bit of a rant and praise.

rslhmg

I'm getting so frustrated with the barrage of "is she doing this or that" questioning as well as the comments about how small DD is. I politely try to remind everyone that she would only be just shy of 2 months if she hadn't been early and that is what her development and size are going to go by. My grandmother is particularly awful about this. She's constantly comparing DD to other babies, or even how adult family members acted as babies. I've repeatedly reminded her of dds development going by adjusted age and even told her that the pedi and developmental specialist are both pleased with where she's at, but she just keeps on. I'm to the point I can't stand talking to her about DD. I don't know what to do anymore with all this questioning and comparing. I'm afraid I'm going to just blow up at someone over it. The only one who seems to understand any of the development and weight stuff is mil, dh has an autistic brother. She's quick to cut off anyone who says something about where DD should be and counter it with something positive. She actually got on me a bit when I was telling someone DD would be slower the other babies her actual age in some things. I'm so grateful to have someone who gets it, but I thought I'd post here since I'm sure other moms here have dealt with my same frustrations.

PhillyGal34

i am so grateful that both of my SIL's had their babies a year before. I think it would be hard if one of them was due around the same time as me... my niece and nephew were only 11 days apart and people compared them and they were both full term. I can't imagine if one was a preemie.  

 

That said, I would probably snap back and say "oh really well if I compared you to other people your age how would you feel?" or "yeah speaking of comparing people by age, shouldn't you be going into a home soon?" (assuming she isn't and is healthy and that wouldn't be overly mean of course) I have a lot of friends who were due around the same time as me and they have all been really good about not comparing babies.  They all know that we went through a ton already... I don't need those comments to help me along ... sorry you are going through this and YAY MIL!