is it too soon?.......

dpraseutsinh

it's barely been 3 weeks since LO was born, but even my mother is telling me that i'm stressed out and that DH and i need to spend time to ourselves. i feel like it's too soon to take a break, but it's true, DH and i are delirious from lack of sleep, frustrated, and i don't even think we've even hugged each other since she was born

do y'all think i should go out or is it too soon?

kjskjs

personally, I think if you're comfortable leaving your lo with someone for a couple hours then you should go for it. I also am a firm believer that you need to make time as a couple so I think it would definitely be worth it to get out and about just the two of you. And if you're worried about leaving the lo then maybe just start small...go grab a bite to eat or run an errand but do it together.

HeartsOnABand

I felt the same way as you do and finally my mother put her foot down and insisted we go out. We went and had a nice little dinner and then walked around the new outside mall we have in our area. We were maybe gone for about 4 hours total. I think DS was around 3.5 weeks old. I thought I was going to be beside myself but I really enjoyed it. Take a break...new mommas need it!

lovebug33

If you don't feel comfortable going out, do what we did. Mom came and babysat, and we went to our room and napped and watched TV. It was great not having to worry about the baby!

samsterrr

You dont always have to go out! My grandmother has come over twice and watched the baby while we go nap in our room or watch a movie or make dinner/desert together. Just time together is important!

Jessfulller

I went on a date one week pp while my mom watched Liam. We date or have social time once a week and its much needed. Absolutely not take sometime for yourselves.

gardengirl3

we went out at 1.5 weeks

Kschmitt19

Go for it! You need adult only time and try not to talk about the baby. 

ASmallWonder

It really only matters what you and your DH feel is right.  Personally, I left my LO overnight with my mom when he was 3 weeks old because DH's brother was getting married.  That's what was right for us.  If you think you can take a couple hours away, leaving your LO with someone you trust, it really can help recenter you.

downwardsunshine

GO! Take any and all help people are willing to give. 

Crispity

Definitely go! The first time I left DD was for a dentist appointment when she was 5 weeks old. At that point, I knew I needed to get out more, because going to the dentist by myself felt AMAZING. Since then, DH and I have gone out a couple of times just the two of us (once to a movie and once for lunch and shopping), and it's been really good. Go do something fun!

Nicole7697

My husband and I did the exact same thing!! It was really nice to get out, even if it was for a few hours

RickeyandDani

lovebug33:

If you don't feel comfortable going out, do what we did. Mom came and babysat, and we went to our room and napped and watched TV. It was great not having to worry about the baby!

A MILLION THUMBS UP TO THIS!

DavidStamps

No!

Take some time, even 20 minutes to get some frozen yogurt....we are getting a nanny (at 4 weeks) so we can have some time to relax, have dinner together and not hate each other.

I think it's super important to make sure you are communicating, taking time out for each other and making sure you are sane....it's healthy for you and your child. 

ShawMich

Go out to dinner. You will refreshed and only be gone a couple hours.

pammi2003

Nope. Not too soon.

I went to the gym at 2 weeks pp and to a dinner date with hubby at 3 weeks.

 

aylafsu88

Personally, I did not feel like going out.  I was exhausted and in pain from my delivery.  Plus, I wanted to be near my LO since I was BF and nursing a lot in the beginning is important.  I did have MIL or my mom come over and watch LO so that we could sleep for a couple of hours.  DH and I needed rest more than anything in those first 5 weeks.  We finally went out alone for a date night at 6-7 weeks.

glitterbeast11

Go for it! I had someone watch my son over night just so my finance and I could spend some time alone.

Having a new baby is stressful at times and you need your time apart as well. 

Dont feel bad for feeling that way either! 

farmerp

DH & I took our first outing at the end of our 2nd week home. We dropped DS off at my in-laws right after a feeding (I bf.) and went to dinner by ourselves. Definitely nothing big and we were within 15 minutes of their house. The whole "date" lasted 2 hours so I could come back and feed DS again. But it was totally worth it. We just needed to reconnect and have a little break. DS is now nearly 10 weeks and we haven't gone on a date since, but in the beginning it was absolutely necessary. Go for it girl!

monica92603

It's all about how comfortable you are.  I went out when both kids were about 1 1/2 weeks old.  I got my hair done once and had a wedding the other time.  Both my kids slept extremely well though.  You might benefit from what others did.....have someone come over so you can sleep.