WWYD?

wychets

My Mother has been at her current employer for 13yrs (Teacher for 8yrs and Director for 5yrs) come September 2013 she is opening up her own childcare center. I know she is a great fit for this, I honestly don't know why she has waited this long to do it. But anyhow would I be a horrible daughter if I don't pull DD out of her current DC and put her in my mother's center?

By that time DD would be at her current center for 18months and I LOVE them ( not to say something might happen by then) but my Mom keeps going on and on how Camille will be at her center. I know it sounds okay but am I crazy to want to keep her where she is?

mexicolombiana

You are NOT crazy to keep your daughter where she is.  No need to put your daughter in her day care center IMO.  It'll probably be less stress on your mom to NOT have her around so she doesn't feel she has to give her special attention.  You know?

wychets

mexicolombiana:

You are NOT crazy to keep your daughter where she is.  No need to put your daughter in her day care center IMO.  It'll probably be less stress on your mom to NOT have her around so she doesn't feel she has to give her special attention.  You know?

Exactly. I mean who would want to take care of their Supervisor's grandchild? I wouldn't imo. There may also be jealousy because my Mom shows extra attention to DD, and trust me I don't need that extra stress or drama. I don't think my Mom realizes this. We will talk, I wanted to get some outside opinions first:)

AZ123

No. I think you should keep your DD where she is. That would be very stressful on her to switch. Tell your mom that you want her to build her business first. Tell her that prospective parents will be turned off by knowing that her granddaughter is there (or at least I would be).

jf198400

It doesn't sound crazy.  Your mom already works as a center director, yet your child is not at that center currently, obviously there is some reason for that.  I would be clear with your mom on what your reasons are for not switching to her.  I'm sure she loves her granddaughter very much, and it is going to be very hard for her to understand. 

wychets

AZ123:

No. I think you should keep your DD where she is. That would be very stressful on her to switch. Tell your mom that you want her to build her business first. Tell her that prospective parents will be turned off by knowing that her granddaughter is there (or at least I would be).

I am using this word from word...I agree it would turn me off also!

wychets

jf198400:

It doesn't sound crazy.  Your mom already works as a center director, yet your child is not at that center currently, obviously there is some reason for that.  I would be clear with your mom on what your reasons are for not switching to her.  I'm sure she loves her granddaughter very much, and it is going to be very hard for her to understand. 

Orginally I wanted DD at her center but it's against their company policy. I am actually thankful now that they have that policy. Being a FTM I was so afriad to choose a center and thought I wanted her with my mom. I am so happy I didn't make that decision ( and for their policy)..Yes I know she will understand but it may hurt her feelings just a little.

katieh1017

No, I don't think you are crazy but I can see how your mom might feel. Or that you may feel a bit weird or guilty about it. If she is at a center and settled in, learning, thriving I don't think I would change her.

FWIW, at our DC the Asst. Director's son is in L's class and the franchise owner's child will be in their soon too. I kind of feel at times that those outside of the room (front desk) favor him. The other day pretty much all the babies (except mine) were crying when I came in to pick L up. The AD's son was one of them and he happens to have a VERY loud cry. I joked to the front desk person that they were all having a crying party in there. She said " I think Ms. xxx son is hungry". I said "It's not just him, they are all crying".

wychets

Kimbus22:

I wouldn't move my kid.  He loves his Grandma but he's used to getting all of her attention.  If all of a sudden he was sharing her with other kids all day long, he'd be confused and upset.

Very true, DD is still young but she still may be a little confused.

wychets

katieh1017:

No, I don't think you are crazy but I can see how your mom might feel. Or that you may feel a bit weird or guilty about it. If she is at a center and settled in, learning, thriving I don't think I would change her.

FWIW, at our DC the Asst. Director's son is in L's class and the franchise owner's child will be in their soon too. I kind of feel at times that those outside of the room (front desk) favor him. The other day pretty much all the babies (except mine) were crying when I came in to pick L up. The AD's son was one of them and he happens to have a VERY loud cry. I joked to the front desk person that they were all having a crying party in there. She said " I think Ms. xxx son is hungry". I said "It's not just him, they are all crying".

I wouldn't like that one bit, and I wouldn't want any other parent to feel that way.

semdkm

I agree that it's likely best to keep your child where she is, assuming she's happy and thriving there, and I'm sure your Mom would agree once you provide your reason (that you know her Mom's center would provide fabulous care, but you're concerned about the adjustment for your daughter, that her time with your mom should be special non-work related time, etc.)  Good luck!

1026pumpkin

Ditto the PPs who mentioned that a lot of parents would feel it's a conflict of interest.  Our center does allow the children of staff to attend, but they can't be in the same room their parents work in.  I would tell your mom that you don't want to turn off potential parents who might think your DD is being favored and allow her to grow her business.