DH at 1st appt?

AMarie101

Did/is your DH attending your 1st OB appt?  I want him there but we are wondering if it would be akward during the exam.

homebird

He helped make the baby, why would it be awkward?

Yes, he's going. They'll try to hear the heartbeat (even though I think it's too early) and he doesn't want to miss it if it happens. Plus, I think he just likes being supportive. 

AMarie101

I have an U/s tomorrow that he is coming to. I know it sounds wrong to say it would be akward but I am picturing my legs is stir ups and him sitting in a chair staring At me LOL! . He will probably come with me. 

sammer818

Through 4 pregnancies and 4 miscarriages, my DH has only missed 2 appointments and both were d&c follow up appointments. He was even in the room when I had my SHG done. It's his baby just as much as mine and he wants to be there just as much as I do. Definitely not awkward at all.

hansonam446

If you're talking about the first appointment where they gather family history then, yes, it would be helpful to have him there. They will normally only do a pap if you haven't had one in the last year. But my husband went with me and was able to answer questions about his family history that I didn't know the answer to.

gutsymama

DH won't be at my first appointment, but it's going to be at just 5w5d, and is more of a confirmation/information kind of appointment, so not really worth DH taking off work for. But he will definitely be there for the first ultrasound. If you want him there, and he wants to be there, have him come! 

kellpaluga13

My husband came to almost all of my appts with the first pregnancy.  Now that we are pregnant again, he said he is just coming to the first appt (tomorrow @ 8 weeks) and the 20 week appt.  So he is just coming to the appts where we will have ultrasounds.

He said the reason he doesn't want to go to all of them again is because he felt like a 3rd wheel at all the other appts.  He actually said that he felt neglected, like the Dr. didn't care about him, but he just sat in the chair and listened.  He didn't ask any questions or make any comments.

Completely up to you, but I would want him there at least to listen to the heartbeat and see the ultrasound!!!

brittnicole2011

My ob told me first appointment will just be some tests and blood work and health history so i told dh he won't need to be there, after that i think i want him there

MAdams728

I've had two appts so far, and he has gone to both.  The first was at 7 weeks and included a confirmation ultrasound, so I wanted him to see that.  Our second was yesterday, and we had another ultrasound, and I wanted him to be there again for that.  It wasnt awkward to have him in the room for the pelvic, for me.  

Yesterday's appt. was more detailed and they went over family histories and do's and dont's.  It also included a meeting with the financial clerk to get our prepayment and insurance info settled.  I definitely needed him there for that.   We will have two more ultrasounds, the NT scan at 12 weeks and the anatomy scan at 18-20.   Those are the only other two appointments that I'll have him go to, I think, assuming everything progresses normally.

pumkin597

I wish my husband came to the first appt.  He had offered but I didn't think anything major was going to happen: blood work, go over family hx.  So, I told him it was necessary to come.  Well, it turned out I had an ultrasound and got to see the baby!!  It was so amazing that I would have loved to share that moment with him.  I would definitely recommend bringing your spouse!!!!

aibrean

If it would be awkward for him to be there for that, then imagine what it would be like when you are actually giving birth ^.^

Mine came for my first appointment, which was an u/s to get the age of the baby. We saw the heartbeat at 7w. The second appointment was a pelvic exam and pap (because I was due for one in Dec) and the doctor just waited until that was done to get DH. Then we he came in she got the doppler for us to heart the heartbeat for the first time

I told him, he should come to all of the u/s but the check-ups he doesn't need to. 

Que*Syrah

My husband likes to go to every single appointment, LOL.

I would have him go to the ultrasounds but if he doesn't want to go to the regular appointments, don't make him. Also, you might want to start preparing him for childbirth because that's a hell of a lot more awkward than any pelvic.

mightymousy

Although it's not always possible for your significant other to go to every appointment due to work (mine certainly can't), I've read that if they're going to pick some to go to your first real check up at 8 weeks should definitely be one of them. Like some others said, they will ask questions about family history on both your sides of the family so it's really valuable to have them there. I had mine today and I'm really glad he came along.

DChunt09

My husband came to every appointment I had with Ds. He and my Dr. got along great, and it was nice that he was and still is , just as comfortable with him as I am. Really helped in the delivery room.
This time around, my husband would love to come to all of them again, but his new job just wouldn't allow for it. He could use sick days, but he is saving those for when baby gets here. He'll really only come to the 20 week appointment. It's okay with me. He was great the first time and just knowing he would like to be there again is sweet to me.

pinottoparenthood

My husband came to my first appointment. We had an ultrasound, and he was there for that. It was a little awkward because it was a vaginal ultrasound, but it's not like he was down there with his face in my vag or anything.

After that, he came into the room with me and the nurse asked us a few questions. When I was given the paper gown, though, and told I was going to have a pap and breast exam, I just had DH wait in the waiting room for that portion of the appointment. Some things I would prefer to leave to the imagination, at least for now. But I've heard again and again that all modesty flies out the window when I give birth, so maybe I should start letting him watch my being molested by doctors sooner rather than later, haha.

jenmom2girls

My DH has went to every one of my appointments even after I had our first baby. I loved having him there, and it really wasn't awkward at all:)

katieh1017

He came to most of my appointments. The last few he didn't. When I had the exam in my first appt he just stepped out of the room. Other times he hid behind the curtain, and when I was in labor he was right there.