I have posted about this on Parenting, so I apologize if this is a duplicate for some of you. I just realized there was a "Pre-School" board. At any rate, I will try to make this as short as possible.
DS1 is in his 3rd week at his new Pre-School. Prior to that he was in a licensed home daycare that did a pre-school curriculum. Our plan was to leave him there until it was time for Kindergarten. We decided it was time to put him in a formal classroom setting. He would be around kids his age and get an idea of what "big boy" school is like. We were very optimistic. He is a very social and outgoing child.
It's not been great at all so far. I think he has had maybe 4 good days out of the last 2 weeks. There seem to be 3 specific issues. He is having trouble keeping his hands to himself. He's been pushing while standing in line, smacking blocks out of kids hands, etc. He has also thrown a couple of fits if his teacher asks him to sit down and do work and he wants to do something else. He is also being obnoxious at quiet time. Instead of laying down, he's being noisy.
We have no clue what is going on here. My son is far from perfect and the fits are not new to us. It's something we deal with at home. The pushing and stuff is very frustrating. He doesn't even really do that stuff w/ DS2.
We have talked and talked and talked to him about these issues. We did punish him a few times, but it doesn't seem to make much sense to punish him for something that happened at school. He has already moved on from it and the teacher has given him an appropriate consequence for his action at the time that it occurred. I bought the stuff to make a sticker chart today, although, I am not hopeful it will work. I don't see him making a better choice in the moment at school simply b/c he won't get a sticker at home.
For example, I told him on Friday that if he didn't behave at school, he wouldn't be allowed to go to the Halloween party the school was having that night. He didn't have a good day, so I told him he couldn't go. He got very upset and was angry with me. However, not going to the party made no difference to him during the day when the issues were happening.
I'm really sorry this is so long. I don't know if this is normal or not. I keep hoping it will get better and it's not. I know that this was a big transition for him, but these behaviors are not ok, and he knows that. Any advice or perspective would be great.