Intro - Needing some encouragement?

mnhudson17

Long story short? I have been married to my wonderful husband since January of this year. We got pregnant right away. Everything seemed to be going smoothly. We found out we were having a girl at 20w and also found out that the fluid levels were low. I drank as much water as I could to get them up. I went in to my next appointment at 22w4d and found out that our precious baby girl had died. We were then sent to L&D to deliver her stillborn. She was born dead the next morning, July 26, 2012. My husband and I were so devastated. We still do not have any answers as to what happened.

I am now constantly seeing my little girl?s due date on the calendar, November 25, 2012. I knew this month would be hard, but I didn?t expect it to be this hard. It is so hard for me to function at work, and to stay focused. I am sure things will get easier again when her due date passes. Do you all have any suggestions on getting through this very difficult time?

Also, is there a facebook group page?

tuscanbride2007

I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby girl, Lily Nicole. Please be gentle with yourself. Grief is a very long and winding road that we all know too well.

Have you thought about getting away on your due date or taking time for just you and your husband? For my DD's due date, we made plans, packed up and got on a plane on my actual due date. For us, it was nice to be somewhere else during that time.

((HUGS))

 

lolee465

I don't have any advice, since my due date isn't until December 18th but thinking about the upcoming holidays have been really hard for me. I just wanted to say I'm so sorry for your loss.

starburst0928

I'm so sorry you are going to be going through this with all of us. I don't have much advice, but I will say that talking about my son is very therapeutic for me. We ladies would love to hear everything you want to say about anything. Chances are we're going through, or have gone through something similar.

I can't even imagine what you are going through as your DD approaches. My son was born at 41 weeks, so I have quite a bit of time before the DD milestone happens for me. Someone on this board just had their DD milestone, and they held a balloon release. Perhaps she can speak to that more if she sees your thread.

buggirl72

I am so sorry for your loss. Take each moment one at a time and allow yourself to grieve. I find that verbalizing what is upsetting me makes me feel better. (((hugs)))

Carolee

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I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious daughter.  I'm sad to welcome you to the board, but I hope you'll find support here. 

For me, the anticipation of Eliott's due date was worse than the actual day itself.  On his due date, I kept busy.  I'm fortunate to have my mom and sister close by, so the three of us went out for the day.  I was still very sad, but not being alone helped me tremendously. 

meli1025

I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter.  I don't have a lot of advice for getting through the due date as mine is not until February, but one of my dear friends took the day off of work and took the time to mourn as she needed.  I will probably do the same thing.  Sending you hugs.   

OSUWifey09

I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I lost my son, Devon, at 34 weeks back in August due to placental abruption. He was due September 24, and the whole month of September was a mess for me. I was on medical leave at that point and didn't go back to work until October 1, so I was on my own on his due date. I kept myself busy that day - took my DS to the park, went to the mall, drove around town. I also allowed myself a lot of time to cry, reflect and grieve - I didn't fight any of the tears or the waves of emotion that came that day. Keeping busy and letting myself grieve, along with spending time with my mom [my H wasn't in town at the time], really helped get me through it. After I got through that day, I felt like I could try to move on; the days have slowly but surely gotten better in the five weeks since my due date passed.

As some of the others have said, please allow yourself the time to grieve, and focus on YOU. Do what you need to do to get through this, and know what we are here for you whenever. I hate to have to welcome yet another new face, but please lean on us as you need to. We're here. *hugs*

jbranden12

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I am so sorry for the loss of your baby girl. My Patricia was due at the end of May, and I remember I had a really hard time at the beginning of May. This was the month we had been looking forward to for SO long. It was the answer to a thousand questions of "when is the baby due?!" It was when things were supposed to be different. Up until my due date, I was just supposed to be pregnant. But at the end of May our lives were supposed to change.

I am so sorry you have to join us here. I hope you can find some comfort and support among women who understand.