advice on working opposite schedule than SO

ljanette85

I am interviewing for a weekend job. I would work all day saturday and sunday. during the week i will be home with LO. I watch a few kids after school each day but I bring him with me. During the weekdays I am home before my SO returns from work. if I get the weekend job that I am applying for I will be home by 5 or 6 each evening. Im applying for the weekend job because I work as a massage therapist and that is a busier time to work. Also, my babysitting job ends when school ends...at that point my LO will be a year old and I will be considering sending him to daycare pt so that I can pick up a few more days working as a mt...

for those that do this do you find that its very draining on your relationship with your SO to be working all weekend? Any tips? Thanks

 

jannv11

DH works every other weekend and I enjoy the downtime.  No pressure to make plans.  Just cleaning and hanging out with DS.  If it were every week it would be a little harder to plan activities but if you need the money then work. 

LoCarb

On the positive, it sounds like you will have a set schedule with decent end time and can enjoy the evenings together and even do date nights.

My H works in retail several wknds of the month and I hate it. His schedule is unpredictable and not set like yours. I don't mind the occasional wknd w/ just me and the kids. However, he always seems to work on days we have plans.  Also, I can't schedule any appts (for ex: hair cut) or have a girls day unless I want to pay for a sitter.

ljanette85

the set hours will be nice. its temporary... once my LO is older and I take on a few weekdays I will be able to drop sundays or maybe work every other one.

skoogirl

MH is a chef/restaurant manager so he works every weekend.  His regular hours include 3 - close on Sats and Suns, but this past weekend he had to go in early.  He also works Mon, Thur, Friday 8-4, which has been great, so that we have dinners together Mon-Thur, plus DS goes to daycare 3 days per week.  Would I love to see him more?  Absolutely!  Would I like for him to come to all the parties we go to on the weekends, yes.  Although I have vowed to go to fewer of his friends' parties without him because they are not that fun for me.

When he is home we make the most of our time and we are very careful to enjoy mutual time off together as opposed to planning time separate.  It is hard to relate to friends who need time on the weekends separate from their husbands because we already have so much independent time.  We are used to this weird schedule because it has been this way throughout our relationship, but we sometimes think about DH getting more of a 9-5 type job so that we can have weekends together.  I just worry that he would be miserable in such a job.

KristenS09

My H schedule is Thurs-Sat 7pm-7am and I work M-Th 7-4pm.  Unfortunatley we are unable to afford DC right now for DD so we really have no choice.  It takes some getting used to but we make it work.  He will take a short nap so we can do something as a family on Sundays and we aslo try to spend as much time together in the evenings when DD goes to bed (I do all the house work on the weekends so we can just hang out during the week)

EmilyStL

I am a teacher and my husband works evenings and weekends.  It's great in that we can avoid dealing with daycare costs, but right now for instance, the last time I spent more than an hour with him was on Sunday after he got home from work around 7.  We make the best of it, and DD is an "easy" kid so it's not hard for me to take care of her by myself, but it does suck not getting much family time.