Birdy2011

kimmygirl77

I just wanted you to see this instead of it being buried in your last post....

I wanted to let you know that I am sorry that you are angry. I am also sorry that you regret your marriage. My blended family experience has been a hard road too. I have been with my DH for 13 years. We have been married for 8. When we were younger, (BM included) we were very much at each other's throats all the time. We have mellowed with age I think! My point is that it can get better. I HOPE it gets better for you. Being angry, having tension, and stressing all the time wears on you, your family and your marriage. The ones that suffer the most are the kids. His and your little on the way. They are the innocents in all this. Please remember that. It is hard to turn the other cheek, but do it for them. I also hope that you can get into counseling to deal with  the anger that you have for BM. Please do that or you will drive yourself crazy. Also think about this, BM probably wants to make your life hell. She is angry too. But if you let it get to you, then she has won. She wants to hurt you and your DH. If  you let her...she wins. Keep your chin up and love your SKs no matter what. It isn't their fault. Take care...you can PM me if you need to.

J&A2008

Ditto.  My LO was a surprise, and while I don't and haven't regretted being with DH, my pregnancy was a shock and scared the $%#@ out of me because of how stressed I was and how complicated our BF was at the time.  There were times I wanted to leave him, not because of the man he is, but because the circumstances were just so tough.

Hope it gets better for you!

Holly_1007

butting in*

I just read the FFFC, and wanted to chime in that I hope you have found a therapist or a close friend to confide in, sometimes having an outlet is very helpful, especially dealing with the hormones of pregnancy.  don't get me wrong, there are days I wish I chose a different path, or that DH had chosen a different path and not been with BM... being in a BF is the most difficult thing I have ever done, and IMO is 10x more challenging than parenting your own biological child. hugs. I hope you feel better soon

FutureMrsWittig

I have had these feelings you're describing.  Some days they are harder than others.

((hugs))

I hope you find your peace, whatever it is.

sweetwalks

holly71087:

butting in*

I just read the FFFC, and wanted to chime in that I hope you have found a therapist or a close friend to confide in, sometimes having an outlet is very helpful, especially dealing with the hormones of pregnancy.  don't get me wrong, there are days I wish I chose a different path, or that DH had chosen a different path and not been with BM... being in a BF is the most difficult thing I have ever done, and IMO is 10x more challenging than parenting your own biological child. hugs. I hope you feel better soon

I agree with everyone & I especially agree with the bold here.

Being a part of a BF is so very difficult, I love my DH and I can't say that I've thought of leaving him because I haven't but there are days I definitely wish he'd have chosen a different path before me.  

I do hope you can find someone to confide in or a therapist. Lots of hugs & prayers sent your way!  

Birdy2011

I just wanted to say thank you for the encouraging words, ladies.  It is nice to hear that I'm not the only one who's had/having these experiences to some degree or another.  I do have a therapist.  

The next few weeks and months will be very telling for us with everything that's going on: BM's job loss, telling SSs about LO, the holidays (my least favorite & most stressful time of the year), and how DH and I (hopefully) handle it all together.

We'll see how it all shakes out, but I'm prepared to walk away if that's what's best for me and LO at the end of the day.