Any advice would be appreciated....

jamima757@yahoo.com

My brother and SIL had a beautiful little boy yesterday. She developed pre-eclamsia and they couldn't level her BP and had high protein in the urine. They did a c-section yesterday at 32 weeks. Baby is doing good so far 5 lbs 2 oz- so that is promising in itself. SIL had diabetes going into the pregnancy and stuggled with it throughout. My question: what is was the most helpful after your preemies were born? They already have a DD and I have been keeping her. But I just feel like I should do something... anything. I am making some food (brownies, snack mix, cookies, ect) to take to them today in the hospital.I know SIL isn't going to pump or nurse- I currently have well over 1000 oz froze from my LO, he is over 1 so I don't have a problem switching him to white milk. Would it be weird if I offered it to them? I know that BM is very beneficial and can't help but wonder if it wouldn't help the little guy. Any other advice or thoughts are appreciated! TIA!

WannaBAmama

Honestly, you keeping their DD is probably such a huge help! My mom had my DS most of the time when LO was in the nicu, but my friends took him to the movies, shopping, and out to dinner one day. That made me really happy that DS was doing something fun while we were at the nicu all day. It made me feel less guilty about not being with him.
About the breast milk my husband asked LOs dr in the nicu about doner milk and he said it wouldn't really be beneficial because it's mature milk and not really what a preemie needs. If you want to offer it though, maybe their dr has a different view. I had two of my close friends offer me their breast milk and I didn't think it was weird at all. I thought it was super sweet that my friends were willing to do that for my son.

kck329

It sounds like you are already doing a lot which is awesome. 

Here is a list of ways to help a NICU family that this board put together a little while ago. You may want to circulate it to anyone else who is asking about how to help so the parents don't have to run interference on everyone and can focus on their baby. https://preemiemomblog.blogspot.com/p/what-can-i-do-for-my-friend.html

The rest of the resource blog is great for the parents to check out when they are ready too!

rslhmg

What you're already doing is wonderful! As for the donor milk, that's a tricky situation, some people are fine with it, some aren't. I had a friend offer for my Lo, which was sweet, but it made me feel worse about my low supply.

Sept30Madison

You sound like you are doing tons and are a huge help!

Since your SIL just delivered, she's probably getting most meals through the hospital.  When you go to visit NICU after she's discharged, I always loved it when people called to see if they could bring me lunch and if I had any preferences for food, etc.