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First Baby and I am a nervous wreck!

bethbymabethbyma member
in July 2013 Moms

Hey Ladies!

 This is my first baby and I am due in July as well. My husband and I are very excited to be welcoming our first child. My sister in law had a miscarriage recently so I am nervous about having one, it's always worse when you know someone close to you that has had a miscarriage. Every time I get a little cramps I get nervous. I just can't wait till I get into the doctors in two weeks for my first visit.

 Any advice from moms out there or what I should be working on in the first trimester? When did you tell your family the big news?

Thanks,

Beth :)  

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  • luckylindyluckylindy member

    Congratulations and welcome!!

     

    I am STM and my biggest advice is to just enjoy your pregnancy. Don't worry about m/c. If it happens, it happens and you will eventually heal. I say this after having one myself. For now, just enjoy each and every day because it goes by very fast! 

     

    As for telling- we told my mom and dad yesterday and this morning. My ILs will be told with the rest of our family and friends once we pass 12w and get our first u/s. But the choice is up to you when to tell. :)


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  • plaidgirl117plaidgirl117 member

    Hey, Beth.

    Congrats!  I get the nervous wreck thing.  With my first, I spent the whole first tri worrying that every cramp meant impending doom.  As you can see by my ticker,it didn't.  It is hard not having control or having a window down there so that you can see everything is fine.  We don't have any guarantees, and that is hard, but hope and love can only help your LO. 

    We were 9 or 10 weeks along when we told my family.  I don't remember what made the decision for us... it may have been my birthday?  My OB told me not to waste time worrying that something could happen but to live in the reality that I was pregnant and to focus on the future.  Don't know if that helps. I also was thankful (after a fashion) for my symptoms because they told me my body was actively getting ready for a baby.  (I had all-day sickness for about 6 mos, which I hated, but it made me feel oddly connected.  Wouldn't be sick if I wasn't pregnant, right?

    Congratulations! Best of luck and happy and healthy pregnancy to you!

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  • bunnymama625bunnymama625 member

    STM here-- last time we told family at 9 weeks because we were seeing them for Thanksgiving (they live about a 12 hour drive away) and we told everyone else when the first tri was over.

    This time, we are debating-- I'll only be 7 weeks when we see family, but we won't see them again until the spring sometime. Ironically, my close group of friends all know because they were with me on the whole TTGP journey. Guess we are doing it in reverse this time!

    Usually once you've seen the heartbeat, you are less likely to miscarry, so you are a bit safer to tell people. I have an ultrasound the week before Thanksgiving, so I think we'll wait to see how that goes before we decide.

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  • new2011mommynew2011mommy member
    Congratulations! I was nervous my whole pregnancy last time. I know it is hard not to worry. I am trying not to be so nervous this time. We already told our immediate families and close friends. We did the same last time too. I get so excited that I cannot keep this secret. I have my first appointment the week before Thanksgiving so if my appointment goes well, we will tell my aunt, uncle, and cousin on thanksgiving. DH has a huge family so we will only be with his immediate family at thanksgiving. If his extended family does a Christmas party, we will tell then.
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  • manateemommanateemom member

    Congratulations!

    I know what you mean about being nervous. With my first pregnancy I didn't relax till I could feel the baby move. This time around DD keeps me so busy I don't have time to worry about it. Just take it one day at the time and try to enjoy it. Pregnancy goes by pretty fast.

    We're waiting till after first u/s to tell the family.

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  • jldubb0626jldubb0626 member

    Congrats! It's completely normal to worry.  I was the same way and I wish I could go back and enjoy my last pregnancy more. There isn't anything you can do to prevent it. With this LO, I have DS to take care of so it's not on my mind as much as last time.

    We're going to wait until the holidays to announce. My parents and IL's already know.

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  • Amanda&EricBAmanda&EricB member

    I have one child and it is no easier this time around! I'm very nervous as well. Each milestone you hit, will make things a little easier.

    My advice is, rest while you can! And enjoy the pregnancy.

    We will tell our families sometime after the first u/s, around 6-7 weeks (we have a u/s that early due to previous issues).

     

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  • l5e3a2h4l5e3a2h4 member
    This is my first baby too and I have to admit although I'm excited, I am nervous. We planned it so you would think that'd take some of the shock factor out but NOPE! We are actually going to try to hold out telling our families and friends until Christmas just so we can give them the best Christmas ever!

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  • surfmamaSDsurfmamaSD

    Beth,

     This is my 1st preg, too, and I go between total anxiety to complete excitement multiple times a day.  I am nervous if I feel cramps.  I'm nervous if I don't.  Sometimes I still take my temp in the AM, and if it's a little bit below 98 degrees, I get scared.  If I wake up and my breasts don't hurt, I worry. Etc, etc. 

     

    I just started reading "Fearless Pregnancy" by Victoria Clayton.  It's a great book for FTM's.  It is co-written by a male MD and a female midwife.  I highly recommend it.

     

    As far as telling, she recommends waiting until after the 1st ultrasound.  But, we are telling close friends and family now anyway :) My 1st U/S isn't until the Monday after T-day.  I am too much of an open book to keep it to myself.

     

    Tamara 

     

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  • NiciDoniNiciDoni member

    Congrats! This is my first pregnancy and I'm pretty worried too. I'd say it's normal. I'm just trying to not let it consume me.

    My first appointment is Nov 27 and I'll be one day shy of 8 weeks so I feel like once I get to that point and know there is a heartbeat I'll feel a lot better. I'm sure you'll feel better too once you hear it. We just gotta be patient and breathe. ^.^

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  • Pink724Pink724 member
    Congratulations and welcome!  Some of the best advice I've heard on TB is to say to yourself, "Today, I am pregnant, I am happy, and I love my baby."  I repeat that whenever I feel myself getting overly anxious, and it helps.  
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