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WTF apt & dumb mothers

I am headed to the RE at 9:15 for a baseline u/s as yesterday's spotting turned into CD1 today.  Then we are meeting with the RE to talk about what we should do.

So I feel like we are one scary big step away from IVF.  I have no clue how tomorrow is going to go: What my DH is going to say about the enormous cost and if he will even be willing to try.  How much it will really cost? If we can even start this cycle?  Ugh.  How am I going to sleep tonight?

 Dumb comment from my MIL:

Me-we need you to watch DS so we can go to the RE.

Her: ok, how are things going?

Me-The next step is IVF and I am not sure how we will afford it (this is the short version)

 Her: maybe you need to take a break b/c it isn't God's timing.

Me: then he needs to take this burden off my heart. 

Dumb comment from MY MOM:  get ready.

Me: I got AF and I think our next step is IVF

Her: how much does that cost

Me: 15k....then the conversation lead to adoption and I said I didn't want to adopt out of birth order really would prefer a 1year old or younger

Her: My neighbor has a 1 year golden lab they are trying give away. He is really good with kids and is an out door dog.

Me.  (long pause) Mom, why are you telling me this?

Her: um. Oh I guess I am just telling everyone since it is a good dog.

Me: the last thing we need on top of IF expenses is a dog and vet bills. 

Her.  yeah, true.

Me: i got to go change a diaper, talk to you later.

UGHHHHH!! 

 

TTC#1: 14 months on our own (did HSG, b/w, SA);
BFP on Cycle 14--TWINS! Identical twin boys stillborn at 19wks(1/9/10)
3 break cycles; took clomid 50mg, BFP #2 Beta #1 35, Beta #2 338!!! Owen was born 2/11/11! 
TTC#2: 4 cycles on clomid: BFNs
BFP #3: Cycle #5 100mg clomid; beta #1 21; beta #2 6=CP 
Cycle #6 break cycle TTC no meds=BFN
Cycle #7: 150 clomid+ovidril+IUI=BFN (switched to RE)
Cycle #8: follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
Cycle #9 Forced break due to cyst
Cycle #10 follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
Cycle #11 follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
Cycle#12 Forced break due to cyst, went on BCP; did repeat HSG, Saline U/S
Cycle #13 IVF: Follistim/Menapur ER 11-30 11 eggs, 5 mature, 4 fertilized and 3dt on 12-3; BFN
Cycle #14: IVF#2 lupron/follistim/menopur ER 1-22, 19 eggs, 14 fertilized, 5dt on 1-27, BFP!! beta 1: 63, beta 2: 119; EDD 10-15-13; 1 frozen embie
Miracle Surprise BFP, EDD 10-1-15; saw HB great Betas, 11weeks lost baby MC at home
Moved forward with FET transfered solo frostie on 6-4-15, beta 1: 315, beta 2: 738, u/s showed one baby on track EDD 2-21-16

Re: WTF apt & dumb mothers

  • UGH, we seriously need to take a day off together and vent.  

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  • imageLauren79:
    UGH, we seriously need to take a day off together and vent.  

    YES PLEASE!  DH is coming with me tomorrow and next week is going to be crazy as I am babysitting extra days to make some money.  But if I end up in town I will let you know. 

    TTC#1: 14 months on our own (did HSG, b/w, SA);
    BFP on Cycle 14--TWINS! Identical twin boys stillborn at 19wks(1/9/10)
    3 break cycles; took clomid 50mg, BFP #2 Beta #1 35, Beta #2 338!!! Owen was born 2/11/11! 
    TTC#2: 4 cycles on clomid: BFNs
    BFP #3: Cycle #5 100mg clomid; beta #1 21; beta #2 6=CP 
    Cycle #6 break cycle TTC no meds=BFN
    Cycle #7: 150 clomid+ovidril+IUI=BFN (switched to RE)
    Cycle #8: follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
    Cycle #9 Forced break due to cyst
    Cycle #10 follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
    Cycle #11 follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
    Cycle#12 Forced break due to cyst, went on BCP; did repeat HSG, Saline U/S
    Cycle #13 IVF: Follistim/Menapur ER 11-30 11 eggs, 5 mature, 4 fertilized and 3dt on 12-3; BFN
    Cycle #14: IVF#2 lupron/follistim/menopur ER 1-22, 19 eggs, 14 fertilized, 5dt on 1-27, BFP!! beta 1: 63, beta 2: 119; EDD 10-15-13; 1 frozen embie
    Miracle Surprise BFP, EDD 10-1-15; saw HB great Betas, 11weeks lost baby MC at home
    Moved forward with FET transfered solo frostie on 6-4-15, beta 1: 315, beta 2: 738, u/s showed one baby on track EDD 2-21-16
  • Gasp .... Adopt a dog? I feel your frustration. My mom is very clueless and unsupportive about this whole situation. Hugs.
    Dx PCOS Three cycle of Clomid- BFN HSG- clear 6/09-Follistim and HCG IUI on 7/7/09 BFN 7/09- Follistim and Ovidrel IUI on 8/11/09 BFP! beta #1-342 beta #2-717 Joey was born on 5/5/10 Trying for #2 since 6/12 6/12- Gonal F and Ovidel IUI on 7/10. BFN 8/12- Gonal F and Ovidrel. IUI on 8/10. BFN 9/12- Gonal F and Ovidrel IUI BFN 10/22 Gonal F, Menopur, Ganirelex 11/4 trigger 11/6 ER 14R 10F 11/11 ET transferred one 4AA embryo beta 11/20! BFP Betas stop multiplying . m/c at 5 weeks moving on to FET if my numbers ever get back to 0!
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    imageLauren79:
    UGH, we seriously need to take a day off together and vent.  

    YES PLEASE!  DH is coming with me tomorrow and next week is going to be crazy as I am babysitting extra days to make some money.  But if I end up in town I will let you know. 

    Just give me a few days notice.  I can always meet you halfway : )  Is Southpoint halfway? 

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    BFP 06.29.12 EDD 03.11.13 natural m/c 07.13.12
    BFP 09.22.12 EDD 05.31.13 natural m/c 10.07.12
    CP 11.09.12
    BFP 01.01.13 EDD 09.15.13 d&c 01.24.13

    BFP 03.26.13 EDD 12.04.13
     

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    imagejeannaqueena:

    imageLauren79:
    UGH, we seriously need to take a day off together and vent.  

    YES PLEASE!  DH is coming with me tomorrow and next week is going to be crazy as I am babysitting extra days to make some money.  But if I end up in town I will let you know. 

    Just give me a few days notice.  I can always meet you halfway : )  Is Southpoint halfway? 

    Ohh southpoint is a great idea.  Let me see how tomorrow goes. 

    TTC#1: 14 months on our own (did HSG, b/w, SA);
    BFP on Cycle 14--TWINS! Identical twin boys stillborn at 19wks(1/9/10)
    3 break cycles; took clomid 50mg, BFP #2 Beta #1 35, Beta #2 338!!! Owen was born 2/11/11! 
    TTC#2: 4 cycles on clomid: BFNs
    BFP #3: Cycle #5 100mg clomid; beta #1 21; beta #2 6=CP 
    Cycle #6 break cycle TTC no meds=BFN
    Cycle #7: 150 clomid+ovidril+IUI=BFN (switched to RE)
    Cycle #8: follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
    Cycle #9 Forced break due to cyst
    Cycle #10 follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
    Cycle #11 follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
    Cycle#12 Forced break due to cyst, went on BCP; did repeat HSG, Saline U/S
    Cycle #13 IVF: Follistim/Menapur ER 11-30 11 eggs, 5 mature, 4 fertilized and 3dt on 12-3; BFN
    Cycle #14: IVF#2 lupron/follistim/menopur ER 1-22, 19 eggs, 14 fertilized, 5dt on 1-27, BFP!! beta 1: 63, beta 2: 119; EDD 10-15-13; 1 frozen embie
    Miracle Surprise BFP, EDD 10-1-15; saw HB great Betas, 11weeks lost baby MC at home
    Moved forward with FET transfered solo frostie on 6-4-15, beta 1: 315, beta 2: 738, u/s showed one baby on track EDD 2-21-16
  • imageAshB62:

    Ugh. It sucks when the people closest to us just don't understand and say stupid crap. My mom came over today and kept talking about how hard my sister's pregnancy has been. Whatever... at least she gets to be pregnant...

    I'm sorry you had to deal with that. ((hugs)) 

    Ugh that is a rough comment too. I have explained to my mom numerous times to what not to say.  She never gets it.

    TTC#1: 14 months on our own (did HSG, b/w, SA);
    BFP on Cycle 14--TWINS! Identical twin boys stillborn at 19wks(1/9/10)
    3 break cycles; took clomid 50mg, BFP #2 Beta #1 35, Beta #2 338!!! Owen was born 2/11/11! 
    TTC#2: 4 cycles on clomid: BFNs
    BFP #3: Cycle #5 100mg clomid; beta #1 21; beta #2 6=CP 
    Cycle #6 break cycle TTC no meds=BFN
    Cycle #7: 150 clomid+ovidril+IUI=BFN (switched to RE)
    Cycle #8: follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
    Cycle #9 Forced break due to cyst
    Cycle #10 follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
    Cycle #11 follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
    Cycle#12 Forced break due to cyst, went on BCP; did repeat HSG, Saline U/S
    Cycle #13 IVF: Follistim/Menapur ER 11-30 11 eggs, 5 mature, 4 fertilized and 3dt on 12-3; BFN
    Cycle #14: IVF#2 lupron/follistim/menopur ER 1-22, 19 eggs, 14 fertilized, 5dt on 1-27, BFP!! beta 1: 63, beta 2: 119; EDD 10-15-13; 1 frozen embie
    Miracle Surprise BFP, EDD 10-1-15; saw HB great Betas, 11weeks lost baby MC at home
    Moved forward with FET transfered solo frostie on 6-4-15, beta 1: 315, beta 2: 738, u/s showed one baby on track EDD 2-21-16
  • I'm sorry. Hugs. It is so hard when those closest to us say dumb things.




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    I hate when people close to us don't understand.  I actually stopped telling my mom what we are doing because all she talks about is my sister having a second one and how hard her first pregnancy was ( she needed no help to get pregnant).  I think the kicker was when she told me I should be grateful I have my DS which I am....  Big hugs to you....  Sometimes this board is the only thing that keeps me semi sane.  
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    Twins DS#2 and 3 born at 31 weeks, 3 days due to a short cervix on 8/2/13.
  • imageAshB62:

    Ugh. It sucks when the people closest to us just don't understand and say stupid crap. My mom came over today and kept talking about how hard my sister's pregnancy has been. Whatever... at least she gets to be pregnant...

    I'm sorry you had to deal with that. ((hugs)) 

    This totally!  I'm feeling particularly feisty to any pregant friend who gripes about  pregnancy related things.  I am this.close to asking them if they want to trade places.

    When I first told my mom that were were having trouble, she was like "are you checking your discharge?"  EW at that word... but yeah, mom, since I've charted for freaking 4 years, I actually understand how my body works.

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  • OMG...I can totally relate.  My mom just plain pisses me off half the time.  She has always been very negative in life, but she has telling me that maybe it isn't going to work out and I just wasn't meant to have another baby...WTF?!?  What mom says this to their daughter?  She says this stuff, but she is very interested in where I am in my cycle all the time.  She was out of town this cycle when I had the IUI, so when she came back in town and asked if I had done any treatments lately I lied and said no.  Ha!

     She also feels the need to call me every freaking time she hears someone is pregnant.  Which happens at LEAST once I week.  I don't give a crap that your friend's cousin's sister is pregnant.  Ugh, geez...

    TTC #3 (#1 for DH) since September 2011. DX: Unexplained infertility with possible cervical factor. May 2012 did clomid with IUI - BFN August 2012 IUI #2 w/ follistim/letrozole - BFN September 2012 IUI #3 w/ follistim/letrozole - BFN October 2012 IUI #4 w/ follistim/letrozole - BFN November/December 2012 IVF/ICSI #1 Retrieved 12 eggs, 8 fertilized. Transferred 1 beautiful embryo and 5 made it to freeze. Got my BFP! January 2013 u/s showed empty gestational sac. FET cycle April 2013.  Transferred 2 5 day embryos.  BFP!!!!!  2 heartbeats!!!!  EDD:  12/27/13
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