one of those WTF moments

Pesky

DH's extended family had a reunion 3 years ago and said then that the family would have another in four years.  That is next summer then.  We've been planning.  Everyone knew when it was going to be and where.  There was no surprise. Emails been flying around.  We've been looking at rental houses there to rent with DH's immediate family and were zeroing in (already tried to put in offers on a couple places to no avail).  

THEN cue the oldest uncle saying "oh, think we booked a cruise for that time so why don't we reschedule for the next year?"  Well, I told FIL that summer was my family's reunion and wasn't sure when it would be and wouldn't know until next year.  And they want to now have it at a time in the summer with no holidays around it which is very difficult for some of DH's cousins with little time off and little money.  Seriously, WTF?  I told DH to screw 'em and we'd just go to the nearby national park instead.  Apparently some of the other family is just as POed that this guy is such an *** about it.  And yes, there is talk of having it without him but I don't think the other 3 brothers (the ***hole is the oldest of the 4) will back that idea.

aurora1974

That seems really ridiculous to me that if the date/time/place is already set that it would get changed for one person. It sounds like there are a lot of other people that would be there and this brother would just have to move his cruise (which you could do this far ahead) or go to the next reunion.  Good luck with this.  I don't have a big family and getting everyone together at the same time never happens.  We just deal with it.

lovebug33

I would do it without the uncle. That is so seriously rude when you have been planning!

BrideBuddies

Pesky.. before you go overboard (get it??), check with that lame-o uncle again.  Does he know for sure of his dates?  Seems like he was kinda iffy on the details.  Then point out to him that HE can change his cruise date a lot easier than you can change everyone else's plans.

Or.. if worse case scenario... can you just switch the week for the reunion?  I wouldn't delay it by a year like he suggested, but maybe just slide it a week or so?  I agree this totally sux and I'd personally go ahead with the reunion without the crappy uncle... but that's just me.

And FYI-there are some fabulous rental houses up in Breck/Dillon, etc, FYI.. huge mothers that can hold LOTS of people.  Our friends got one when they got married a few years ago.. I think it slept 20 or something ridiculous like that.  VBRO.com.   I've also heard great things about Devil's Thumb Ranch.

 

shelley1002

If many are PO'd I say still have it as planned.  Whoever is upset and doesn't want to show because it was still held when that uncle wasn't around, too bad for them.  Sounds like they will miss out on a great time.

gimmietimmies

lovebug33:

I would do it without the uncle. That is so seriously rude when you have been planning!

I agree, stick with the date, he's either going to be there or not. And since he sounds like a PITA, not sounds good.

Pesky

gimmietimmies:

lovebug33:

I would do it without the uncle. That is so seriously rude when you have been planning!

I agree, stick with the date, he's either going to be there or not. And since he sounds like a PITA, not sounds good.

Yep!  We got some of the others involved in planning and we all say screw him and we're going forward with the reunion anyway.  Not like 58 other people are changing their plans because of him!!!  Stupid on his part.  He just turned 80 and these only occur every 4 years.  You'd think he'd take these family events as he can get them. 

benniferbaby

gotta love those PITA family members ...

stever

Pesky:

gimmietimmies:

lovebug33:

I would do it without the uncle. That is so seriously rude when you have been planning!

I agree, stick with the date, he's either going to be there or not. And since he sounds like a PITA, not sounds good.

Yep!  We got some of the others involved in planning and we all say screw him and we're going forward with the reunion anyway.  Not like 58 other people are changing their plans because of him!!!  Stupid on his part.  He just turned 80 and these only occur every 4 years.  You'd think he'd take these family events as he can get them. 

Great news!

gimmietimmies

stever:

Pesky:

gimmietimmies:

lovebug33:

I would do it without the uncle. That is so seriously rude when you have been planning!

I agree, stick with the date, he's either going to be there or not. And since he sounds like a PITA, not sounds good.

Yep!  We got some of the others involved in planning and we all say screw him and we're going forward with the reunion anyway.  Not like 58 other people are changing their plans because of him!!!  Stupid on his part.  He just turned 80 and these only occur every 4 years.  You'd think he'd take these family events as he can get them. 

Great news!

This is awesome! 58 people changing plans for one....does not compute!