Update on Developmental Meeting

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SO i wrote a few weeks ago about how I was a little concerned about my son's expressive/receptive language skills. He is currently 15 months old, but 12 months adjusted. I had a developmental meeting a few weeks ago, and was SO nervous about what they were going to tell me!

 We finally got in, and everything came in at about 12-14 months range. Nothing was lower, which helped me relax a little.

The nurse asked me what was my main concern, and since she already knew that I'm an SLP, i told her I was concerned about his language. I told her he still wasn't calling me "mama" or his dad "dada" exclusively, and wasn't copying some of the things I would show him (i.e. clapping, waving goodbye, etc). He would do it on his own time, but not because I was prompting him.

She told me not to worry about it....and THEN she calls me back 4 days later to tell me that she scored the testing in depth because she knew I was concerned and his language skills were around 10-12 months. She said that she was going to refer him for early intervention, but doesn't know if he is going to qualify for services because he is really on the cusp of things. I had a hard time that night, because I left the dr's office on Thursday feeling a little relieved, and then she drops this bomb on me. I'm also feeling guilty because i'm thinking to myself, "if my son was born full term, would I be worried as much about this, and what would I be doing to address this problem?" and of course the professional in me is asking myself if i'm "pushing" all of this too quickly, or am I doing what is best for my son.

My husband told me to leave it alone. That we need to give DS some credit for all that he HAS accomplished after being born 12 weeks early. If anyone knows me, they know how much credit I give to my son for ALL he has done. Even though at his own pace, he has continued to blossom, and never skipped a beat! I'm so proud of him and all he has done! I just don't know which hat to wear right now and its killing me. I spoke to one of my co-workers who brought up a good point about waiting until he turns about 18 months, and if I still have these concerns, to then go forward with the evaluation. By then, he will have been in day care for a month or so, and maybe will have picked up on a little more? I think her idea is great. I don't want to feel like i'm pushing him to get tested. I'm really laid back when it comes to everything else, but like i said, when it comes to this, i'm haviing trouble wearing the "mommy" hat.

 

What would you do?