I am 10w6d with a singleton (miscarried a twin at 8w) from FET. I have had two miscarriages in the past 4 months. I have not been able to connect to my baby or think of my future at all for fear that I will get too close and m/c. How do you deal with these feelings? When can you let the past go and move forward? I haven't been able to feel the excitement you are supposed to during this process. Every time I have cried tears of joy, they have been followed by tears of loss. What can I do to connect with baby and move forward rather than being so scared all of the time?
Any advice on staying sane is greatly appreciated.
Re: Staying sane?
Unexplained Infertility
After two Clomid cycles, three injectable IUI cycles, two IVFs, two miscarriages, and one lap surgery, IVF #2 has brought us our little boy!
TTC #2
After months of being postponed or cancelled, FET #1.3 (Natural FET) brought us twin girls!
All of this.
I didn't start to feel a connection with my LO until we found out it was a girl at our 19 week a/s. Up until that point I was too scared I was going to lose her. It is totally okay to feel that way. It's hard to put yourself out there when you've been so hurt before. I'm so sorry for your losses. Just remind yourself every single day that today you are pregnant, and you love your baby. Over time, as you pass each positive milestone, you will feel more and more sane. Take care of yourself. ((hugs))
IUI#2 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 5-9) = BFN
IUI#3 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP!
beta #1 11/23 = 270, P4 = 75
beta #2 11/28 = 2055
Our daughter E was born 7/29/2012!
Surprise, our 2nd daughter P was born 5/22/14!
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. -Philo
Baby N conceived after 1 miscarriage and more than 2 years of TTC. Diagnosis was low sperm count. We found success after 3 months of anastrozole to increase DH's testosterone and one IUI.
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I'm stupid. You're smart. I was wrong. You were right. You're the best. I'm the worst. You're very good-looking. I'm not attractive. - Happy Gilmore
2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14
I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929
Oh yes, the home doppler was a wonderful thing that I used a lot until I could feel him move every day. I tried to limit myself to 2-3 times a week, otherwise I would have been using it all the time!
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. -Philo
Baby N conceived after 1 miscarriage and more than 2 years of TTC. Diagnosis was low sperm count. We found success after 3 months of anastrozole to increase DH's testosterone and one IUI.
Some charts
I'm stupid. You're smart. I was wrong. You were right. You're the best. I'm the worst. You're very good-looking. I'm not attractive. - Happy Gilmore
Me too! I highly recommend a doppler. Make sure you youtube videos on how to use it first though, it can be terrifying that first time if you can't find the hb, no need for unnecessary stress (in addition to what you are already going through.)
IUI#2 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 5-9) = BFN
IUI#3 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP!
beta #1 11/23 = 270, P4 = 75
beta #2 11/28 = 2055
Our daughter E was born 7/29/2012!
Surprise, our 2nd daughter P was born 5/22/14!
You could also try it for the first time right after a doctor appointment, so you know where the doctor found the heartbeat and you could look in the same place. Although the baby moves all around, so it could have moved by then. I am not sure when it can first be used, but 11 weeks is probably a couple weeks early.
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. -Philo
Baby N conceived after 1 miscarriage and more than 2 years of TTC. Diagnosis was low sperm count. We found success after 3 months of anastrozole to increase DH's testosterone and one IUI.
Some charts
I'm stupid. You're smart. I was wrong. You were right. You're the best. I'm the worst. You're very good-looking. I'm not attractive. - Happy Gilmore
I am sorry for your loss & I hope the remainder of your pregnancy is healthy. What you have been through is so difficult & I don't have any helpful advice but like some other ladies have mentioned you can only take it one day at a time & today you are pregnant & being detached from you baby doesn't make it any less painful if God forbid something happened. As hard as it is give yourself permission to be happy & when you get farther along a feel movement it will give you some reassurance. GL!