Has anyone relocated with a baby? Need advice!

yepyepsms

I have a possible job offer in a city two hours away (same Company). Part of me really wants this job for my development and career, plus it's a great city, and many other career and personal positive points. Hubby is supportive and also works for the same company and can get a transfer so no worries in a job hunt for him.

BUT, I am hesitating and considering not pursuing because I am so nervous about relocating now with a baby.  DS is almost 5 months old, and I know moving would mean going back and forth between two cities for a couple of months, finding a new day care, totally messing up his routine (new house, new daycare, etc.).  I already feel like I never see my son, and it makes me feel sad and selfish that by pursuing this job, there might be times during the transition I won't get home in time before he goes to bed, have to have overnights without him, etc. LO's are only little for so long, and the thought of seeing him even less than I do now for a couple of months makes me feel terrible. 

Am I really limiting myself if I don't pursue this solely based on the LO reasons?  Has anyone gone through a similar choice?  Ended up relocating and how did it go?

noryang

At exactly five months we moved overseas to a developing country. I don't speak the language, had no car and none of our things for months. We could not find a housekeeper or a nanny that we liked. It was brutal. I cried almost every day and even shopped apartments on Craig's List back in the States.

But like most things - it got easier. We found a housekeeper, two nannies that are amazing. Our things came. Our car came. I am learning the city and how to navigate it despite its hardships.

If this job will make you happy - go for it. Understand that transitions are tough but temporary. But in the end - a happy mama is the best for the whole family - even if it brings a period of hardship.

akem1984

I'm relocating 7 hours away and the LO will be 2 to 3 months old. It's a great career change with great stability. If it's a great choice for you and your family for years to come, I say go for it.

laurakaz13

We relocated from Arizona to North Carolina when DD was 10 months old.  We had movers take care of all our stuff, got DD on a daycare waiting list, and settled in really easily in our new home.  We found a cleaning service and several sitters within a month.  It was actually pretty easy. 

I think worrying about a move with a baby is normal, but certainly not a reason to not take a great new job.  Your baby will actually be easier to move around at that age than mine was.  Mine was walking and needed constant movement.

chels0120

We moved three times in our DS's first year of life. Kids are extremely adaptable and if the job in the long run would be a great thing for your family, go for it! You guys will get through it and wonder why you were worried

RachelandEduardo

We will likely be relocating from the Midwest to the East Coast (if my H matches for residency where he thinks he will) about a month and a half after I give birth. While I know its not impossible, I'm nervous about it. These comments are helpful, its good to know others have done it and survived

yepyepsms

Thanks ladies!  You've made me feel better:)