Really DH?

lawjjg522

When I first started hearing about cloth diapering and where it's come since "back in the day" I asked  DH what he thought, put all the facts on the table, said I think it'd be great to do, but I don't want to do it if you don't feel comfortable or if you have any doubts..

Tonight  him and I went out to dinner with my brother and  I don't know how it came up, but he said  "When ever I tell people you want to do cloth diapering they flat out laugh and say good luck it'll only last a month.."  I just  looked at him..  Seriously?  I said " I asked you  many many times  if you were okay with doing this before i started  a stash.  I told you if you weren't 100% on board then we wouldn't do it."  We dropped it since we were in public + no need to fight in front of brother But he looked at me  as if to say " No you didn't.  You are crazy pregnant lady."

 I know that a majority of people are going to think we're crazy. and that's fine. I don't need the support of the whole world.  The part that bothers me is how he is putting it all on me and acting like everybody else!

 

argh.  vent over. sorry;.

NativeFloridian

If it were my DH, I'd have shrugged as if to say, "Sorry, buddy, too late now."  Or, if he wants, you guys could CD part-time.

More to the point, he's probably right.  I think most people who CD have gotten that spiel.  People get over it after a while. 

hispenguin

Most people react the way people have to your DH unfortunately. I think once your LO arrives and your DH realizes how easy CDing is he will change his tune and set people straight.

lawjjg522

 I'm okay with people "laughing" at us.  that doesnt bother me since I'm confident in our choice..

 

Just not happy how  hes acting all the sudden.  Did anybody elses DH have "cold feet" about it before  starting

Into+the+Kitty

I would be pretty pissed at your Dh in general for bringing it up and putting you down in front of your brother in the first place. If he has concerns, he should have brought it up to you in private, and preferably not by saying "Lol, so everyone thinks you're crazy!" That was a pretty jerk move.

TJ1979

We didn't start CD until LO was 19 weeks bc she was so tiny and we had OS diapers. But yes, MH sort of acted like it was a dumb idea that his silly wife wanted to do until we got them. Now when people come over, he has to bring out a diaper and show them off! Don't worry, he was probably just trying to look cool in front of his bro. If you want, remind him that he's supposed to be on your team, especially in public! But nothing to argue about in my opinion.

Daniellekrista

My mom thought we were nuts. She keeps my kiddo while I am at work and was not on board. She now loves them and even does all the diaper laundry for me. She told me it would last a month and we are headed into month three.

DH was on board from the beginning but not stoked. He has said he likes them better than sposies.

Friends thought I was nuts until they saw the bum genius diapers. DH even took one to work rather than explain it. Once people see them, they won't make comments anymore.

nanabanana06

I got tons of comments from family with DD. However, once they saw her adorable diapers and saw that it wasn't just old school prefolds they changed their tune. Actually, my Grandma was the one who was the most vocal against cloth. Since she had no choice back in the day. She thinks it's pretty awesome now!

With DS it was myself and MIL who convinced DH to finally give in to cloth. I am very happy I got him to go with it. The 6 months of sposie's with Dd have been killing me. They are seriously so gross.

Bemyselfandi

lawjjg522:

 I'm okay with people "laughing" at us.  that doesnt bother me since I'm confident in our choice..

 

Just not happy how  hes acting all the sudden.  Did anybody elses DH have "cold feet" about it before  starting

DF got an attitude a few times AFTER we started. It had been a few weeks and suddenly he said, "Well, you never told me what to do if..." and went on. OMG did I flip out. Everything we have I specifically told him instructions, and I even remind him what to do exactly before I leave. He has no choice. We are doing this. We need the money. He can get an attitude all he wants, but this is what our family needs right now. Plus, all he has to do is change the diaper and take the insert out of the pocket. I do EVERYTHING ELSE. There's no use in complaining.

tamarar5

NativeFloridian:

If it were my DH, I'd have shrugged as if to say, "Sorry, buddy, too late now."  Or, if he wants, you guys could CD part-time.

 I agree! I talked at great length with my DH before I started my stash, and his answer was always "Whatever you want Honey," lol. If he brought this up now, I'd tell him too bad.  My in-laws all think I'm crazy for cloth diapering, but I recently have found back-up support-- I've converted my cousin! To be honest, I really don't care what everyone else thinks though, so long as my DH is supportive.

Gismo123

DH was always on board with me but everyone else thought we were nuts. They gave us a month before we would quit.....almost 5 months now and I have NO intentions of quiting! LoL

And some of the people who thought I was nuts was my brother and his wife which have now converted to cloth diapers! LoL They lived in another state so when we visited they saw how easy they were.

It's all visual....people picture the old school cloth with pins. When they see how much they've changed and how easy they are to use it will usually change their minds.

sadsadie

Maybe it's time you sat DH down and explained to him the awful expense, environmental wastefulness and toxicity of disposable diapers (yes, those things are full of toxic chemicals that are putting your LO in danger of chemical burns, rashes, respiratory diseases and even cancer). It certainly sounds like he needs to be enlightened.

https://www.cbc.ca/news/health/story/2010/05/28/f-disposable-diapers.html

https://www.realdiaperassociation.org/diaperfacts.php

yodasmistress

Eh.  He'll see.  Even though I had decided to CD before the baby was even conceived (I had many years to ponder it, lol), I didn't actually start the stash until after the kiddo was born.  And I was TERRIFIED to actually put that first CD otb.  But I did and it was so much easier than I ever thought it would be.  My son has not been in a disposable since 6 weeks.  At this point he is daytime PL'ed and only wears dipes for naps and overnight.  And still, even now, my husband's uncle says ON A REGULAR BASIS "Just wait, it gets really gross, you won't stick with it!"  So I just ignore him now.  Clearly he must not be very smart.  Or something.