Thank you for your input last night, ladies re: my IL post

big_noise

It was truly very helpful. I am grateful for a place to discuss these tough issues with others who understand. As a follow-up, DH and I crafted an email to his parents, siblings and their spouses explaining our request for privacy during this time and doing some tactful education about the fact that there is no such thing as a "safe zone." After discussing it, we wanted to include the rest of his family because his other brother, SIL and sister all know what has gone on with us the last number of months. By explaining directly to everyone how we feel and why, it eliminates the opportunity for his mom to gossip further (within the family) and twist our words around, as she did with DH's SIL. I know this won't be the end of it, but we at least took the high road and are doing what is right for us at this moment.

Sigh, it just boggles my mind that people think things are so much about them. I'm so sorry it's inconvenient for you that we requested privacy during this time, is what I really wanted to say. And I also wanted to lay it home about how none of them have experience pregnancy loss, but I didn't, I took the high road.

Mmm79

Good for you!  I hope that this helps.

jelero

Hopefully you'll get some much needed peace from the situation (at least for a while).  I'm glad that you and DH were able to tackle this together and take the high road.

jbranden12

I hope it helps! I agree that it was a good idea to go ahead and send it to everyone so that everyone gets the info directly from you! Sets a good precedent.

big_noise

Thank you very much, ladies.

HoolahZinger

Kudos to you for taking the high road! It's just so shocking how people can't make everything about them. I hope this refresher will remind them to be more supportive and encouraging. Good luck! 

big_noise

Thanks, ladies.