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I did something baaaad...

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So maybe I should save this for FFFC, but lets face it...it's not flame free.

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When we found out the gender of our baby, last September we told my family but waited to announce it to friends and Dh's family because we were flying to see DH's family and wanted to do a cake reveal. An uncle of mine didn't know that and said congrats on the baby girl on FB. I deleted it almost as soon as he posted it, but my oldest SIL saw it and told a couple people in my DH's family. She knew the plan of waiting and us doing a cake reveal.  Well, I am pretty sure everyone knew we were having a girl...but they deny it because they knew how important it was to us. I confronted her about it and she still thinks it was okay to do that even though she knew we wants to wait.

 

WELL, she is 20 weeks pregnant. Guess what she found out yesterday...

Yep. I was with my MIL when she told her that they're having a boy. She wanted to tell everyone that night at dinner. I text my DH and told him... Then...this is bad. I posted my status on FB as "YAY! another little boy in the family." That's not all though...I tagged her in the post. 

She deleted the tag and a couple people didn't see it...so she still got to announce it to some people. 

I feel bad. I really actually feel bad. My anger came back to me and I acted on it. I did not apologize to her, if she confronts me I will.

I am a jerk, but it felt good to give her a taste of what she did to us.  Next time around, we aren't finding out the gender so she won't be able to spoil it for us. And for her next baby I won't spoil it.

Flame me...I expect it.Embarrassed



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  • kittyh8rkittyh8r member
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    ooooh, girl...

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    I knooooooow. I am awful.This gif is hilarious though.


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  • runrinserepeatrunrinserepeat member

    Meh... completely understandable, especially if you confronted her about it and she didn't think she did anything wrong. I bet now she gets it.

    Pass the sheet cake.

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  • michelle7482michelle7482 member
    I think that's hilarious!  BTW, what did your DH think of what you did?

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  • MeganSonyMeganSony member
    This just kind of makes me laugh. IMO if you don't want someone to know, then don't tell anyone. Obviously word gets out, people blab.
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  • Jen0204Jen0204 member
    If I were her, I would have said to you when she told you "hey, now that I'm pregnant I understand what a big deal it is to tell people for yourself. I feel really bad that I told people before you had a chance to". I bet we all would have secretly wanted to retaliate, but knowing how much it hurt you and having been in that position I think it's kind of worse what you did. I would never make a big announcement for someone else, but I bet she didn't understand exactly how big of a deal it was. Though you were wrong - and acknowledge it - I bet you wouldn't have done it if she had at least acknowledged what she did and took some responsibility. Hopefully she can move on and you didn't cause a family spat. Was H pissed? Mine would have been furious (as would I if he had done that).
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  • LawrenLawren member
    I think it's funny. I can't stand my SIL, so I totally understand.
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  • kittyh8rkittyh8r member

    imagemichelle7482:
    I think that's hilarious!  BTW, what did your DH think of what you did?

     

    He doesn't think I did anything wrong. haha He wanted to send a mass text, too. 

     

    The problem is, She has had a daughter before so she knew that it was a big deal before this pregnancy with her son. So when she blabbed about our gender reveal she knew how big a deal it was. So the fact that she knew how special it was before and still did it makes me so mad...but I did it to her yesterday...so I guess we're even. I am horrible. Embarrassed



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  • jldubb0626jldubb0626 member
    I'm conflicted. On one hand, I think she kinda had it coming to her. She blabbed your secret and "ruined" your surprise. And honestly, my gut reaction was laughter when I read this. But, on the other hand it was wrong what you did.  How does your DH feel about this? DH has 5 sisters, so depending on which one it was, he'd either side with me or be furious at me.
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  • lancyjolancyjo member
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    Meh... completely understandable, especially if you confronted her about it and she didn't think she did anything wrong. I bet now she gets it.

    This.

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    imageEmmaBoBemma:

    He doesn't think I did anything wrong. haha He wanted to send a mass text, too. 

    The problem is, She has had a daughter before so she knew that it was a big deal before this pregnancy with her son. So when she blabbed about our gender reveal she knew how big a deal it was. So the fact that she knew how special it was before and still did it makes me so mad...but I did it to her yesterday...so I guess we're even. I am horrible. Embarrassed

    Ok, now I totally agree with kleMck. My hubs would have just chuckled and shook his head if this was our situation. (If the chick was a FTM, he'd be annoyed with me for being "immature" and not being "the bigger person")

    You're not horrible, not IMO. Was it sucky? yes, and you own up to it. And really, it's just a gender reveal. NBD, I think.

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  • jmccall79jmccall79 member
    2 wrongs don't make a right...yeah, we all know that. However, I kind of giggled! That probably makes me a bad person for thinking it's funny. My sister's SIL would've done something like this to her...that's why they don't tell her ANYTHING! I'm sorry she blabbed on you and made you angry enough to retaliate. Hopefully it won't cause WWIII with the family.

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  • runrinserepeatrunrinserepeat member
    imageEmmaBoBemma:

    imagemichelle7482:
    I think that's hilarious!  BTW, what did your DH think of what you did?

     

    He doesn't think I did anything wrong. haha He wanted to send a mass text, too. 

     

    The problem is, She has had a daughter before so she knew that it was a big deal before this pregnancy with her son. So when she blabbed about our gender reveal she knew how big a deal it was. So the fact that she knew how special it was before and still did it makes me so mad...but I did it to her yesterday...so I guess we're even. I am horrible. Embarrassed

    This makes it even worse, in my opinion (on her part, not yours). She knew what a big deal it was, and she blabbed anyway, then when confronted didn't think she did anything wrong? I'd be surprised if she has the gall to confront you, you've got the perfect defense here.

    Pass the sheet cake.

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  • amber31288amber31288
    I would have really wanted to do what you did if I was in your situation. It might be a little petty or immature, but it's also probably the only way she will understand what she did to you and how you felt. So, she had it coming, IMO. And it made me laugh!
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    imagekleMcK:
    imageEmmaBoBemma:

    imagemichelle7482:
    I think that's hilarious!  BTW, what did your DH think of what you did?

     

    He doesn't think I did anything wrong. haha He wanted to send a mass text, too. 

     

    The problem is, She has had a daughter before so she knew that it was a big deal before this pregnancy with her son. So when she blabbed about our gender reveal she knew how big a deal it was. So the fact that she knew how special it was before and still did it makes me so mad...but I did it to her yesterday...so I guess we're even. I am horrible. Embarrassed

    This makes it even worse, in my opinion (on her part, not yours). She knew what a big deal it was, and she blabbed anyway, then when confronted didn't think she did anything wrong? I'd be surprised if she has the gall to confront you, you've got the perfect defense here.

    Yeah, with this information I retract what I said. And if she confronts you my response would be "Oh, since you told everyone that we were having a girl and didn't get why I was mad I had no idea that this would bother you. You made it clear that revealing the gender wasn't a big deal in your mind and I was so excited that I just wanted to congratulate you publicly." There is no way I'd apologize. 

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  • kittyh8rkittyh8r member
    imagelancyjo:
    imagekleMcK:

    Meh... completely understandable, especially if you confronted her about it and she didn't think she did anything wrong. I bet now she gets it.

    This. I do think it was sucky of you, but it's just a gender reveal, not exactly the end of the world. It's not like you spilled the beans about her being pregnant. (I tend to be a bit more laid back about that sort of thing though)

    What did your hubs think about it? Mine probably would have been annoyed, just because he would dub it "immature" and he hates when we're not "the bigger person". (can you tell he's had to kick my butt a time or two? Darn temper of mine...)

    None of my DH's siblings can stand this SIL because she is so dramatic and annoying...and I am of course the only one willing to stand up to her and show her that she can't walk all over me. DH and the rest of the siblings and spouses thought it was hilarious but were kind of hiding while waiting for her reaction. The fall out should be epic. I will keep you all updated. (:



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  • lancyjolancyjo member
    imagekleMcK:
    imageEmmaBoBemma:

    imagemichelle7482:
    I think that's hilarious!  BTW, what did your DH think of what you did?

     

    He doesn't think I did anything wrong. haha He wanted to send a mass text, too. 

     

    The problem is, She has had a daughter before so she knew that it was a big deal before this pregnancy with her son. So when she blabbed about our gender reveal she knew how big a deal it was. So the fact that she knew how special it was before and still did it makes me so mad...but I did it to her yesterday...so I guess we're even. I am horrible. Embarrassed

    This makes it even worse, in my opinion (on her part, not yours). She knew what a big deal it was, and she blabbed anyway, then when confronted didn't think she did anything wrong? I'd be surprised if she has the gall to confront you, you've got the perfect defense here.

    I think I'm just going to start letting you post my responses. You say what I am thinking better than I do in my cold-medicine haze. Stick out tongue

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  • runrinserepeatrunrinserepeat member
    imagelancyjo:
    imagekleMcK:
    imageEmmaBoBemma:

    imagemichelle7482:
    I think that's hilarious!  BTW, what did your DH think of what you did?

     

    He doesn't think I did anything wrong. haha He wanted to send a mass text, too. 

     

    The problem is, She has had a daughter before so she knew that it was a big deal before this pregnancy with her son. So when she blabbed about our gender reveal she knew how big a deal it was. So the fact that she knew how special it was before and still did it makes me so mad...but I did it to her yesterday...so I guess we're even. I am horrible. Embarrassed

    This makes it even worse, in my opinion (on her part, not yours). She knew what a big deal it was, and she blabbed anyway, then when confronted didn't think she did anything wrong? I'd be surprised if she has the gall to confront you, you've got the perfect defense here.

    I think I'm just going to start letting you post my responses. You say what I am thinking better than I do in my cold-medicine haze. Stick out tongue

    Yes I gotcha covered :)

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  • fraseyfrasey member
    imagekleMcK:

    Meh... completely understandable, especially if you confronted her about it and she didn't think she did anything wrong. I bet now she gets it.

    this. I probably would have done the same thing as you. Now you're even tho!
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    imagekleMcK:
    imageEmmaBoBemma:

    imagemichelle7482:
    I think that's hilarious!  BTW, what did your DH think of what you did?

     

    He doesn't think I did anything wrong. haha He wanted to send a mass text, too. 

     

    The problem is, She has had a daughter before so she knew that it was a big deal before this pregnancy with her son. So when she blabbed about our gender reveal she knew how big a deal it was. So the fact that she knew how special it was before and still did it makes me so mad...but I did it to her yesterday...so I guess we're even. I am horrible. Embarrassed

    This makes it even worse, in my opinion (on her part, not yours). She knew what a big deal it was, and she blabbed anyway, then when confronted didn't think she did anything wrong? I'd be surprised if she has the gall to confront you, you've got the perfect defense here.

    Yeah, with this information I retract what I said. And if she confronts you my response would be "Oh, since you told everyone that we were having a girl and didn't get why I was mad I had no idea that this would bother you. You made it clear that revealing the gender wasn't a big deal in your mind and I was so excited that I just wanted to congratulate you publicly." There is no way I'd apologize. 

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  • btartaroindbtartaroind member
    I would never have had the balls to do what you did. The longer I think about it, since she had no remorse for what she did to you, and it wasn't a big deal, then obviously it shouldn't matter that you did it back to her, because it's "no big deal". If you did it to a normal person, then yes it is mean and wrong. But since she evidently doesn't care, then what's the difference! If she had apologized to you after what she did to you, then I would think differently.

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  • kittyh8rkittyh8r member

    Thanks ladies. I know I should have been the bigger person...but I just couldn't let it go. I would never do this to anyone else.

    Quite frankly if she confronts me, she can suck it. Big Smile



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  • jmccall79jmccall79 member
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    Thanks ladies. I know I should have been the bigger person...but I just couldn't let it go. I would never do this to anyone else.

    Quite frankly if she confronts me, she can suck it. Big Smile

    My evil wheels are turning, so forgive me, but you said she untagged herself?  Does she lurk on FB on all day...go tag her again!  Oh, wait, did the reveal happen already?  If so, never mind.

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  • kittyh8rkittyh8r member
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    imageEmmaBoBemma:

    Thanks ladies. I know I should have been the bigger person...but I just couldn't let it go. I would never do this to anyone else.

    Quite frankly if she confronts me, she can suck it. Big Smile

    My evil wheels are turning, so forgive me, but you said she untagged herself?  Does she lurk on FB on all day...go tag her again!  Oh, wait, did the reveal happen already?  If so, never mind.

    Yep, she already announced it on FB. (:



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