need advice

butterfly2119

I know I don't post too much on here but I  need to vent/ can use some advice. When my daughter passed away from sids at 4months old I felt like my in laws were trying to make it seem like my daughter never existed. Right after her memorial service they were bringing me boxes and my fil wanted to come over and take apart my daughters room. I was soo angry. On top of that my mil ordered my babies death certificate autopsy report with out coming to me first which I feel like she should have. She had a insurance policy on my baby. Which I thought odd but I know some parents that get life insuarance but never knew of grandparents to do that. Any who when they got the money they never gave us any or put it towards  the expense of the funeral. They did go on a trip to Ireland though. From all the stress my husband and i split maybe around when I was 12 weeks. I'm currently 34 weeks. He doesn't call to see how I'm feeling or anything so I don't think I want him to be there while I'm in labor and I feel like I want to hide my baby from his parents. Has anyone else felt like they wanted to keep their baby all to themselves. I don't want any visitors either in the hospital. I really don't want my in laws to visit either. I know they have the right to it's their grand child but the way they made me feel with my loss I don't want anything to do with them.

Heatherhah

I have no experience with this but I did lose my daughter too and I know how protective I am about this new little one I am carrying . Protect your baby with all of your will.  I think your in laws are nuts and not good people and going to Ireland I remember your original intro and it shocked me. Keep that new baby away as long as you can. Good luck and you deserve better for sure.

Heather

butterfly2119

Thanks Heatherhah. My parents think my in laws are weird to. I'm just hopeing they wont take me to court. I just don't trust them any one from that side of the family and that's sad.

bumpuser2669861

I am so sorry for your loss.  And I find it incredibly disturbing that they would take out an insurance policy on their grandchild and then use the proceeds following the tragedy to take a trip!  That does not sound like people who put LO's best interest first, so I would do my best to protect my child from people who are out to exploit and take advantage.  I hope you are able to work out a relationship that you are comfortable with.

So sorry you have to deal with this! 

jbranden12

I am so sorry you are in this situation. Your in laws seem incredibly insensitive and uncaring. I completely understand not wanting them to visit you. This will be easy to accomplish in the hospital, but perhaps not so much once the baby is born. Although they don't seem like the kind of people who will shell out money to go through the legal system to get access to your child (most likely through your son), it's always a possibility later on.

To answer your question, I have been very private with this pregnancy, mostly because I do not have the energy to deal with other people's thoughts and opinions about it. 

pnutg

I am so sorry for your loss and the difficulty youre facing in your marriage. Do what is best for your baby, now and in the future. That is my only advice.