Scared to do ultrasound

lioness13

Last time my first US was at 8 1/2 weeks following my first appointment. At the appointment there was a sack with nothing in it. I remember seeing it and knowing immediately that I was not carrying a baby. A friend who is an OBGYN offered to give me a free US but I told her I'm not emotionally ready for one yet. I am not sure when I will be. My first appointment this time is at nine weeks. Maybe sometime after. I'm trying to be positive but I know that sometimes the heartbeat is not seen at six weeks and I don't want to go through that again. Especially since I think I ovulated later than normal so I am probably measuring smaller than six weeks. Did any of you feel this way?

MWoodside

U/S induce severe anxiety for me. I had a silent/missed m/c at 14 weeks after having successful u/s and hearing hb on doppler so I did not see it coming at all. I'm not sure if it will get easier once I pass 14 wks or not. You are not alone.

SouthernGirl047

Yes. That happened to me twice unfortunately. I've since learned that I have compound heterozygous MTHFR (clotting disorder). I'm actually 6 weeks and 2 days today. My first ultrasound is on Friday - hoping we will get to see a heartbeat for the first time!

newbeg826

I am right there with you.  My OB does early u/s for a prior m/c.  I haven't had my scheduled yet and I'm not sure what "early" indicates. I know I am off by a week based on my LMP vs. O date, so I am afraid they will send me in too early and we won't see anything (and then not order a f/u u/s).  Ahhh...the anxiety of PgAL. 

Mmm79

I'm terrified of almost every ultrasound- but particularly those first ones.  With this pregnancy I actually scheduled my first u/s at a practice site further away from my house, so I wouldn't have to go back in "that room" where bad news happens.  Of course, I ended up having to have an emergency ultrasound so I had to go into "that room", but this time it was good news.  But honestly, I got anxious at least 24 hours before every scheduled u/s with this pregnancy.  It's just one of the crappy parts of being a PGaL.

I think if you plan to schedule the u/s at 9 weeks, you should be ok.  Even if you ovulated later than yo thought, a heartbeat should still be present (say if you were really 7 weeks).  There's nothing to guarantee it will be a good appointment, but the mantra of "my past does not dictate my future" helped me.

 

((Hugs)) 

luvsdogs2

Absolutely!  My first appointment was at 8 weeks, and she walked in with a hand-held doppler like the one I have at home.  I was just like "please tell me when you don't hear a heartbeat on there, that you'll break out the u/s, because I know it's too early for a doppler and that is just going to freak me out."  She obliged.  But if they would have had me come in before that for an u/s or anything, I probably would have declined. 

I still get apprehensive right before an appointment, and we listen to our doppler the night before just to keep me from having anxiety attacks.  We've been able to hear it consistently since week 11. 

bootselven

I actually crave the U/S, but DH says I'm pessimistic. I don't do "hopeful" well, so the U/S either confirms my feelings or gives relief, like last time when we saw a HB for the first time.

I'd rather know and move forward than be stuck in limbo.