UWS Killer Nanny

callalilly323

Honestly makes me sick. I actually cried hard this morning watching the news coverage.

The people who are turning this into a battle, stating that women who choose to have nannies or choose to work and allow another individual to raise their child are selfish, make me sick as well. Terrible, horrible things happen, and they should not always be a launching pad for debate.

My heart aches for the family, especially their mother who walked into the bathroom and discovered what had happened. It doesn't matter if she was a stay at home mother who chose to have help, or a working mother who needed help; the only fingers that should be pointed are toward that deranged nanny.

callalilly323

That said... it was extra hard dropping DS off at daycare this morning.

laura.noel

These kinds of stories are heartbreaking. There are not words to describe how sad I feel for this family.

I agree, it is horrible that people would use this in an argument against using a nanny, daycare, etc. That is not the issue. The issue is that this one woman was a sicko, period. 

(I will admit, I have only read/heard headlines regarding this story, because I know I, too, would be sobbing if I heard the whole story.)

dmsny

callalilly323:

Honestly makes me sick. I actually cried hard this morning watching the news coverage.The people who are turning this into a battle, stating that women who choose to have nannies or choose to work and allow another individual to raise their child are selfish, make me sick as well. Terrible, horrible things happen, and they should not always be a launching pad for debate.My heart aches for the family, especially their mother who walked into the bathroom and discovered what had happened. It doesn't matter if she was a stay at home mother who chose to have help, or a working mother who needed help; the only fingers that should be pointed are toward that deranged nanny.

I'd love to know which media outlet entertained that debate because it is not being reported that way here in NYC.

callalilly323

dmsny:

callalilly323:

Honestly makes me sick. I actually cried hard this morning watching the news coverage.The people who are turning this into a battle, stating that women who choose to have nannies or choose to work and allow another individual to raise their child are selfish, make me sick as well. Terrible, horrible things happen, and they should not always be a launching pad for debate.My heart aches for the family, especially their mother who walked into the bathroom and discovered what had happened. It doesn't matter if she was a stay at home mother who chose to have help, or a working mother who needed help; the only fingers that should be pointed are toward that deranged nanny.

I'd love to know which media outlet entertained that debate because it is not being reported that way here in NYC.

NYC mommy blogs. NYMag.

sooner1981

Here's the thing, she wasn't off working long hours or on an extended party trip with her girlfriends.  She was taking her three year old to an hour-long swimming lesson.  Hardly the stuff that WOHM v. SAHM mom debates are made of. 

 The way I look at it is that I didn't read stories about men beating up/killing their wives, and then not want to get married because "it may happen to me."  I don't avoid driving just because people occassionally get into accidents on the highway.  I didn't avoid getting pregnant because some moms go off the deep end and kill their kids. 

This isn't about a "nanny" killing kids. This is about an isolated horrible tragedy.  It makes me sick for that family, but it just shouldn't be turned into a "nanny" question. 

k3montel

That is awful! I just read the story, and I wish I hadn't. That family will be in my prayers.

Mar5195

Being a mother.  It's impossible to look at that story and not feel complete and total empathy and heart break for that woman.  

Her status and place in the world means nothing.  She found her children brutally slayed.   It's unthinkable. 

My friend lives in NYC.  On the UES and you need help with running the kids around to all their activities. 

Jeanine88

I lived 7 streets from there ( just moved last week).  I would always see nannies in the park when I took Austin and many were so friendly.  It's so sad and just too close to home.