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Worried about bonding

BekkersBekkers
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My DD is one week old and I am madly in love with her, obviously. But I am worried that I'm not bonding with her well. During her awake times, I always talk to her, get close to her face so she can see me, cuddle, feed, etc. When she's sleeping during the day, I'm usually holding her. But she rarely seems interested in me- doesn't look at my face much, doesn't track me when she hears me in the room. She does do these things with my husband. I feel like I'm just being over-sensitive or extra hormonal, but I don't want to miss this important time to get close to her! Is this just because she is so young or do I need to be doing more?
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Re: Worried about bonding

  • pixieprincsspixieprincss member

    This sounds perfectly normal. She is SO comfortable with you that she can just relax! The more social stuff will come with time. For now, you are "home" just like when she was inside.

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  • AKB090609AKB090609 member

    Give it time, I can honestly say that I was convinced that DD didn't like me until at 3 weeks she smiled at me. Total game changer! Up to that point she really wasn't very engaged. Since her first social smile she has been much more interested in my face rather than only my boobs.

    It gets better! 

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  • Nicole7697Nicole7697 member
    I felt the same way at first especially after having an unexpected c-section (I didn't get to bond with my son like I planned on doing with my birth plan) but he's now 11 weeks old and smiles at me ALL day!!! It's the best feeling ever! Just give it time :)
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  • BekkersBekkers
    Thank you all so much! I really needed to hear that. I'll sleep (well, you know, sort of....) better tonight now that I know that I'm not just doing this all wrong!
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  • lexmtownlexmtown
    I've felt exactly the same way. Both his grandpa and DH had gotten him to smile and play. The first time he smiled at me while I was interacting with him was when he was 4.5 weeks. It will happen!
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  • buffyverrban1buffyverrban1

    Totally normal for baby, and (More importantly) totally normal for you to feel this way!!

    I remember asking DH all the time if he thought she liked me. I was / am so in love with her, I couldn't get used to that feeling, and the hormones. Let me tell you, when they start smiling at you and cuddling back, it's so amazing. My DD is 8 months now and she lights up whenever she sees me. I am her favorite person, she always wants hugs and kisses.

     This will come for you too. Just trust that your cuddles are bonding you so much!! 

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