Nervous as heck

HappySweetLuv

This is my first time on the site or at least on the dads to be section. My wife and I were pregnant a few months ago and sadly miscarried. So two months later we found out we are pregnant again and needless to say their was joy and anxiety over a repeat. I would not wish the experience of a miscarriage on my worst enemy and it would be extremely hard to have to see my wife go through it again. 

A few days back my wife said she thought she saw some pink after using the restroom but hadn't seen anything since. But this morning my wife wiped herself and there was a good sized bright red streak on the tissue. I'm freaking out hoping this is not a repeat and I understand this may not be a sign of anything negative, but it is driving me crazy. I actually just got a text from her saying she went to the restroom again and this time no blood. I just want to get passed this first trimester already and enjoy a healthy pregnancy and child.

Prime

Sorry you are going through this.  We unfortunately had the same result with our first pregnancy.  This week marked our making it through the first trimester, so don't give up hope.

I know it is possible to have spotting and not have a miscarriage.  I would call your doctors office and let them know what is going on.  They can give you some more information or might have you come in for a check up.

In the meantime, just do your best to stay positive.  Stress won't help anything.  Do something extra nice for your wife.   Try to help her relax.  Good luck.

Coltsdad

I too know what you are going through.  Our first pregnancy was a miscarriage, and we got pregnant 3 months later.  Those moments up to the first ultrasound (when we found out we had a blighted ovum the 1st time) were nerve wracking, and even after seeing a baby in there, the rest of the 1st trimester was still a little on edge.  Fortunately, our second pregnancy resulted in the 31 pound, almost 23 month old currently pounding chicken nuggets sitting next to me.  Hopefully the same will go for you too.

As Prime said, you can have some spotting without it meaning anything bad, hopefully that is what is happening for you.

beafather

I can't offer any advice since I am extremely fortunate to have not had to go through this. But, I am sorry to hear it and am praying that you have a successful pregnancy. Keep us posted.

RockyTopVols

I haven't experienced what you are going though but I feel for you man. I hope this time it works out for the best for you guys. Feel free to post around here. We are all pretty friendly and low-drama. Lots of different perspectives, ages, etc. We are not the most active posters on TB, but.. the regulars usually post once or twice a day.

Again I wish you guys the best and hope to see you around here. And FWIW, my wife had some spotting/bleeding as well early in her pregnancy. Her OB called it "implantation bleeding" and is common. This happened around 6-8 weeks if I recall correctly.

Good luck man.  

Wulfgar

Sorry to hear that, when I was growing up our neighbors adopted my brother since they were having a hard time conceiving.  They finally had a daughter that survived long enough to be born way early but still survive.

 

All I can say is God has plans for all of us and some just have it rougher then others.

Adamant627

Sorry to hear that you guys are going though this. My wife and I went though the same thing back in October of last year. After we found out she was pregnant we shortly ended up in the ER one night to find out the she had a blighted ovum. Then in June we found out she was pregnant again.
We ended up in the hospital one night again due to some bleeding but nothing came of it. All summer depending on how much water she drank at least that was the only veriable we could find she would have spotting. Then she got though the first tri and now we are past vday and almost into her third tri :.
The best thing I can say is be there for her, stay strong and talk to people. I know the boards have help her a lot and I may not post a lot but I read a lot and if you have any questions feel free to ask

BLPL101

Not a dad, but I bled for two months at the beginning of this pregnancy. I assumed the worse, but I ended up with an SCH that resolved on it's own. I'm 30 weeks now and everything is going great

ladyjenna13

HappySweetLuv:

This is my first time on the site or at least on the dads to be section. My wife and I were pregnant a few months ago and sadly miscarried. So two months later we found out we are pregnant again and needless to say their was joy and anxiety over a repeat. I would not wish the experience of a miscarriage on my worst enemy and it would be extremely hard to have to see my wife go through it again. 

A few days back my wife said she thought she saw some pink after using the restroom but hadn't seen anything since. But this morning my wife wiped herself and there was a good sized bright red streak on the tissue. I'm freaking out hoping this is not a repeat and I understand this may not be a sign of anything negative, but it is driving me crazy. I actually just got a text from her saying she went to the restroom again and this time no blood. I just want to get passed this first trimester already and enjoy a healthy pregnancy and child.

Man, this sounds like the days I used to stress through when we were pregnant.  We lost our first one at 11 weeks by MC, so I can totally understand what it is you are going through right now.

Easy to say, but try not to stress out over it.  I know with the one we lost we were stressing over it 24-7 for weeks and weeks.  We believe to this day that the stress and worry we brought into the situation only aided the end result. Now mind you, we had warning signs via the low HB of the embryo, but our reactions may have contributed.

With our LO, we refused to see the doctor until week ten, we didn't tell anyone, and we basically just relaxed more and held true to the mantra that it was all in God's hands.

Spotting can be caused by implantation.  This is really something to be aware of.  Most women do spot in the first trimester, and there are other sources of bleeding as well.  I hate to say this, but I remember every single moment of the day we lost our first baby, and my wife was bleeding at the rate of a period. Spotting can be caused by anything, but a MC is a whole different level of bleeding and discomfort. I know you know that already, based on your own experiences. 

Just try to stay calm, remember that there is going to be some bleeding from time to time, and depend on each other for strength and energy. I was never a fan of the first trimester, and it is for this reason alone. Any support you may need here, just feel free to ask. Our group of dad's here is a class group, and we all know exactly what you are going through.

Peace Out!

DavidStamps

Sorry to hear about your situation. We went through the same thing and the entire pregnancy that was finally full term still didn't give us any peace. My wife basically said she will be nervous until she holds her child in her arms. Here we are with a 7 week old and are still nervous about everything little thing. All I can offer is to have faith and hang in there. It will get a little easier and you will have good news flooded your way soon.

bmoscowitz

I feel for you, man.  We had two losses both around 8 weeks, a year apart.  It is totally natural to be nervous as heck, but try to be strong for your wife.  Whatever you are feeling, she is feeling 10 times worse, be it nervousness or (previously) loss.  2 months after our second loss, we tried again and I am happy to say that my wife is almost 19 weeks pregnant now and so far, so good! 

 

I hold my breath during every sonogram and every test result, by I hold my wife's hand even harder.