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Filing SOON!!!!
Visited with the lawyer today, walked out with a proposed separation/divorce agreement. I am waiting until next week to show to H. His 50th birthday is Saturday. I won?t be so cold hearted to hand him the paperwork on his birthday weekend, so I?ll do it some evening next week.
I think I?ve worked out a fair deal, and have some room to negotiate. I am hoping that he sees it as fair and agrees and I can file in less than 2 weeks.
He?s applied for 3 new jobs. Nothing yet on the other one ? the guy is out on vacation. It?s still a possibility.
BSC SD has reared her ugly head again. No surprise. And as expected, she is now daddy?s little girl again. She?s acting all protective and devoted now. Wants to come get him if he needs her to. She wants to come visit once H and I split. She has been telling H lies about the last email exchange from way back in May, so I printed it out and asked him to please read. It will damage her more than me. I have nothing to hide. In the emails, I defended H and she threw him under the bus. She texted him yesterday asking ?Would you please ask your soon to be ex to unblock me from your facebook because I can?t even friend my own father.? H asked me to help him with it and I said, ?I don?t have to help you with it. It was already done a longass time ago before I resigned my duties of managing your facebook page for you. Please tell her that.? I don?t have access anymore, but managing his facebook page for him was one of the things he asked me to to do. HE told me to block her. I so wanted to text back and say, ?Dear future X stepdaughter, for the record, YOU un-friended him for what, the 20th time? YOU disowned him for what, the 50th time?? I think you need to make up your fcking mind. And if you had CHECKED, instead of ASSUMED you would have seen that I did that quite some time ago. So go kiss my ass. ? Your future ECSTATIC soon to be x step mom.? That?s my dream text. But I?m not engaging. Just telling myself to smile and say it will all be over soon.
SD, SS, MIL and a few others are listed as unable to have unsupervised visits. I will enforce it as much as I possibly can.
If H moves to Texas, I am not worried. I think all will work out just fine for DD and I. I am seeing a tiny little light at the end of the tunnel and happy to say that I know for certain that this time?it?s not a train.
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Re: Filing SOON!!!!
No shocker that SD is back on the scene. If anything it should reinforce to you that you are doing the right thing.
J did I ever tell you that I am truly sorry it has come to this. From the bottom of my heart I wish you and dd all the best.
I wish for peace and happiness for you both xxx
Thank you Phantom. I think a few of you have and I appreciate it.
I got home tonite and he tells me he finally read the email exchange STBXSD and I had and says he "talked to her about it". I'm thinking "too late" but ask why and what about. He says he told her she should not talk about him that way ever and she apparently she said it because she was angry.
Okay, well, I was angry too, but I did not lie, threaten her, or throw her under the bus. I spoke the truth. I told him, "That's a pretty serious issue for her, and being angry is not excuse for it. It's inexcusable." and then I said, "You know, she gets that from you. You do it too, and it's one of the reasons I'm leaving."
He had nothing to say on that.
He then tells me that SS wants to talk to me. (great). Why I ask. He wants to apologize. Okay, well, put it in a letter. I really don't care to hear it. Again, too late. If he ever does apologize, I'll accept his apology if it's genuine, but he will know that I can never trust him again and that I am quickly moving on soon and looking forward to it.
I soooooo look forward to a normal, peaceful life.