How long till you felt good about yourself again?

Liz5663

I am having some real issues feeling good about myself (as the title of this thread might indicate).  I still feel fat and my body is definately not my own.  I barely have time to take a shower on any given day and I can not remember the last time I actually had my hair done or put on real makeup. 

 

I can not wait until I can feel slightly pretty again. 

 

So, my question is... How long did it take you ladies to feel comfortable/pretty/sexy again?

Rochell

with my first pregnancy i didn't feel pretty again until i got a wax (eyebrows, bikini), shaved my legs, got a hair trim, showered and put on a decent outfit, plus make-up ...my body didn't go back to pre-preg weight until much later but taking care of yourself as i mentioned above did wonders for me...i think i did all that around 5wk PP

Liz5663

LOL.  Glad my post is actually legible.  I was getting worried after 80+ reads and no comments.   

 

Thanks for the answer.  I have only left LO for 2 hours so far and my hubby (bless his heart) was exhausted when I got home.  LOL.  I would LOVE to have my hair done, and get waxed!  Of course, if I could just find an outfit that looks nice and FITS that would be amazing. 

Mrs.G123

I would def suggest doing your hair and putting in makeup. It will help! GL

CC72601

I wondered the same thing.....until I was done my maternity leave and headed back to work.  I slowly started to pull myself together, and when my baby was 10 weeks old, I went with a friend to get my hair done, and to go shopping for new clothes. That little day trip that I did for myself without any children, or worries, made a huge difference and it was my turning point about how I felt about myself. That day I instantly realized that I was myself again.  Even though the weight wasnt completely off, I felt great again, and honestly, I really think its all about the hair, and having clothes that fit.  Even if they arent the same size as pre-pregnancy, just having clothes that fit will make you feel better.  Take the time for yourself and pay attention to yourself too.  Everyone is so consumed with their new LO, that you forget that you are important too! 

twoitalians

I'd say maybe 6 weeks PP. I got a new haircut, went shopping for clothes that fit, and finally bought more makeup cuz I was running low right before DS was born.

Mrs.PinkPearls

I feel the same way. I get dressed up jeans and nice top only about once a week. That's if we have plans. I am usually in pj clothes all day.

Baby_Bunny_Hopeful

Other than DS2 being attached to my boob, I feel close to "normal"....

I got my hair cut/colored 1 week PP (since my roots were horrible and I had family pictures that weekend).

Some days are better than others- I find that if I can grab a quick shower and straighten my hair and put on a bit of makeup, I feel like a million bucks.

Ask your DH to cuddle LO for an hour while you make time for yourself.... it's very important!!!! 

aylafsu88

I feel better at 14 weeks pp but not like my old myself.  I still have some baby weight and I EBF so I never get a good night sleep or time to myself.  Plus I went back to work at 6 weeks pp and that was pretty stressful.  I do my makeup and hair on the weekend which helps my feel pretty but I have yet to buy any new clothes.  I keep hoping my hips will shrink back to their pre-preg size and I will lose the last of my preg weight.  DH tries really hard and tells me I still look great so I feel pretty but I defiantly do not feel like my sexy old self.

PeonyPumps

It took at least a few months after my last pregnancy. See if someone can give you a day to shower, do your hair and makeup, and go out to get your nails done or a haircut. Just something simple can really help to make you feel better about yourself again.

tamararachel2

I don't remember how long it was after my first pregnancy. My mom came to stay with us after the first month so I had time to get to the gym and work out...living at the beach and swimsuit season being right around the corner after DS1 was born really pushed me into the gym quickly! This time around I think I'm tougher on myself. My first H was not very nice about my pp body and that coupled with self-esteem issues just did it for me. I never ate bad as it is, but I'm starting to cut things out and stopped eating anything or drinking anything besides water after 9 pm. I started walking with LO in the mornings after I take DS1 to school and I can't wait to start jogging and working out. I want to start feeling good about myself soon! And I refuse to buy jeans in a bigger size...it's just a motivation for me to get back into shape!

Hyaline

I'm definitely not to sexy yet LOL but by about two weeks PP I felt ok about myself.  I did make it a point from the start, though, to wash my face and put on some tinted moisturizer and a pair of earrings every day--really lame, but it makes me feel more human. 

I'd say the turning point was going the whole nine yards for church at almost 4 weeks--dress, stockings, makeup.  If you have to look for a reason to dress up, that's fine--but it definitely helped! 

lynde129

Around 5-6 weeks PP.  It is definetly the little things that make us feel better.  I am back down to pre-preg weight and have been since 2 wks PP, but only a few of my pants fit, and none of my jeans- my hips are so much wider! therefore I had no choice but to buy new pants!  

I bought two pairs of jeans in the next size, and work dress pants, and a few shirts (to fit my new chest-lol).  I went to the grocery store and bought box dye (little splurge since its been 1.5yrs since dying my hair) and new lip gloss.  Wearing clothes that fit right and styling my hair (seeing it shine again) for work make me feel amazing again!  it was easier to buy pants that fit then constantly beat myself up over my new body not being the same-  I know that within the year I should fit back into them- but for now I dont have time to worry myself about it

sarah62584

Look at your LO!! Such a cute picture! So sweet.

I the bottom line is everyone is different. I read some of the other posts and I was putting on make-up and doing my hair 3-4 days after my LO was born. I bought specific clothes (long flowly maxi dresses) that I knew would be flattering, comfortable and make me feel good prior to giving birth. It helped to prance around in one of those. I guess I am just a firm believer that if you want to feel good its easier when you look good. So take some time for yourself, even if its only putting on a pretty dress, jewelry or doing your hair. You'll get there!

BPer

I make it a point to shower, and put on makeup every day. On good days, I'll get to do my hair too. DD is content to lay in her nap nanny and sleep, or look around the bathroom while I shower. (With the door open of course)

A lot of the current styles accommodate for a few extra pounds. Boyfriend jeans, flowy cardigans and slightly oversized sweaters. Having clothes that fit makes all the difference. 

Liz5663

Thanks Ladies!!!

 

I am almost 2 months PP and I still don't feel it.   But, judging from most the answers I guess we each have different schedules for getting back to normal (or some sense of it).  I am a teacher and took this year off to have baby, so I do not have a job to go back to right now, nor is there anyone close by who is a good friend or family member to help out or go out with me, and hubby works from 8-6 (or later) m-s, so hard to get his help until the evening.

 

I have tried shopping, but with a baby it is nearly impossible to get anything done out in public.  I guess I will try to get hubby to watch baby this Sunday & see what I can get done