Missing Out

loganlac

Ugh - Most days I enjoy going to work and have been ok since day number one of DD in daycare.  But today is her daycare's Halloween Parade and party.  I don't know if a lot of parents go but I just started a new job a couple months ago and I feel so bad that I am missing out.  Plus it doesn't help that she is going through a super needy phase right now.

Sorry for the sad post - just missing DD a ton right now.

EastCoastBride

DS's preschool doesn't 1- do costumes and 2- their party does NOT include parents.  And the lack of parents is largely due to what yo uwrote - as some parents simply can't make it, those kids are upset, so they just say "no parents" at all so that the kids can all have fun at their party.

MirandaHobbes

I know you just started, but especially when DS was young, I always just took these days off! This is the first year I haven't, honestly, because he's not really into his costume for some reason. I'm definitely leaving early so we can get dressed, carve pumpkins, etc. I think it's worth the use of PTO!

sarahandtim

My friend actually ended up becoming a SAHM after something like that. Her daughter's preschool had a Mother's Day program and her LO came home crying because she was "the only one without a mommy" that day because my friend couldn't get the day off. She said that made her really reevaluate things. It is definitely hard. Hang in there!

CEBandDAO

DS is only 3 months but his school is having a parade today and I won't be there. Granted, he will most likely sleep through it. Regardless, I understand how you feel. Its his first Halloween and he is dressed up as the CUTEST Tiger EVER. I hate that I am missing out on this fun activity.

 When you pick up your LO today, are you taking her Trick or Treating? I think that, or passing out candy together at home, will give you both a fun activity to do together as a family. You can make memories that way.

Hugs to you today! Have some candy corn to ease your pain

jlaOK

DS is 2 and I have never been to one of his daycare parties.  I figure when he is older and requests me to go to them, then I probably will go.  Right now, though, he doesn't make the distinction of some mommies go and some don't.

loganlac

Thanks everyone!  I am feeling a little bit better about things.  It started at 10 so I'm sure its almost over by now so I think that is helping me.  I live in Ohio and we had trick-or-treat last night and it was cold and windy so we only went to 3 houses and then handed out candy together as a family but we did have fun last night making some Halloween memories. 

Hope you have a great Halloween with all your LO's this year!!

brewcitybride

I'm missing my babies today, too. DD has a Halloween party at daycare today, and I dropped her off and they were all so cute! DS is home with my mom today, and I worked late last night, and am going out to dinner tonight with friends, so my time with him as been not so much this week:( These weeks can be hard. BUT, I always look ahead to the positive - I am taking half a day on Friday, and will have a long quality weekend with the kids. You can only do so much. I always focus on quality, not quantity.

LoCarb

Fortunately, our school has a webcam I can watch the parade from my desk. In the afternoon, the classrooms will have a party. As a voyeur, I can assure you there are not many parents who do attend the functions. Usually, I see one or two. DD1 is old enough to understand parents work (actually that's all she knows) and kids go to school-that's just the way it is.  I try to make it to one party or event each year. This yr, I chaperoned a school field trip. It's not a bad goal, just focus on the  positive like ToT'ng tonight and not on what you are missing out on.

Printergirl

It's part of the wm thing and you just need to be okay that you can't be at everytihng. I try to but even with a very flexible boss I have clients that need to be taken care of and I need my PTO for sick time.

I'm missing DS1s party today bc it's this morning but attending DS2s this afternoon. Same center. I had hoped to make both but it just isn't in the cards. I'm bringing a snack to DS1s class before I go to DS2s party.

Do what you can when you can and know that your child will know you love them!

 

Netty_3

I feel ya.  I was lucky that a meeting I had on the day of his Fall Festival got out early enough for me to get there in time for it, since it would have been dumb for me to drive back to work, just to get there 15 minutes after I would have left work anyhow.

laurakaz13

I've been away for business for almost 3 weeks and haven't seen DD for 2 weeks.  I flew home that weekend.  I really miss her today too. She went to school as a black cat and I would have definitely left work at lunch to go see all the kids and attend their little party.  :-(