with this pregnancy on following the "rules," but sh*t I wouldn't even think about drinking. That's ridiculous.

Not at 11 weeks for realz.

I thought these were supposed to be "flame-free!"

LOL... Has it EVER been flame free? 

colliebabe

Ok here's mine...not even remotely along the lines of everything else in this thread.

I have a really high sex drive and H doesn't, and I just wish he would pounce on me a couple times a week.  We've discussed it before but it hasn't gotten us anywhere. I still always intiate it. Everything else in our relationship is great, but I really want MORE SEX.  Here is the flameful part: sometimes I think about the stereotypical relationship where the man is the one who wants more sex, and I wish my H was that type of guy.  I am jealous when people post about their H wanting more sex.

 

mamaZbo

Shannon526:

Chunstad:

I've always felt like I'm an outsider of a clique on this board as well. 

Same here, but as BeesMomma said, I've kind of always been that way. With my friends IRL, I always just feel out of the loop.. or not fully in the "cool kids circle" or whatever it's called.

Maybe that's just because I'm a dork at heart.

This

joolz17

Woodsie:

My confession is that I'm jealous of all y'all who are fb friends or friends IRL. But I'm also kind of a scaredy about Internet safety and whatnot ::narrows eyes suspiciously at Oct '11:: kidding, in case it wasn't clear

Woodsie, I would totes be fb friends with you (or real life if you would come to Vancouver!), don't worry. But I know you're a suspicious lady who lives in the woods.

Liz4444

pearblossom:

I keep trying to type out a level-headed response to all this, but I just can't. This is ridiculous.

I can have a drink when I want. I can have another baby when I want. Both of those only carry POTENTIAL risks, that I, as a grownass woman can weigh and decide for myself with my doctor. And none of you should have a damn thing to say about it.

I'm not even going to touch the whining about the board getting too cliqueish lately. That's just pathetic.

 All of you get a big

from me today.

Edited because I can't spell when I'm in a rage.

Pear, I love it when you get all fun and ragey.  Can we make out now?

Liz4444

crystalbaby:

::placeholder for Biggie/Tupac image in reference to E v W::

Helpin' a sister out...

mamaZbo

I am totally checked out of work lately. I feel like I hit a wall and I just don't care. I do the work I need to do on time, but instead of looking for more to do, I just bump, read stalker blogs, and online shop. I know this means I should start looking for a new position that is a little more challenging, but it is hard to get motivated when at our performance reviews I got two thumbs up, a raise and a decent bonus and told I was doing great.

The only fortune telling/card type reading I ever did was with a voodoo priest. I had to be shirtless and not on AF for it to work. He read cowrie shells. I was not impressed.

Stewartandmaura

I confess that I am too oblivious to notice if there is any cliquey-ness on this board. It's pretty obvious that I still will post my random pointless thoughts on here. I mean, geez, who doesn't want to know about Warm Bacon Salad and The Life of Pi.

I confess that for some reason I always think that Elsa/Gator are from Florida. I think because of the nickname Gator. I have to remind myself that it isn't so. 

I confess that I am a really big dork IRL. I am usually the one who messes up cliches and thinks of smart remarks ten seconds too late to use them. Doh.

Also, if we ever had a TX GTG, you probably wouldn't like me very much. I don't make good small talk and it takes me a long time to warm up to people I just met. I cause a lot of awkward silences.

Phew! Glad to get all that off my chest. Carry on.