Social Media Q: Regarding FC

Junebride007

Hey! I absolutely love this board. Anytime I feel frustrated or discouraged with the process I check in here. Quick question for you guys. This go around with our fostering process we have been very weary of saying anything on Facebook. We have told close friends and family. We are almost done with our classes and are scheduled to start our homestudy in two or three weeks. I have honestly debated not saying anything on Facebook at all. However, there is a positive side to Facebook in that it is our online community. A friend that also fosters said it was so helpful to here to ask for gently-used toys/ carseats/ etc that she needed sometimes in a hurry. She only had two hours to get ready for her little ones. Should I wait until we are homestudy approved or go ahead and start letting people know? Does this make any sense at all?

IRR

JMO but I would wait until you are HS approved.

raecheleblue1

I would wait until you are approved.  People will understand why you didn't share your news sooner, and they will still be helpful if you find yourself with a quick placement and in need like your friend.

JellyTwoPointO

I've been very vocal about our entire process of trying to create a family -- whether it be TTC, experiencing our miscarriage, TTC again, going through fertility diagnosis, and our decision to pursue foster-to-adopt.  I did this for a lot of personal reasons, a lot having to do with communal support or wanting to increase awareness about miscarriage, fertility, and adoption.  But that's all a very personal decision.  So I've made our community aware of what's going on in our process every step of the way and I've found a myriad of support through each part of the process.  It's something I've appreciated, but it's not for everyone.

DaisyZH

I agree with PP, it's so individual.  Do you want to post on facebook?  If so I don't see what the harm is, but if you're concerned or uncomfortable about people then don't feel like you need to or that people would be offended if you wait.  I think most people would definately understand, but at the same time this is an exciting thing and if you want to share it go for it!

Also one of my high school pals had a baby and wasn't really prepared since she was just being discharged from the Marines and didn't have time to get stuff - using Facebook she was able to get so much and people really want to help.  So it very well might help a lot to put the word out that you're looking for gently-used items

lizlemon2

Personally, we waited until we were approved.  I was kind of afraid of "jynxing" myself. It was a relief to let some people know though.  I was sick of people asking if I was pregnant, or when was I gonna get pregnant.

You could always send a PM to people you would want to know that may be helpful.

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Bpmg

I think its totally a personal decision, no right or wrong answer - whatever you are comfortable with. We have just started our adoption journey, and have told no one, except for people we will need references from (and you guys on this board LOL)

I have friends that have posted details about their infertility struggles as well as adoptions - and I think thats great. The communcal support, advice etc on social media like FB can be great.

Whatever you are comfirtable with!

 

  

 

 

Blsd4given

Its a personal decision. But we told our immediate family right away. We wanted them to have time to process and prepare themselves. They will be around the child the most. Everyone else has been told sporadically.. if they've been told at all.

Allie-Jo

Jellybean902:

I've been very vocal about our entire process of trying to create a family whether it be TTC, experiencing our miscarriage, TTC again, going through fertility diagnosis, and our decision to pursue fostertoadopt.nbsp; I did this for a lot of personal reasons, a lot having to do with communal support or wanting to increase awareness about miscarriage, fertility, and adoption.nbsp; But that's all a very personal decision.nbsp; So I've made our community aware of what's going on in our process every step of the way and I've found a myriad of support through each part of the process.nbsp; It's something I've appreciated, but it's not for everyone.

I am kinda in the same boat. I was very open about everything regarding TTC and IF, so adoption was just another "update" if you will. I did wait until all our initial paperwork was turned in and we had all the funds though. I really considered waiting until we were homestudy approved, especially seeing as my biggest and most irrational fear is they will tell me I'm way too crazycakes and not able to raise a child, but again, the support helped, and I expressed my fear to my SW and she just kinda laughed, saying short of being raised by pedophiles and housing dead bodies in my freezer, I will probably be ok

Foster1Mom

We waited until we were approved. It felt very freeing to come out because I felt like I was hiding.