Advice for another TTC after 35'er - PgAL

Buckeyegirlangie

I hope you don't mind if I post here. I would really like some advice from other ladies my age.  If this post is inappropriate here, please let me know.

I am about to go through my 2nd m/c in the last 6 months.  I have a DS who is almost 2, conceived through our first IUI.  We have been TTC #2 since August of 2011.  I am 37 1/2 (funny how the 1/2's start coming back into play now).

I had a chemical pregnancy in April and am going through a blighted ovum right now.  I always knew I would have a hard time getting pregnant (endo) but never realized I would have a hard time keeping it. 

Anyway, my question is, have any of you ladies ever had 1 or multiple m/c and are pregnant now?  Again, I'm sorry if this is not a good place to ask, I'm just looking for some hope as to whether or not we should keep going.  

itsmevkb

I had two children, one with the help of IVF, and then lost my next two pregnancies.  I was tested for repeat pregnancy loss (which included blood clotting issues and immune conditions) and then with my next pregnancy I was treated with steriods (dexamethasone), baby aspirin, blood thinners, high doses of progesterone and folic acid and also IV intralipids in an attempt to help me maintain the pregnancy.  My son was born last July and I am pregnant again.

Losses are very often chalked up to genetic abnormalities, in which case it may just be bad luck and there wouldn't be anything you could do to change the outcome.  In my case, the babies were tested and found to be chromosomally normal so then we were looking for other reasons I may have lost them. 

I'm so sorry for your losses but please know that there is always hope for another successful pregnancy.  I would ask your doctor for the repeat pregnancy loss testing.  Many say it's not necessary until you have three losses but I would definitely still ask and push for it.

SouthernMom70

 

I had a miscarriage last year at 8 weeks pregnant.

I'm now 41 years old and 25 weeks pregnant.

ShellBear+

I had 3 miscarriages before this pregnancy.  I'm not a success story yet but this is farther than I ever got before.  If you haven't had any testing for rpl I would start there.  My testing never came up with anything so it looks like we finally got lucky with this one.   I know that my last m/c was a chromosome abnormality and suspect that the others were as well.  It may be due to age but who knows.  I'm sorry for your losses and wish you luck with ttc.   

danieleandwayne

I am so sorry for both your losses. I had a chemical pregnancy back in June and now I'm pregnant again. Everything this time around seems to be going as it should.

I agree with pps-- I would ask for repeat loss testing. Especially because at our age, we don't have time to take a year to conceive and then go through another loss.

GL!

lovelyday39

I don't have an experience to offer you- just wanted to say that I'm sorry for your loss

MrsNukem

I am sorry for your loss.  I had a loss last year due to trisomy 13.  I then had a chemical pregnancy late last year.  We then proceeded to IVF.  My first IVF earlier this year resulted in a blighted ovum, which I eventually miscarrried around 7.5 weeks.  Since we pretty much knew I had poor egg equality, we just assumed this blighted ovum was due to that (I had transferred 4 embryos and none were good enough to make a baby).

This past IVF we transferred 2 embryos and both stuck.  I am 10 weeks today. 

I know it's so hard to hold onto hope.  During my darkest days after my d&c from my first loss, I didn't think I could ever have hope again.

I agree with the RPL testing, if you have had recurrent losses, it would be good to have this testing done.

mlwinkle

Sorry for your loss. I had 3 mc's before my DS. I was able to have one of the embryos tested, and no chromosomal abnormalities. Doc also ordered the RPL panel and it also showed that I was healthy. My OB suggested I start progesterone at ovulation and that resulted in the pregnancy with my DS. Followed the same process with this pregnancy and am finishing up progesterone this week

My advice would be to request the RPL testing and see if there is something going so that you can move forward with that info. Good luck!

dhreczuck

So sorry for your losses. I've had to m/c and several chemical pregnancies. The cycle before this bfp I had a chemical, I pretty much figured that cycle was a waste but here I am.

I know the cause of 2 of my m/c and I can only assume all the chemical's were due to natural reasons such as chromosome issues because I did the rpl testing and it all came back negative. It's so hard to hold onto hope when you're going through all the highs and lows of ttc, I still struggle with that, but look at all the responses you have here, that's a really good reason to think that you will be successful.

Mem670

I'm 43 years old and we have been TTC since 2009. I am 11 weeks and 3 days pregnant today and there is not a day that goes by that I do not pray for our baby. You touched my heart deeply and I want you to know that even when our doctors told my husband that he can never have children, we were blessed with this beautiful miracle growing in my belly. Please don't ever give up- we never did! God bless and good luck!

Buckeyegirlangie

You have all been so sweet - thank you. I got choked up reading the responses. I am so very sorry for the losses you have experienced. I will be getting RPL. I have a RE who I trust and who has worked with us since 2009 when we started this journey.

Thanks again for taking the time to respond and I hope I can come back and be a regular part of this board soon!

Watergirl21

I am not sure if this helps or but i have a close relative who had a m/c and lost a baby to trisomy at 7 months of pregnancy and ended up having 5 healthy children. I also know several women who had at least one or more mc and went on to have several healthy babies each.

Strunella

I'm so sorry for your losses.  I've had 2 losses (my first and third pregnancies) and just found out I am pregnant again.  With my most recent loss in February, it is hard to get excited about this pregnancy, but I'm trying to stay positive and remind myself that every pregnancy begins a new story.   Wishing you lots of luck...don't give up yet!