Creating Profile Books... tips and advice?

Bpmg

Hello All! I created my first draft of our profile book. I saw some samples on the internet and kind of went from there. We are new to the adoption process, and I am learning alot quickly, but am afraid of making mistakes in my book, particulalry with vernacular. Based on alot of examples I have seen, people seem to keep the book very focused on the birth mother's child.. meaning when describing things it is often stated "your child will..." instrad of "our child will" I have seen child used more than baby - is this the preferred comminication by birth mothers? Also struggling with wording around us adopting - should we say "as we welcome your child" (seems presumptious) "We are ready for a child" (should we say baby?) "We are looking forward to our new family" ?? Any advice appreciated - I would love to know about any resources anyone is aware of to help with this. Thank you!

sgb721

There are some tips in my post a few below yours. I"m not sure about the wording yet, I haven't gotten that far. GL!!!

Bpmg

Woops I should have scrolled down before posting! Good advice in your post, I am reading through it now. Thank you!

Also - I used mixbook (havent printed yet.) it was pretty easy. 

 

Ginny0211

I can't remember what wording my birthson's parents used. Wish I could. Their letter was so sweet and thoughtful. 

Me personally, I would not find "our child" presumptuous. I would have read it as the aparents referring to their future child (which  may or may not be my baby). I knew that their baby was out there and they were referring to that child. 

I think whenever you're talking about your child's future, "our child" fits perfectly because he/she will be your child then.  

I think it makes sense to put "your child" or "your baby". When you're saying something like "We understand the hard decision you're making for your baby." or "Thank you for considering us for being the parents of your baby." "Your baby" fits for both of these because you're talking about the present and in the present time that is the EM's baby. 

I know it's easier said than done, but don't stress too much! Honestly the pictures really do say a thousand words and helped me make my decision more than the letter. I had it narrowed down to two families and both letters were very sweet, but while looking at the pictures in my birthson's parent's profile, I felt more of connection to them. Their house reminded me of my house that I grew up in. They had a dog just like my childhood dog. They seemed down to earth, unpretentious, laid back, loving and fun. And something about the picture of the dad playing with his kids (they had adopted prior to adopting my birthson) reminded me of my dad.   

This is of course just my opinion, but hope it's helpful.  

 

Bpmg

Thank you! Really helpful. I do have lots of pictures....and I am hoping they tell our story well.