1 year is coming up.

jdaubs05

I don't really ever post on here, but I really need advice. My daughter will be year old in December. She was a twin, but her Brother didn't make it. He passed 22 hours after he was born from a birth defect, came to early and CHF.

My question is, What can i do to honor him on that day? do i even make him apart of her bday celebration at the party, or is that to odd? and if i should, what can I do....I have no idea what I'm doing here. I just know that on that day, i'm going to be the emotional wreck like I was the day I had the babies. Happy and sad all together. I do plan on going to his grave site, but I am there every week anyways!

Any advice would be great. Thanks

jdaubs05

mdharrison, those are all great idea's. Thanks. I will for sure look into having a candle lit during the party and possibly having it engraved too.

Bread09

I'm in the same situation as you where we lost one twin and one survived and their birthday is next week (eek!).  I'm trying to incorporate our daughter that passed in, but it's emotionally hard because I keep thinking that we should be planning the twin party I spent the first few months thinking about!

Seashells are what reminds us of her and we're having a fish themed party so we're incorporating some shells in.  I think we will do a small cake for her and sing happy birthday to both kids.  I'm also putting pictures up of both kids.

Feel free to pm...we can chat more!