Tonight was the first night..

Shannon526

That I did not nurse L before bedtime... and honestly, I cried.

I think the saddest part is that it was L who decided not to nurse, not me trying to wean her.

I was planning to wean come November, and I realize a few weeks earlier may not be a big deal to some.. but it caught me off guard and I realize I'm not ready for this!

Maybe it's just my hormones... who knows..

Sorry there's not point to this post other than to b!tch about weaning. Feel free to complain about whatever's on your mind, too

rous27

I wasn't able to breastfeed, so I can't relate. But I'm sorry that you are feeling sad about the beginning of the end. Sorry that i couldn't say anything to make you feel better.

Jazzym12

I'm sorry! I'm ready to wean but E is not. She is boob obsessed and it makes me cry.

My complaint for the night is that I'm going to have a 1 yr old when I wake up in the morning. I'm not ready for that and I'm sad that my baby will be officially a toddler.

LCass

Jazzym12:

I'm sorry! I'm ready to wean but E is not. She is boob obsessed and it makes me cry. My complaint for the night is that I'm going to have a 1 yr old when I wake up in the morning. I'm not ready for that and I'm sad that my baby will be officially a toddler.

I still say that they're a toddler when they're TODDLING.  So if she's walking already, you already had a toddler, and if she's not, you've got a little longer.  

Shannon, I'm sorry you missed out on that bedtime nursing session.  Just because she didn't want it tonight doesn't mean she won't tomorrow, though.  Good luck with weaning.

thetheisens

I know it's really hard when they wean before you are ready. When C started to wean it was very hard on me. Since she is close to a year, I would just let her take the lead and know that you nursed her until she was ready to wean and that is a great accomplishment! And believe me, once you completely wean, your hormones will even out and you'll be okay with it.

aliciaroset

It could just be a nursing strike! Don't just stop offering, but yes, follow your Los lead.  

And at this point, it's very much an emotional connection. I don't blame you for being sad! I would be!

 

AngLK987

DD does this to me sometimes, but up until now I've worked 1-3 nights a week and she's had to have a bottle, between that and having a late supper a couple times she hasn't been hungry, and doesn't even want to comfort-nurse, she just wants her bed. She might nurse for about 15 seconds, then she's over it, rubbing her eyes wants to be in bed right this minute... but then the next night she nurses on both sides for 10 minutes... or the next morning she makes up for it. I can definitely tell that this is getting to be the end for us, which stinks I wanted to night/morning nurse until she self weaned, shooting for over a year, but if she doesn't want to I'm not going to force it.  

CMonkey515

Aww. That stinks. I know how you feel. My DS didnt want to nurse to sleep tonight for the first time ever. I think his gums were bothering him, but I'm still nervous he will decide to wean early. I replaced one of his nursing sessions with WCM a few days ago. Now I'm worried that he won't want to nurse anymore. I wanted to keep nursing at least 1-2 times a day for as long as he wanted. It makes me irrationally sad that he may decide to wean on his own soon.

AmyH1013

Oh, I'm so sorry. I understand your sadness. I'm ready to have my boobs back, but I will miss the closeness when Sammy decides it's time.

I'm struggling with letting go in my own way right now. Tonight is the third night in a row ever that I put Sammy to bed in his real crib in his own room. He'd been in his pnp right next to my side of the bed until now. It's hard to not have him there anymore but I know it will be easier now than when he's a little older.

Shannon526

Thanks ladies for all your kind words. I was trying to explain how I felt to MH last night, but he just didn't get it. He didn't understand why I wouldn't be happy that she was weaning on her own w/out me having to do much.

I'm glad you ladies "get it" .. makes me feel like I'm normal for feeling upset that our BFing days are almost over.. so thanks again :-)

LCass

AmyH1013:

Oh, I'm so sorry. I understand your sadness. I'm ready to have my boobs back, but I will miss the closeness when Sammy decides it's time.

I'm struggling with letting go in my own way right now. Tonight is the third night in a row ever that I put Sammy to bed in his real crib in his own room. He'd been in his pnp right next to my side of the bed until now. It's hard to not have him there anymore but I know it will be easier now than when he's a little older.

I'm in a similar boat to you, AmyH.  Lily's crib was in our bedroom until her birthday.  I had never slept in a different room than her until then; the closest was when we went away with my parents and DH and I slept on the sofa sleeper in the lounge and her PNP was down the hall from us.  She's doing great in her new room, but I miss having her in with us and being able to watch her sleep for a few minutes before bed each night.  *sniffle*