He moved out today

AngieB90

My ex boyfriend and I had been together 3yrs would have been 4yrs in february. We have a 2yr old son and a 7wk old son. We had been having problems, but we were working on them until we had our second son. Out of no where he started going out with his friends and leaving me with the boys 24/7. He would rather be with his friends then spend time with his kids and help take care of them. He did only move next door into his friends place until he can afford to get a place of his own. But I know even with him living next door he wont come around as much as he should. Im at such a loss. I moved to Michigan with him almost 2yrs ago from California. None of my family is here, I only have his family. Yes, they support me and dont like what he has done. But I just feel lost and just want to lay in bed and never get out.

LightTouch

I know it's hard, but  be strong for you boys, they need you more now than ever. 

Sometimes I think men are missing a gene or something...the one that makes them understand priorities and gives them love and compassion.

 

You can do this, you know why?  Cause your a mom and a mom can do f-ing anything. 

LightTouch

I know it's hard, but  be strong for you boys, they need you more now than ever. 

Sometimes I think men are missing a gene or something...the one that makes them understand priorities and gives them love and compassion.

 

You can do this, you know why?  Cause your a mom and a mom can do f-ing anything. 

AngieB90

Thanks for the support. When I met him 3yrs ago I never thought it would end like this. He even got me out of a really bad marriage, so I thought "hey I finally met a really nice guy!" but I guess not

fauxshelley

I think you're blessed in the fact that you haven't married him.  You might want to consider moving back to CA so you have some help with the boys.  If I were you, I would move home and not even give XBF a warning.  Without a custody agreement, he can't stop you.  Once the move is made, and you can show why it is best for you and the boys, it's highly unlikely that a judge require you to move back.  It sounds like your XBF won't fight for custody or visitation, so you probably won't even have to worry about that. Best of luck to you.

*Just so you know, I'm usually pro co-parenting whenever possible, but being so far away from any family help with a newborn and a toddler, I would have to say the greater good is to move.

AngieB90

Ive considered moving back. But I have a pretty good job and if i were to move and try to do  my job in california I would have to start over and go to school. At this point im not sure what im going to do. I do have support from his family though

March2013FTM

AngieB90:

Ive considered moving back. But I have a pretty good job and if i were to move and try to do  my job in california I would have to start over and go to school. At this point im not sure what im going to do. I do have support from his family though

Its good that you have their support. I used to live in CA and I know their reciprocity laws are all funky (I'm a Paralegal and I know a lot of nurses who have moved into or out of CA).

Put your kids, and yourself first. Don't feel forced into anything you do not think is best for them. At the end of the day, even though they are his children, is he the best role model for them to have?

I have to ask myself that a lot - and sometimes, the answer isn't always easy. 

TruN

That's a hard situation and it's simpler to mines. My kids father is just a rowingstone I didn't know it was going to turn out as a disappointment of me having to do everything and he just feel it's about him leaving and coming on when he wants. It was just unfair and more personal issues to our relationship so we r now separated and I moved on.