FFFC

fellesferie

Anyone in the mood to complain/vent/commiserate? 

I have nothing on the BF front.

But DD (2-yo, 3 in Jan) is driving me crazy. CRAZY. She hates pants of any kind, and she only wants to wear summer dresses. If she can't (it's 60 degrees today), she cries, whines, and clings all day. ALL DAY. She doesn't want to leave the house and flips her sh!t when we have to go somewhere. 

I've bought her some sweater dresses and leggings, but she won't have it.

She's usually a pretty easy toddler, so I'm stunned. Stunned and terrified of what she'll be like as a teen. 

kimmygirl77

i HATE when my coworkers leave left over lunch, cups, napkins and whatever on the back lunch table. it looks gross and i cant eat my lunch because everyone's crap is in the way. i also HATE cleaning it up. it is not my mess. why do i have to pick it up? ny coworkers are not my kids. do i have to wipe their asses too? ugh!! but my manager wants us to contribute and clean it and the fridge. i dont even use the fridge!!!!

oops, i suck and cant complain now because i think i left my soda on that table yesterday. dang it, now i have to get off my high horse!!!!

dor79

I have two:

1.) BM has a new boyfriend who is rather well-off, guess that means she can do lots of activities with the kids again, and cut into our time with the kids.  I guess I will go back to being the under-appreciated sitter who's life revolves around her schedule.

2.) BM old common law husband mother passed of cancer and I sent an online condolence from us and our family (husbands parents and his siblings) and I got blasted for it.  Apparently, it is not ok for me to pass along condolences to someone who was instrumental in shaping my step-kids lives for the last 8 years.

Hopeforthebest

I honest to God do NOT know how my boss makes it in life.I mean the simplest things are incredibly difficult for him.

He ALWAYS pays his bills at work.Our offices are separate but have a cojoining window which he keeps OPEN.I hear everything (can't help it).

He uses online bill pay or should I say attempts to every single month several times a month for different bills. He ALWAYS ends up having to call and make the payment over the phone because he has such issues with the online process.

I just wanna scream (I have offered to help when he complained to me last year about his issues but he thinks he is a MAN and KNOWS everything and it's everyone ELSE's fault/problem).

 

 

AmeliaKris

My 17 yr old SS is ruining his life despite our best efforts to save him from himself. We have bm, school, counselor, church pastor, grandparents, etc...all talking with him. He is going to fail school because he does not choose to turn in his work. He starts night school next quarter on top of school all day. He is hell bent on moving out at 18 which is in 2 months and is furious at us because we wont let him move out right now. He is also actively trying with his gf to have a baby and supposibly the are going to the courthouse to get married in February with no ones approval. On top of all this, I ve started having health issues directly caused by the chaos these last few months which is also putting a strain on dh and I. I know it makes me a horrible person to say this aloud but if he cant be respectful to us and his siblings....and just keep the peace at home then maybe he needs a dose of the real world. He is only asked to do two things ...clean his room and pass school. He thinks this is too much. I just am at my wits end and POed that it affect my health. I try to put it out of my mind but its hard to watch a kid you love throw his life away on purpose. Ok...flame me if ur gonna I guess.

socloudy99

DH starts his new job on Monday after being laid off in June. The pay is 40% lower. He is still looking but some money is better than none. I am glad he will be back to work. I am nervous to review the budget. We got rid of a few things to prepare.

The FFC part is I will have to do some laundry and cooking again. He was handling it all while he was off. I don't want to do it!

FutureMrsWittig

My DH just landed his dream job.  I'm so excited for him, and also incredibly jealous since I am going through a rough time at my job.

His new job involves some travel.  His first trip is next week and he will be gone for 4-5 days.  My FFFC: we have never spent more than one night apart and I'm totally terrified about being alone at home with SD and my DD, and how I'm going to manage everything.  I know I can do it and I need to grow up and get over being afraid of the dark, etc...  But I'm a big baby.

sld5711

This is our week for SD and I am just not feeling it at all.  I know my DH misses her when she spends her week with her mother but I just want a week of peace and quite before this baby comes and I just want to selfishly only focus on my baby coming.

Tasheystar

I'm glad that we have a break from SD this weekend. DH was away for work in September, and he's working weekends in November, so we're making it up this month. We've been having marital problems (I don't want to write it out on here, but think "serious man fuckup"), so adding an almost 7 year-old who doesn't listen has been pretty stressful for me this month.

 

Nineoceans

Just had some complications come up with my pregnancy that could lead to induction this weekend. I'm feeling sad and scared. I have 8,000 things to do and a client at work who needs a project done this weekend because they purposely scheduled it out as far as possible. So I am trying to wrap everything up or prepare for someone to replace me if I get the call from my doctor last second.

I'm so mad that I am having to stress over work instead of having a low key last week at work. I'm mad because my body is failing my baby and not letting him come when he needs to...on the other hand I'm so done being pregnant. It hurts to walk, eat, move, sleeping is a joke, my hormones are insane. I have clients asking/demanding things from me for early next week and it's like....I am almost 39 weeks pregnant, don't take for granted that I'm just hanging around to get things to you start getting your plan Bs together guys!

Anyways, just trying to savor my last few kicks and hiccups while trying not to let all the other stuff feel overwhelming. 

Phantomgirl

I forgot to collect SS today for his wknd visit.
If I jump off the motor way at exit 8 I go right by his house. I got off at exit 9 and headed for home. I had to swing a major U turn and head back into town. I was late to collect SS and late home.

I'm so tired, work was crazy this week.

On the upside DH thought it was hilarious. He also made dinner, lit the fire, and lit candles for me. He and SS are gone out fit a few hours. I'm so happy!!!

Ilumine

DH and SS have been having conversations about SS going to the local community college and staying in the house an extra year.

First, this was done without discussing it with me first.

Second, I returned to my husband, after SS did his demon child bit with DD in January, with the understanding that SS would mind his Ps & Qs around me AND that he would have to go away to school or back to his mothers after highschool graduation. 

Third, this was also after SS made his ill-fated comment about the only reason why I get to be the SAHM and get all of the sundries HE IS ALSO ENTITLED TO because he is as important in this household is because "I PUT OUT".

My FFFC is that next weekend (we have friends coming to stay with us this week) I am going to have to finally do my last ultimatum.  If there isnt a real plan (one that does not include any kind of "oopsie, it didnt work out"s) for SS to be out of my house by the time Fall Semester Starts (at school or his mothers, I dont care), then I will start expanding my job search to NY and VA and will be out of the house with Monkey.

I have not done a single thing for SS (other than making dinner) since that comment and he has not blinked an eye OTHER than to test me every couple of days by asking me to do something for him and then pulling the whole martyr bit when I say no.

Because DH is not working and can fullfill the requests within a few hours or so, SS isnt really feeling it yet - which is not DHs fault per se, but its not teaching either of them a lesson and just increasing my resentment.

I CANNOT LIVE LIKE THIS for 2.5 more school years.

Hopeforthebest

I have a 2nd more serious FFFC.

I'm glad I'm not adding children of my own to my BF. I honestly have all the respect in the world for you that have and do.

kimmygirl77

Ilumine:

DH and SS have been having conversations about SS going to the local community college and staying in the house an extra year.

First, this was done without discussing it with me first.

Second, I returned to my husband, after SS did his demon child bit with DD in January, with the understanding that SS would mind his Ps & Qs around me AND that he would have to go away to school or back to his mothers after highschool graduation. 

Third, this was also after SS made his ill-fated comment about the only reason why I get to be the SAHM and get all of the sundries HE IS ALSO ENTITLED TO because he is as important in this household is because "I PUT OUT".

My FFFC is that next weekend (we have friends coming to stay with us this week) I am going to have to finally do my last ultimatum.  If there isnt a real plan (one that does not include any kind of "oopsie, it didnt work out"s) for SS to be out of my house by the time Fall Semester Starts (at school or his mothers, I dont care), then I will start expanding my job search to NY and VA and will be out of the house with Monkey.

I have not done a single thing for SS (other than making dinner) since that comment and he has not blinked an eye OTHER than to test me every couple of days by asking me to do something for him and then pulling the whole martyr bit when I say no.

Because DH is not working and can fullfill the requests within a few hours or so, SS isnt really feeling it yet - which is not DHs fault per se, but its not teaching either of them a lesson and just increasing my resentment.

I CANNOT LIVE LIKE THIS for 2.5 more school years.

OMG!!!!! This is horrible?? Your DH didn't put the smack down on him for this? I mean JESUS!! WTF?? 

Birdy2011

I wish every day of my life that I'd never married my husband. He is a good guy, and I love him, but that is not enough to make it worth it here. There is no upside to being in this position, and I can't seem to see how I will ever find my way out. Matters are more complicated with LO on the way. I cry everyday for the bad decisions that I have made and I know it is all my fault. If I could do it all over again, I would do it completely different. How could I have been so stupid?

emikat

I was informed this week that I'll be taking a 15 pecent pay cut next year and more the year after. This after work promised us no more than 3 percent over these two year. It was a take it or you are fired offer to all of us. So, no choice really. Then DH informs me BM is collecting. 2800 a month in unemployment in addition to the nearly 1000 we send in CS to her every month. She still reuses to look for just any reasonable job and only wants what she believes to be her dream job. Good luck in this economy sister. She moved back in with her mom four months ago so has no real expenses and has taken at least two out of state vacations since then. Yeah, I'm bitter.

brandyleighxx

sld5711:

This is our week for SD and I am just not feeling it at all.  I know my DH misses her when she spends her week with her mother but I just want a week of peace and quite before this baby comes and I just want to selfishly only focus on my baby coming.

I felt the exact same way before DS came. I was keeping all my fingers and toes cross he'd come early in the week and that we wouldn't have my 3 step kids the weekend following... and, it worked! But before that I kept reminding myself how important it was to make other kids feel involved.