Are "save the dates" weird for a shower?

marionravenwood

So my friend whose in charge of throwing my shower wants to send "save the dates" out now.  We're planning the shower for the second weekend in January.  I like the idea honestly because its so far out and I want to make sure my close friends can make it, but is would it be "weird"?

a13049

Save the dates seem a little over the top IMO. I may mention my dates to a smal number of key people like the new grandmas and my sister but everyone else will find out when the invites come.

Suz+Mo

Seems a little overkill, but it's not bad or impolite to do that.  Couldn't you just email them really quick with the date/ approximate time and tell them you are letting them know the date early because their friendship means so much to you that you would love for them to be able to celebrate with you? Or whatever your reason for why it's important for them to be able to attend. 

I figure an email is easier anyway because lots of people have their calendar right there when checking email. And it's a little more low key than a mail "official" save the date, ya know?  But again I don't think it's bad or impolite or something, but yes perhaps a little odd. 

TMWarren85

I think I would typically say it's weird, but given the time of year and everything else that's going on, not a bad idea. What about sending an email telling everyone to save that day? Not sure if that's any better, but it cuts back on the cost and is a little less formal.

wifeofadam

I don't think they are necessary.

For a second I was thinking maybe it was a good idea because it's close to the holidays and people might appreciate the heads-up, but you said second week in January, so I wouldn't bother.

ckalm5

I would honestly think it was a little weird if I got a save the date for a baby shower but that's just me.

ellephunt

I would just let your friends know when it's going to be. 

Heartstrings13

Personally, I think Save the Dates are over the top for a wedding, unless it's a holiday weekend, so for a baby shower, I think it's really excessive. If she sends the invites out in enough time, people will be able to get it on their schedules without issue. Especially since there isn't usually much going on in January since it's right after the holidays.

Shaungela

Yeah i would think it was weird

teralane

I am glad I am not the only one whose friend is doing this. The reason she wants to is because my baby shower is also the 2nd weekend in January. With the holidays coming up, people get busy. It at least will give them a chance to put on their calendar now versus waiting too late. I think people may appreciate the notice. 

meganwv

My friends who are planning my shower sent out evite save the dates because I have a bunch of people who be flying in for the event. This way, they know when it is and can go ahead and make their flight reservations. 

Mee83shell

I would be quite offended to get a STD for a baby shower. It's gift grabby to me. I'd just be sure to send the invites out a little earlier than "typical" since its around the holidays.

topchef33

Yeah that seems a little unnecessary. I would say just spread the word by word of mouth. 

theimpossibleastronaut

I agree with PP. It's a little excessive for a shower. Just e-mail or spread by word of mouth.

budgirl007

Too much IMO...word of mouth or even an email letting every one know ahead of time would be enough. Then invites a few weeks before.

pitterpatter129

Seems like something reserved for weddings only.  How about sending out the invitations early and then emailing a reminder closer to the date?

 

 

ShawMich

It is a bit much...but not necessarily bad. People who don't come to the shower typically send a gift anyways so I don't see the point.

jenlb03

Do what you want. You know your situation and friends better than a bunch of strangers. People on these boards are hyper sensative about shower stuff IMO.