Bump Comments - Just need to vent

2moms2b

Ladies I really just need to vent for a second. 

Let me start this by saying I am pregnant with twins, I have no torso starting this pregnancy at 5'3" and 105lbs.  I have a very round bump that I love and yes I am measuring about 10 weeks ahead.  I post a weekly bump photo on FB to share with my mom, sisters etc as they are not close to where I am.  I don't make a big deal just add a photo to the album and label it.

I always label the photos XX week baby bump.  The last few posts a friend of mine continues to comment "That is not a bump but a boulder" or "You will never make it to January if you are already that big".  I know she is just trying to be funny but it actually makes me mad.  I will say this is the same friend before I was pregnant always was vocal to anyone we were around about how jealous she was of my size and how cute and petite I was etc.  

Who would ever say something that you will never make it to term!!! She even has kids!   She knows I have already had PTL scares!!!!!!!!!

I don't want to cause drama by deleting her from my fb as she is that type of person but I am getting really tired of trying to share this with my family and her commenting negativity.    I just needed to get that off my chest before I respond to her lovely comment this week with something mean.

Thanks for reading!

pitterpatter129

That stinks.  People just don't think sometimes.  I would just block her from seeing your pictures on facebook.  When you post them, next to "post" it says "friends", click on that and hit custom.  You can block just her from seeing them.  Then you won't have to deal with her.    I'm sure your bump is beautiful!

 

 

amberrae45

I second PP, I'm sure your bump is adorable and sometimes people don't really think about their words before they say them or in your case type them. I wouldn't delete her but I would block her from viewing your bump pics.

ellephunt

I would start blocking her from your pictures too. I don't understand why pregnancy opens up comments on size. Too small/too big; all it does it make you worry or feel bad. 

chelsea13elyse

This! If she has nothing nice to say don't give her the chance of saying anything at all. People seem to not understand what is appropriate and what is inappropriate when it comes to pregnancy and our bumps. I had a lady at Lowe's ask me how far along I was and then when I responded with "six months" she proceeded to tell say "oh, wow, so you're having more than one right?" given the fact that i'm only having one i was pretty irritated by her comment but she obviously saw no problem with it. 

LegsMcGee

I agree with everyone on here.... don't delete as to avoid the drama that someone of her personality will definitely start, but customize who is able to view your photos.  And if she somehow finds out, just say you wanted to keep it very close and personal for family. Or say something sarcastic like "if you've seen one boulder, you've seen 'em all...didn't think you really needed another picture".  Hopefully she'll get the point.

I have no patience for people who don't think before they speak. 

vrlc1403

I agree.. block her from your pics. and then if she notices and asks why you haven't posted any lately you can tell her you were tired of the comments. People keep telling me I look further along than I am, maybe I'm carrying twins, etc.  I have asked my OB so many times if my weight gain is appropriate and if my belly seems out of control.  She always assures me everything is right on track and my weight gain is where it should be.  She even said "nice belly!" last month lol Then today, someone said it looks like my bump has stopped growing.  Really? First tell me how big I am, now tell me I'm not growing? Make me think something's wrong either way! ahhhh people suck sometimes!

fmw0526

I think we are all in agreement here. I would either post pictures for just "custom views". or just email the photos to your family.

I have also been known to immediately delete comments I see like that on my page. I get not wanting to "de-friend" but....If you dont have anything nice to say, you shouldn't say anything at all! Maybe she would start to get the idea if all her comments disappeared. 

fmw0526

Just another completely snarky, rude thought: The next picture you post should say "XX amount of weeks. Yes, I have a huge stomach, but I am growing two humans. What is your excuse?!" :-)

Rynleigh

wtf. You throw up your bump pics every week or two on here and I think you look completely normal, especially with two. I carry a lot in my rib cage and hips, so my bumps take a long time to really pop out - I just start looking like a rectangle from the front... but since I'm assuming that you just have a totally normal body and don't have extra storage space, those boys have no where to go but out! Screw the people who want to exaggerate... 

ortjl7

People are really stupid! I can't believe the comments people think are okay to make!

Heartstrings13

That sucks. If she's not the type of person you can talk to about it, just delete her comments and block her from seeing your photos. You don't need the extra stress.

osirismama

fmw0526:

Just another completely snarky, rude thought: The next picture you post should say "XX amount of weeks. Yes, I have a huge stomach, but I am growing two humans. What is your excuse?!" :-)

 I have a shirt that says "Pregnant,and still hotter than you" and another that says "Let's get one thing straight, You're Fat, I'm Pregnant"

2moms2b

Thanks so much for the kind words and advise ladies!!! Normally with this "friend" I can just brush everything complete off or be snarky to her remarks in a friendly banter kind of way.  With pregnancy and hormones I just want to scream at her and that is totally not like me.

I have blocked her from my pictures (well that album and just made it visible for those labeled family and friends) and changed her to a list labeled acquaintances.  I figure this should pretty much end it as she can see my wall posts and other photos but doesn't have the option to comment.  If she asks about it, I will let her know I didn't appreciate the comments when I was simply trying to keep my family in the loop with the pregnancy.  

Don't get me wrong I have a sense of humor and comments that are truly funny about my bump bring it on just don't be rude.

On a side note, I think pregnant bellies are beautiful no matter the shape, size, number of babies, etc.  They all deserve to be celebrated and congratulated!  No one should ever make any other comment than you look beautiful or pregnancy suits you!!!

Thanks again ladies!!! 

ally2011

I would just delete her comments and not say anything and see if she gets the hint.  She is just jealous, I am sure your bump is very cute!  People love to comment on pregnancy women's sizes...I have no idea why.  I am glad I am pregnant at 32 and not 22 or it would upset me a lot more (I had a lot more body issues then).

Delete comments and the good news is your pregnancy brain will help you forget really quickly  

ljburrelli

pitterpatter129:

That stinks.  People just don't think sometimes.  I would just block her from seeing your pictures on facebook.  When you post them, next to "post" it says "friends", click on that and hit custom.  You can block just her from seeing them.  Then you won't have to deal with her.    I'm sure your bump is beautiful!

 

 

 

eegeekwife

You can choose who can see your albums. I would just block her from  your bump pics.

schrieverj

vrlc1403:

I agree.. block her from your pics. and then if she notices and asks why you haven't posted any lately you can tell her you were tired of the comments. People keep telling me I look further along than I am, maybe I'm carrying twins, etc.  I have asked my OB so many times if my weight gain is appropriate and if my belly seems out of control.  She always assures me everything is right on track and my weight gain is where it should be.  She even said "nice belly!" last month lol Then today, someone said it looks like my bump has stopped growing.  Really? First tell me how big I am, now tell me I'm not growing? Make me think something's wrong either way! ahhhh people suck sometimes!

 

This is exactly what I would do!