Don't Judge...

starburst0928

Please don't judge me, and I don't mean to offend anyone. I'm just a lost loss mommy trying to find help from any source possible.

Has anyone ever considered going to a medium? I've always wanted to believe in that sort of thing, and with the recent events in my life, I want to believe in it even more. Hubby thinks its a bunch of crap. I'm also catholic, and I realize I shouldn't even be considering this which makes me more conflicted.

Again, I don't mean to offend anyone. I just think that maybe this thought has crossed another loss mommy's mind.  

 

ILoveRedVino

I never would have considered it until about a week ago when I watched a Long Island Medium marathon.  It seemed incredible.

And then I read that the show was fake.

So I don't know.  I probably wouldn't/won't, but just because I don't think I believe in them.

OSUWifey09

I had considered it, but I'm not sure I'd believe in it enough to really take it seriously.

starburst0928

ILoveRedVino:

I never would have considered it until about a week ago when I watched a Long Island Medium marathon.  It seemed incredible.

And then I read that the show was fake.

So I don't know.  I probably wouldn't/won't, but just because I don't think I believe in them.

I also thought of that show... Haha.  I also read that it was faked (and apparently Breaking Amish is fake too!).  

lolee465

Starburst- I don't think anyone here would judge you for that at all.

I've been to a medium in the past (before my loss) who was supposedly the "best". She's written books and I guess has a tv show in the works. I thought the way she spoke was like a con artist. I didn't have a loss at that time so I felt like I could watch more clearly. To me it seemed like she was taking advantage of desperate people in their time of need. There were people who had just lost children and it was so sad to me when she went over to a group of table and said does the letter "J" mean anything to any one over here and the very sad person would say that their child's middle initial was J.

Let me just say I do believe in mediums and that some people have a gift, but I just don't believe that *most* of the people who are making money at it are for real. It made me so sad to see people who were clearly desperate for answers taken advantage of for $30 a ticket.

I'm in a really bad place right now and know I would be vulnerable to that right now, but that doesn't mean someday when I'm a little stronger I won't give it a try. I know now I would be grasping at anything.

ETA: My comment about my past experience was just a cautionary tale I guess to just be careful, because I think it can be really hard emotionally.

lolee465

starburst0928:

ILoveRedVino:

I never would have considered it until about a week ago when I watched a Long Island Medium marathon.  It seemed incredible.

And then I read that the show was fake.

So I don't know.  I probably wouldn't/won't, but just because I don't think I believe in them.

I also thought of that show... Haha.  I also read that it was faked (and apparently Breaking Amish is fake too!).  

 Ugh, really?!! I love that show..ha

fluttergirlmoonchild79

I've thought about it.  Not sure if I really believe in it or not.  I think sometimes it's a bit of a stretch but I think I'm more scared to hear what they'd say and if any bad future predictions they might make would come true.  I certainly wouldn't judge you if you went.  I'd be curious to see how it went, honestly.

starburst0928

Thanks everyone for your comments. You've given me a lot to think about. I know if it's something I really want to do it'll take a lot of research.

I'm so used to all the judging on the Sept '12 board, I was really afraid to post the question. I should have known this board is way better!

Heatherhah

I am seriously considering it. I have never really wanted to do anything like this until we lost Sydney last year. I wouldn't ever judge you. I am catholic too and I still want to go to one.

Heather 

GavinRonansMom

I would never judge anyone on this board, or anyone in our position....we have been through a terrible and traumatic thing. we all grieve and look for answers the best way we know how. If talking with a medium will help you in any way I say go for it!!

Mrs Nice

No judgement from me either. I have always been curious and have thought about it but I am definitely scared of going to someone who is fake. How would you really know? I kind of wish sometimes that one would find me and be like, "Ugh! Your little boy just wouldn't leave me alone till I found you!", then I might believe.

Kris721

I love the show too.  I Would love to see Theresa and see if Logan would step forward.

starburst0928

Mrs Nice:

No judgement from me either. I have always been curious and have thought about it but I am definitely scared of going to someone who is fake. How would you really know? I kind of wish sometimes that one would find me and be like, "Ugh! Your little boy just wouldn't leave me alone till I found you!", then I might believe. :

I love this. Can this happen to me too?!?

Thanks ladies for all your comments! If it's something I do actually end up doing, I'm sure you will all hear about it!

butterfly2119

I've been contemplating on seeing one to. I'd like to know who's watching my baby on the other side.

pottermommy

Comming out of hiding for a second...

 

I never believed until a few months ago.  I was at work (I worked as and ssistant GM of a planet fitness up until two months aog) a lady came in to go on a tour of the place so I took her on one. 

The whole tour she was fidgetty and nervous.  Well she did sign up but before she left she told me...

"She wasn't alone, someone came and picked her up.  She isn't mad at you or her daddy.  And she is so happy that her Grammy is with her now"

I was floored...my biggest problem, and still is, that I think drowning hs terribly painful and scary and she was all alone, she has to be so angry that I was gone and couldn't save her.  And grammy is what we called my mom, she died 4 months after my Kamryn did. 

lolee465

Pottermommy- Wow! I'm sitting here crying at my desk, that's amazing! 

pottermommy

lolee465:

Pottermommy- Wow! I'm sitting here crying at my desk, that's amazing! 

Didn't mean to make you cry.  It was crazy and I think it scared me as much as awed me.  I still think that she had to be in pain though and scared...That no one will never convince me of.

Bayberry12

pottermommy:

Comming out of hiding for a second...

 

I never believed until a few months ago.  I was at work (I worked as and ssistant GM of a planet fitness up until two months aog) a lady came in to go on a tour of the place so I took her on one. 

The whole tour she was fidgetty and nervous.  Well she did sign up but before she left she told me...

"She wasn't alone, someone came and picked her up.  She isn't mad at you or her daddy.  And she is so happy that her Grammy is with her now"

I was floored...my biggest problem, and still is, that I think drowning hs terribly painful and scary and she was all alone, she has to be so angry that I was gone and couldn't save her.  And grammy is what we called my mom, she died 4 months after my Kamryn did. 

This is unbelievable, reading it took my breath away.

starburst0928

Bayberry12:

pottermommy:

Comming out of hiding for a second...

 

I never believed until a few months ago.  I was at work (I worked as and ssistant GM of a planet fitness up until two months aog) a lady came in to go on a tour of the place so I took her on one. 

The whole tour she was fidgetty and nervous.  Well she did sign up but before she left she told me...

"She wasn't alone, someone came and picked her up.  She isn't mad at you or her daddy.  And she is so happy that her Grammy is with her now"

I was floored...my biggest problem, and still is, that I think drowning hs terribly painful and scary and she was all alone, she has to be so angry that I was gone and couldn't save her.  And grammy is what we called my mom, she died 4 months after my Kamryn did. 

This is unbelievable, reading it took my breath away.

Ditto. 

buggirl72

pottermommy:

Comming out of hiding for a second...

 

I never believed until a few months ago.  I was at work (I worked as and ssistant GM of a planet fitness up until two months aog) a lady came in to go on a tour of the place so I took her on one. 

The whole tour she was fidgetty and nervous.  Well she did sign up but before she left she told me...

"She wasn't alone, someone came and picked her up.  She isn't mad at you or her daddy.  And she is so happy that her Grammy is with her now"

I was floored...my biggest problem, and still is, that I think drowning hs terribly painful and scary and she was all alone, she has to be so angry that I was gone and couldn't save her.  And grammy is what we called my mom, she died 4 months after my Kamryn did. 

((hugs)) Try to embrace what this lady said to you. She did not know you are your story.

To the OP:  I have thought about your thread a lot. I think there are people out there who have gifts (as Pottermommy's story shows) but there are also people who will take advantage of you. Anyone that wants you to keep giving them money - be wary of.  

LuckEinLuv

buggirl72:

pottermommy:

Comming out of hiding for a second...

 

I never believed until a few months ago.  I was at work (I worked as and ssistant GM of a planet fitness up until two months aog) a lady came in to go on a tour of the place so I took her on one. 

The whole tour she was fidgetty and nervous.  Well she did sign up but before she left she told me...

"She wasn't alone, someone came and picked her up.  She isn't mad at you or her daddy.  And she is so happy that her Grammy is with her now"

I was floored...my biggest problem, and still is, that I think drowning hs terribly painful and scary and she was all alone, she has to be so angry that I was gone and couldn't save her.  And grammy is what we called my mom, she died 4 months after my Kamryn did. 

((hugs)) Try to embrace what this lady said to you. She did not know you are your story.

To the OP:  I have thought about your thread a lot. I think there are people out there who have gifts (as Pottermommy's story shows) but there are also people who will take advantage of you. Anyone that wants you to keep giving them money - be wary of.  

 I agree completely with both paragraphs.  I know I told the board back in March when it happened, but I will repeat myself for the new ladies.  Just like Pottermommy, I was never a believer.  My due date with Andrew always fluctuated between February 28 and March 1, but I had told everyone that it was Feb 28.  Almost everyone forgot my due date and I was really down.  At 7 AM on March 1, my cell phone rang.  It was a good friend who has always said she gets "messages" but I was always skeptical.  She was speaking very quickly and she said "Andrew won't leave me alone.  He needs me to tell you that he is alright.  I am driving to work and all he keeps saying is tell my mommy I'm ok, tell my mommy I'm ok over and over.  I told him to wait because it was early, but he won't stop I'm ok, I'm ok, tell my mommy I'm ok"  I swear to you that she did not know that my due date could have been March 1, but apparently Andrew did.  I am still very skeptical, but there was no reason for her to do that unless she honestly felt him and on that day of all days.  I would really like to go to a medium, but I am scared of what she might tell me.  (We are having issues TTC and I am petrified that they will tell me that I won't have another baby)

lolee465

pottermommy:

lolee465:

Pottermommy- Wow! I'm sitting here crying at my desk, that's amazing! 

Didn't mean to make you cry.  It was crazy and I think it scared me as much as awed me.  I still think that she had to be in pain though and scared...That no one will never convince me of.

Honestly, it doesn't really take much to make me cry these days. I know nothing can ever make what happened ok, but I hope you can take a little bit of comfort in the message you got.