Could use a little encouragment after a High Risk pregnancy and c-section

Heather2884

Is anyone else struggling with the decision of what to do about birth control, whether is is permanent or reversible? My sweet girl is 6 weeks old!  I had a planned Caesarean due to my health complications.  My pregnancy consisted of 8 months of bed rest or extremely limited activity and lots of medication.  It was very debilitating and needless to same not a safe option for the future.  I had considered having a tubal litigation at the time of the c-section, but opted not to because of the emotional effect of both a new child and a tubal.  I had planed to do the Essure instead. 

 Now, even though I know it is a terrible idea, I am saddened that pregnancy is not an option for me again and that my baby will most likely be an only child.  I didn't expect to feel this way and am confused because I was so overcome with relief when the pregnancy was over.  Does anyone else have these feelings?

 I guess I will talk to my doctor and see what she recommends.  I just wonder if I should wait to do something permanent until I am more comfortable with the decision. However, if I did get pregnant again, it would be very bad.  Sigh, I guess I am just sad and still a little hormonal.  It probably doesn't help that there is still a little soreness sticking around.  However, the c-section was the best option for me and I am thankful for it. 

 Oh yeah, my baby spent 5 days in NICU.  It was dangerous to her too, so I know in my heart I cannot take the risk again

mommybear77

I'm sorry that you are going through all of this.  Both my pregnancies where bad and it took me 9 years to have the second one.  I agree that you are not emotionally ready to have a tubal.  I plan on going on the Depo shot until I finish going through menopause, I originally wanted a tubal but at the last minute decided against it.

thehauffamily

IDK your situation but my first pregnancy was HORRIBLE also!  But, our 2nd and now our 3rd are nothing like our first.  Are they SURE your next pg would be just as bad as this one?  IDK, my dr doesn't recommend getting your tubes tied until 1 year after baby is born just b/c so many things can happen during that first year (parents change their minds, SIDS, etc etc).  If you are even CONSIDERING having more, I DO NOT recommend the depo shot!  It is the cause to all our fertility problems and wacko periods!  

GL is whatever you choose, I would speak to your dr. I wanted a few types of b/c but my OB talked me out of them b/c of specific risks.  I would ask your OB.   

willy_gert

I would totally talk to your doctor and to your significant other.  I had a not so great pregnancy and have pretty much decided that I do not want to have any more children, because of the toll it took on me emotionally and physically.  Also remember that just because you don't have anymore biological kids, doesn't mean your child has to be an only or that your family can't grow!  Adoption is fantastic and I think that when we are ready to make a more permanent decision on birth control that will be an option that we discuss!  Because I am breastfeeding my doctor put me on a low hormone pill to keep me from getting pregnant!  I can't remember the name right now, but if you are interested I can find it out for you!  Good Luck!

Nwlywed07

Talk it over with your doctor and SO. Not every pregnancy is the same. We had a horrible experience trying to keep LO in for 39 weeks but we did it, with medical intervention. Every pregnancy is different though and now that we know what to "possibly" expect and what drugs and meds will work next time we feel more comfortable having another one. It's all up to what their professional opinion is and what/how you are going to prepare if you do decide to have another. I personally would hold off on doing anything permanent. I also would hold off on having another until LO was old enough to entertain herself and understand that you may not be able to physically do as much with her, in case you do have to do bed rest, etc. again. Good luck on your decision!